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Episode 88 · 2 years ago

The Parrsitivity Podcast #Episode 14 with Alanna martella

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Alanna Martella is a Traffic news Anchor, yoga teacher, board of director member for the make a wish Foundation, YouTuber, multi Emmy winning journalist, key note speaker!. Alanna is an inspiring & positive human being, with a truly moving story about her life/death experience. Check out her content here Instagram :@Alannamartella linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/alannamartella. Email: alanna.martella@gmail.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the-parrsitivity-podcast/message

Hide and welcome to the positivity podcast. On today's episode I with me a Lana Martella. She's a board of Director member for the make wish foundation, a traffic morning news anchor, Ken, you know, Speaker, Yoga teacher and inspiration leader. So sit back, relax and enjoy this episode. Hey, they are, Lana, right, can you hear me? Yeah, again, how are you? Awesome. Yeah, well, good sire. You okay. Can you hear me? Yeah, I can hear you. Fine. Yeah, perfect. Yes, want to say I really really appreciate you coming on the podcast. I'm very grateful for your time and you really means a lot and thank you so much. I'm like honor you asked me to be on it. Yeah, yeah, written now. You welcome, but I mean, yeah, really thankful. You know, you connect on me and responding to messages. You know, it's get this done. Really appreciate it. Yeah. Well, I see what you're doing out there, like you're putting in the work. So absolutely, I'll give you time to you know, I want to help support you anyway you can, because you're clearly like have a goal in mind and you're working to make it happen. So, yeah, anybody who does that count me in? Yeah, no, FUNC, Youre really greatful, but I just spot like, do you mind like kind of you know, talking about like your story, kind of Blah walk, you know, in your life and kind of where you are now and you know what happened? Yeah, so right now I am so I live in the United States in the Midwest and Cincinnati, Ohio. So it's for anybody out in the UK or anywhere other than the US who isn't familiar with the states and the cities, it's a larger city, not Chicago size or New York or la size by any means, but it's pretty big. And I'm a news person here in the mornings, so I wake up at two am and head to work and, you know, do the morning news and but I had always grown up wanting to be a journalist. So I followed my dreams made my dream happen, but along the way, obviously there have been some road bumps. So my senior year, well, first of all, I would I became obsessed with running in high school and running and body image and I would always, every time I would run, I would have to do better than the day before, like I would have to go longer, I would have to have a shorter time and it became this weird obsession, like I would write it down in my notebook, like and then every morning i would weigh myself, like if I were point too above what I thought I would be, are, like what I wanted to be, I would get upset and I was very restrictive, and I guess it was it's stemming from it stemmed from growing up. I was kind of a larger like I was chunky and grade school and then I'd growth spurt which I lost a bunch of weight and, you know, started to get the female curves and whatnot, and people started to notice me and I wanted to keep that going. So I like I would run like crazy to keep it going, but would also get very restrictive with my diet and a lot of body dysmorphia involved, like I saw myself as bigger than what I truly was, like my hair was thinning out, like I would. I grew like a lot of extra hair on my arms. It was just a very like hard time, like dark time in my life and I knew that changes had to be made, but I didn't know how to make those changes and and I don't know if, like, I knew they had to happen, but I guess deep down I didn't want them to happen just because I was afraid that people would quit saying like in my head I looked good, but but people thought I looked bad. But I'd become so withdrawn that I was not talking with others. So I didn't know that others felt this way. Like my mom, of course, was obviously very worried for me and family members, but I just thought they were not used to how I look now compared to what I used to had looked like. And so one of the days, it was a normal day. I'm September eight, and I woke up and I was so obsessed with running that I would wake up at four am and run before school. So I'd wake up, I woke up at four am, did my crazy girl run and then I went to school like like a...

...normal teenager and senior in high school. I was a senior in high school in this happened, and and I went to visit my grandma after school at her nursing home, and once I got to the nursing home, I felt this the worst pain I've ever felt. My Life, like it felt like my insides were on fire, like I was so sweaty, like it I couldn't even sit up straight. I became super lethargic and had to be in a fetal position. And even, like the nurses at my grandma's nursing home, they gave me like stomach medicines, which probably probably isn't legal to do or really, since I wasn't like a prettient, but they gave me like stomach meds to use my stomach because it hurts so bad and and yeah, that didn't help. So my dad was like, all right, well, maybe maybe we're hungry. So so I went. We went to Panera bread, which in the US. I don't know if you have paneras over there in the UK, but now it's like a Deli, like a Deli place. It's a chain restaurant here, and so we went there and I was like, you know what, maybe I have to go to the bathroom. So I went to the bathroom and all and I guess I was taking a long time. So my dad actually wanted to the women's restroom and found me passed out on the floor and he called an ambulance and an ambulance came and they said, you know, you can either take her to the ear yourself or you can have her come in the ambulance and it'll be a hefty bill. So my dad drove me to the ER and once I got there, yeah, it is it like. Once I got there, I told you a brief background, but I didn't tell you this part. So basically, they said, they said, quote, there's no room in the INN and without taking any testing anything, they sent me home. So they thought I was just a dramatic teenager and sent me home. And Yeah, yeah, so another eight or so hours went by that I was in this pain and I remember looking out of my bedroom window at the moon just thinking, man, I just want to die right now, like please let me die, because it was in such a pain that I wouldn't even want to put on you like some of the world's worst leaders. Yeah, like even likes of the tyrants that have been out there, like people passed people. You know, I wouldn't even want them to experience it, because it is a like absolute hell what I went through. And I guess I passed out again and my dad found me and my pulse was one hundred and sixty seven. So he called another ambulance and they rushed me to the emergency room and my parents are divorced, so my mom, I guess my dad had called my mom and told her of the situation and she had she was there when I got there. So I was like, Oh mom, this is weird and and I asked her if she would take me to the bathroom, and so she took me into the bathroom and she said, I don't really I don't really remember this part, like I just I remember going into the bathroom with her, but she said all of a sudden I started thrashing about and then just went lint and a nurse right at that moment came in because I was she had to basically carry me into the bathroom. So we couldn't even lock the door. But a nurse just walked into like here's your and Sample Cup, and my mom was holding me and I was just limp in her arms and my mom was like I think she's dead, and the nurse just looked at us and called a double code and so all of these doctors and medical personnel rushed tear put me on a stretcher, took me back and revived me, but it had turned out that my so I actually I actually died, and it turned out that my intestines were twisting around each other the whole time. So it had cut circulation off so bad that it created sepsis in my Asimin. And Yeah, so I had to have the emergency surgery and when the doctors went in, my intestines were so badly damage that they crumbled in their hands and it was kind of iffy if like the remaining intestines would even survive. So they left my stomach open for the next twenty four hours to see if it would heal, so they could just take a peek in and see if they were healing in order to close me back up. But it thankfully, they were starting to get signs of healing and they were able to close me up. But they also gave me an awest to me bag. I don't. Do you know what an Austo Me Bagus? Yeah, yeah, for those who don't know what it is, it is when the tip of your intestine sticks out of your stomach and into a bag instead of like and that's how you relieve yourself instead of going the traditional way out of your behind.

It, shall I say, and that thing was horrible. I actually asked the doctors, like half jokingly, but again like half serious honestly, because I was like, can you just put me into a coma until I get this Aweso me bag off, because it was just so gross seeing like the tip of your intestine sticking out of your stomach and that bag would break as like you're walking around and everything would spill all over me and very it was so humbling to have my senior year of high school, that's for sure. But once they once all along with this, I also couldn't eat or drink anything for about four months or so because my intestines were so damaged. So they had to put a medical port into my chest so I got all of my nutrition via I v, and that made me go into liver failure. She's but there's very interesting because there are these pills. I forget what it was, what it was called, the exact name of the medication, but there are these this medication they put me on and it helped rejuvenate my liver and that it was made out of polar bear bile. Jesus, that interesting, like polar polar bear bile helps to revive the human lover. So I thought that was pretty interesting and it's very kind of it's kind of fascinating. What all you learn when you're going through some sort of medical ordeal? You learn the terminology or learn all these interesting facts about the body. But yeah, so they told me that I would never be able to have my like my stomach normal again. They said I would have an as to me bag for the rest of my life and my mom and I we were not having that. We were I was like, no way, Jose, I'm going to do whatever it takes to get this thing off of me. So, shoot, this might sound kind of nuts, but she were very spiritual people and she would get this pendulum every night and she would hang dangle this pendulum over my stomach and my hospital room and she would just meditate and like swing this pendulum over my stomach and I would just visualize that all of the Cilia, which is the part that needed to grow back inside my intestines, are like little follicles inside your intestines that help with absorption. I would just visualize them all growing back and my intestines turning pink instead of the red and that they were and everything healing and I would visualize myself in a bikini without the bag and, you know, being active and not having to worry about emptying the bag and being able to go to the bathroom like a normal person. And we would just visualize this as if it would all like, as if it already happened. And and eventually, so I was. I was scheduled to have a colonoscopy just to kind of see how healing and everything was looking, and when they went in they were like, you notice that you're Silia grew back, so we are able to take this as to me bag down. So I am so ever since then I'm a big proponent of believing in the law of attraction and visible visualization, like you can man of best anything that you really truly believe and put your mind to, and this experience showed me that. But I think most of all, though, through the entire ordeal, it kind of put me into a perspective I recognized like, ironically, it took me dying to learn how to live, because I was living in that box of a life with all of the running and the food, and I would skip family vacations because I wouldn't be able to run on them. And one thing that really happens when you die is your life does flash before your eyes and you think of the could have and the should haves and the things that you wish you would have done and that that you haven't had a chance to do. Like I thought of how I never would, I've never gone skydiving. I thought of how I would never get married, and all of these different things just flow through your mind. And at that moment when all of those could have and should haves were going through my mind, I made a vow to myself that I would never live in such a smallminded life of repetition and mediocrity that I'd put myself through and that I would learn to experience every moment and live life to the fullest. So yeah, it's pretty really like you know, you know, one of the most a sparring come out fans toys. You know. You know you've done amazing to get through the you know it must go for something. That dot, you...

...know, change your perspective on life and give you all that, you know, resilience and determination and drive to you. It's do while in life, and absolutely so. Like a lot of that has contributed to moving forward with my life like I'd always grown up wanted to be a journalist and I made in my dream come true. Like the way I look at it, as as this is my little girl dream. So I went to college for Broadcast Journalism. I did the news at my college, I interned at my local news station. I'm actually from Cincinnati and I live in Cincinnati now, which is one of the items that's on my bucket list to do the news in my hometown. So check that one off there. And but yeah, so I started I did did small town news in Rochester, Minnesota for two years and then I was in Indianapolis and now I'm back in my hometown. And you know, in college I got an internship at CNN and I just would strive to make all my dreams happen. But I think a lot of what people need to recognize is that sometimes our dreams change and I've been kind of going in like I love the news, I love doing the news and but I've kind of been on the side doing the public speaking thing. I've been writing a book on the side. I've been I'm about to launch a youtube channel and I think it's okay to say that if any time that you feel like you have another calling that's that's brought forth in your life. It's okay to chase those it's not weird to start a new dream while you're still achieving your old one. So I think that's that's something that that the whole experience taught me, because if I want to do something, I'm going to make it happen, because I know that, you know, I could die tomorrow and if I were to be on my deathbed and, you know, not have gotten the message out that I want to share with others, to others, if I wouldn't have would not have get that message out, I would be so disappointed in myself. So just if you want to do something, do it, make it happen and stop and nothing until it does. Yeah, no, that's actly I mean. Like with what you said, we've you know what you know, it's this more than one thing to do. Well, you know, chasing a dream. There over areas of your life thought, you know, you can chase and move towards. Absolutely I think laws people were like we like to we're not. We're not designed to stay in a box and not do anything with just stupid, designed to evolve into grow, do new things and to overcome that. Yeah, for sure, so, I think. I mean, I have you. Have you ever? Are you familiar with the book mindset by Carold Weck? I've never heard of that book. I've heard of Oh my gosh, you should read it. He's it? WHO's it? Boy? It's by a carold Weick and I read it and it's and it talks about the different mindsets and there are fixed mindsets and there are growth mindsets and she talks about how some people are just naturally born with a born with talents, born with intelligence, but it's the people with the growth mindset that put in the extra work, that are striving to continuously improve, that are willing to start from the bottom again after reaching the top and something else, to continuously grow and learn more, to expand their their you know, what they can do in the world. And I and that book is very good for anybody who wants it, any inspiration and learning it like you hear about businesses, like some like different businesses, of the CEOS and of growth mindset versus fixed mindset, and it's a really good book and I and it changed my life actually, aside from my death experience, but because every now and then, you know, despite having been through trauma like, and this can apply to anyone, a trauma that has changed you, every every now and then you revert, you forget, and so I like to read these types of books often to kind of remind me how far I have come and how much further I can go. Yeah, notice and this like it's reflecting, isn't it? And seen how far you've...

...come, yeah, where you once were, and I think that's why I, like you know, self, reflections important and, you know, being able to use that as like momentum, you know, to drive you forward. It's lucky if you're going through a sort of time or you're you know, you're in the gym and you working out and it's hard, right, you know, you're flat back, don't you? You know, it's a good wave channeling your energy to, you know, motivate yourself. M absolutely. Yeah, so I think that just continuous growth and continuous improvement. There's no such thing as a type of the mountain, like, once you reach the top, you can keep going, and I'm not saying that I'm at the top by any means. Like I'm like, like, if there's a mountain I'm like like in the middle, like near the butt, like bottom middle, I guess. But like just when you make your little goals for yourself, like once you achieve them, I think a lot of people just stay there. They said, Oh, okay, I've reached the school and now checked it off. I'm done, I made it. But I think, and that's what a lot of society does, I think and I think people need to recognize that you can continuously create new goals to achieve for yourself and celebrate those small victories at every time that you that you improved the next level. Yeah, no, exactly, and it gives you that kind of sense of fulfillment, isn't it? It does pride when you you know, you kind of reach a level, when you took it off and you see the growth that you've accumulated over that time. And I think, like in school and education, it's not really something that all the things we know. We talked about the not preach in school, they're not taught people, I mean especially you know in the UK. You know the education system. You know not probably the similar and the states, but like it's a big system that you go through and it's like you know, you go to Colledge, you go to school, get a job, got a university, retire, and that's kind of, you know, like fixates in people's minds and they're trying to conform, you know, alongside that with what their friends are doing and what their parents have to do. And we're social media, I think as well. There's a lot of pressure, you know, especially younger people this generation, to figure out what it is I'm the one to do and not what you said. There's no completion like you know, you might get so far up in a job or in a career and you know, reach that point where you think all this is it, but then it's not just the over avenues that you can go into. Absolutely and and I think like, as you mentioned, like it's not taught in school, it's not tought in over here either. I don't think anything other than obviously the skills that I learned and broadcast. I don't think any of the courses that I took it in college a correlate to life at all. I think it and it makes me wonder, you know, how colleges and universities are teaching these days, because I think times have changed a lot since I've gotten to college. So I think there needs to be more courses, you know, on like building your mind and and expansion in life versus just, you know, the Standard Calculus type classes that you're really not going to buy the life, unless you are like some sort of physicist, unless you have a job like that, you're not going to need the other stuff. Yeah, exactly. I mean there is a lot that needs to be taught. And so, you know, if the things that you learn, I think is an adult, you know growing up. You think to yourself, Christ, if I learned this at school, you know, be completely different. Because I read a book, and if you've read it, called a thinking grow rich. Oh No, that's actually the next book I'm going to read. Wow, it's some really, really good book. It's by Napoleon Hilm. I read it a few years ago. I need to read it again actually, and that was printed in the S and in the book it says that this book should be given to kids in education. It says that in the book. But it should be given as like a like a life manual to people in education to kind of add them for life, but not as a great book,...

Really Really Good Book. And there's a few of us like the science of getting rich. Right, yeah, a lot. M So I actually that Chris, my boyfriend, he actually just gave me that book to read next. He's like, you know, this is a book I read. I think it would really like it, and so it's the next one on my list. It's so funny that you say that. Yes, really good, and there's so many good books out there and I think, you know, readings imports and like my my girlfriend's pushing me to, you know, to read more friends and lot I've got. I've got loads of books. I can get distracted sometimes. I was no playing the game or watching TV and then I'm like, you know, I should really be reading right. Yeah, I think I think everybody has that issue, though, especially kind of what we're dealing with now with the year virus that's going around. How are you doing with this? By the way, me and my situation, it's I mean where I live the minute is in, like I told you, that place a little coastal part of the UK called CORML. Yeah, so down here it's very quiet anyway. So it's even more quiet and now few the local shops of closed down the road that the Delhi. They're just doing a home deliveries or collection, though willing allowed to go from allowed one form of exercise a day. Oh Wow, your men's a social distance since, you know, stunned the way from people, we can't go to a friends or Famili really over relatives and of our houses. Yeah, it's pleased. Yeah, that's that's kind of how it is over here as well. But I think you know, even though this is such a awful and sad situation for anybody that you know contracts this disease and all of those people and everything's shut down, it's obviously going to do a number on the economy, I think for those of us that are confined in our homes and are able to still learn and grow, we can use this time to maybe to do that thing that we've always wanted to do that we haven't had the time to do, you know what I mean? Like we can use it to maybe, like, if you want us, this is a great time. If anybody wants to start a podcast, to start their podcast or yeah, or anything like that. I think we can use this. We can feed our minds with books, start a new hobby, do our at home workouts, since we can't to go to the gym. You know, I think this is a time that we can all learn to grow and in the end we will end up stronger. But the key is just to focus on the positive, I think, with all of it, even though there is a lot of negative aspects of it, just focus on the positives and how you can improve yourself, because it life is so fast moving. It's very rare that we actually have this amount of downtime that we are getting right now. So, if you want to flip it around, you can say, wow, this is the downtime I've always wished that I could have, even though it's an awful situation. Yeah, not. I completely agree, and I was talking to someone else about it earlier and we were saying that, you know, like now is the time you had that, you know, gives you more time to do the things, like you said, the things that you might want to do, like podcast setting, setting up your business, reading, working out, you know, and I'm channeling you know, you energy into areas of put up productivity and, you know, trying not to look at the news too much and being very careful how much news you look at. And Yeah, the what mean? You Work and, Oh my God, yeah, it's crazy, the stuff that we that I have to see every day. So yeah, and and like on social media. I mean a lot of the information are there isn't factual. A lot of the meat, you know, the media out there and the news is folks and you know, you got to be careful what you listen to, because in this could in this country, we had a young girl who saddly passed the way and she was twenty one. Oh my gosh, I'm apparently I don't know if this is true or not, but a pouently she didn't have any health issue, health conditions on the wine. Health can only but then again, it's...

...had no known so you have to be careful what you look at. And you know, because there were, there are people who are much older, you know, who are recovering from it. My my cousin, my cousin actually has it. Oh my gosh, is he or she okay? He's okay, I think. Yeah, he got it working in London and I messaged them on facebook see if he was still alive and and well, you yeah, and he said that you can't see, can't taste anything, that we can't smell anything. So yeah, my mom actually texted me yesterday and they they live like thirty minutes away from us here, but my Stepdad, he was in Florida because that's where my grandma lives, and we think he has it now because he's coughing, he has a fever, he's he can hardly breathe, and so now we're kind of debating what to do, like does he need to go into the hospital and be seen because we're short on tests over here with it? Yeah, which is and actually, you know, with my with my situation with my intestines, m I didn't really like say anything on social media about this, but about a week ago I had a little mini bowl issue, because I still get little issues every now and then, like it's not it's not like a one and doesn't thing like that. I that I'm done, like it's going to be something I deal with forever, and I ended up in the emergency room and Chris took me and he wasn't even allowed to stay, he had to drop me off. So it was a Sunday night and I was in there by myself for about six hours, wearing a face mask, and there were people with it there and just hearing like the pain that they were going through in the agony and how they couldn't breathe. It was very scary. MMM MMM, yeah, you know, it does. It does make you very appreciative, like you know, when you think of it. I'm very grateful for, you know, my situation, situation in my love of health and my family and, you know, because I'm okay, my family okay. You know, I'm very I wake up each down. I'm so grateful, you know, and it's you know, I my hog. There's all that, people who've got it and people working on the front lawn trying to combats it. You know, absolutely. My cousin, one of my cousins, he's using e works hospital and he's been helping people, you know, for in the end in the NHS. Yeah, so he's been doing a twelve hours shifts and stuff like that to keep alive, and thank you for him. That's that's your hard work that he's putting in. With all of this. It's not easy to see that stuff. No, I mean that the prime minister's got it all, dad. Yeah, yeah, and so does so does Prince Carl's right. Yeah, I'm not laughing. I don't know's just like I just I found it funny because he was saying, you know, trying to say you know what your hands, keep away from people, and I'm like, you've ended up again it. You've been trying to tell people not to do all these things and you've end up catching it. Yes, just mom and nobody is safe from it, that's for sure. Yeah, I mean Tom Hens got it. Didn't see as well, HMM, he did. But the crazy thing is about, you know in the UK with it at the minute, is that the UK were I don't know, I think there was a bit delayed with we should have closed over in ten days ago. And the thing is with the mayor. The mayor of London has closed lots of train networks and how many trains are being used we shut down that? A lot of people have no choice in London but to use the underground right, and the all the these people that's being packed onto these troops on the train. You know, even though the telling you to stay away from people and all the rest of it, these these troubes are packed full of people. Yeah, a lot of trouble links to get to where the needs to go. But you know, a lot with what's going on. I think you know it will blow over it. We will get through this. I'm a think. You know, like you said, we need to use this time wisely, because you know when you when are we going to get up down Tom Again? Exactly? And like, I think for those that are blessed enough to even though it stinks to be cooped up in your home, like you, need to put that perspective on, like it could be a lot worse. You could be having this virus and be in the hospital right now. So it's the time to, you know, get in gear, get what you want done, to make it happen. Use It as your leverage and,...

...like that fire, to determine, like that fire and achieve that your goals that you want to achieve. And even and, like people who might be so also on, I'm also a registered yoga teacher. Yeah, so, yes, so I have found that something to really help keep the body and mind in mine is to, you know, obviously do your do your yoga practice at home, like I feel. I think a lot of the studios that, since all of them are closed, they're doing live streams over instagram, so you can still get your practice in. But something that really is valuable as meditation and just taking that time out and centering yourself and grounding yourself every morning or if you're if you if you want to do it more than once a day, you can do it in the morning, afternoon and evening, because it really does help to ease that anxiety and that uncertainty that we are feeling, and just because a lot of things, one of the things, only things really that we can control is our breath, and meditation and breath control really helps with, you know, easing your mind and lowers your heart rate and just gets you a kind of gets you in that Zen mode, and I think that's key. And for those who maybe aren't familiar with meditation, and I've never practiced it before, there's no better time than now to do it. And of course it feels silly when you first start, like if you've never meditated before and you sit down and you're like, okay, this is a little weird hear, but like it's it feels very weird for sure, like I know when I was first introduced to it, I was like, okay, this is like are people watching me? Like are they thinking? I'm like, you know, but headspace is a really good APP to have. That helps you kind of ease into it, and then another good one is in sight timer. Those are some good apps to use through this time if you really need to find something to ease that anxiety that you're feeling through this. Yeah, and I'm also, do you have do you know? Are you familiar with mantras? Yeah, laugh formations and yeah, yeah, I think that's also a big one. So you you know, you wake up and you think of something that like I am enough for today is going to be great, but likes just say something like I like. This is going to sound really weird, but every day when I wake up, and poor Chris, because I wake up at two am for work, I say it out loud ago I know it's I'm like the and this is exactly how I say it, like Great Day, Great Day, it is going to be a great day, and like I say it like that and jump out of bed at two I am and like by saying it out loud and, you know, affirming it to the universe, it really sets the tone for the day. So, whether you're still working through this time or you're just or you're at home and your self quarantining and social distancing, saying a mantra is key I think to and one of my favorite ones is you are worthy of the life you want. Well, I am worthy. I am worthy of the life I want. But, like I say that over and over again on and off my mat, especially during yoga practice, and that's a big one, I've found. But I don't know. I just think meditation and staying positive and just your breath control and mantras. It really helps in these times of uncertainty when we find ourselves like what's next and not knowing. It helps you to kind of get back into the present and not worry so much about what's going to happen. Or what is it known that's going to happen? Yeah, no, exactly. I think like of what you're saying about in a meditation and affirming yourself. It's like, you know, like if you what you think and the as soon as you wake up, like those fools, you think yeah, and your mind it's like if, I mean if you're thinking a positive fault, that will then have a positive effect on how you feel for out the day. Absolutely like if you if you wake up and Stub your toe and you're like, Oh man, I hit my toe and your this is going to be an awful day and you keep like like you're going to pile on things, you're going to spill your coffee all over you, you're going to, you know, be late for work. You're like they will all just the way you set those fur that those first few steps on the ground, out of the bed, that is going to determine your day. So you know, when you wake up, make that choice in an instant and that'll that'll set you up for how your day is going to be. HMM, it's definitely just flipping...

...that, switching up a spective, isn't it? And that narrative in your head. I think we're we're altimately, you know, kind of like why it is human beings to be negative. I think it's a lot harder to be positive, but you know, like it's more beneficial if you are positive and you feel the difference in the day, you feel yourself. And I've worked in jobs that I, you know, didn't enjoy and I remember like if I I felt negative, I was thinking negative, it would just a knock on effect and you know, you you would have want to socialize a people. You might, you know, you miss opportunities, certain doors close if you're not on the right mindset or emotional state. Yeah, and and actually I read somewhere. I forgive me because I don't remember where exactly it was that I read it, but it's stuck with me. Negative thoughts are ten times more powerful than positive thoughts. So if you automatically start thinking in a negative manner, you're already, you know, setting yourself up for ten times worse than what it would be if you thought it would of just a positive thought. And then if you happen to say it out loud, that makes it seven times and more powerful. So it it's, you know, it's a ripple effect. So I think it's you know, don't say first of all, like when you say things out loud, it makes it even more powerful. So if you're going to think something negative, of at least don't say it out loud, because I'll save you some of those notches there. But yeah, but yeah, the key is just, you know, negative that's always outweigh what you think in the positive. So try to avoid that as much as you can because it'll just sit in your head and just, you know, make for an awful day as well. I heard it like a poem and it's your mind is a God and your force to seats. You can grow flowers or you can grow wead to something like that. Oh, that's a good one. That's a good yeah, when you think of it, it's right, isn't it? Like and what you said, you know, it's energy as well, like you're your force. You know, we all energy, opens energy, and if you know you're lying yourself in a in a positive vibration you, then you know you connect with positive people. When you know it's yeah, it's more and more beneficial for you, you know, as a person. Yeah, and and that your thoughts become things. So if you're thinking, you know, I'm going to have a bad day, your day is going to be bad. If you're thinking, you know, I hate my job, you're going to go into work and you're going to be a miserable day. But if you wake up and you're like, Oh, today it's going to be a great day, that's how your day is going to be. And just you know, it's even if you might be going into a situation wation that you not you don't necessarily want to be doing, at least putting a little shedding some light on it and thinking of the positive side of you know, even if it's something you might not be doing. Oh, maybe it's more experience or maybe I'll learn something or maybe I'll get a connection with someone at this experience that I wouldn't have been able to get if I didn't do it. Just looking at the positives that come out of it, you know, it's really key. Hmm, what would you say? It's a good way for people. It's going to unlike, you know, Cope that mental health for the minute, and physical health say lot. You know, work outs at home? Yeah, I definitely so. I man work outs at home. I you know, at first I was kind of iffy about them because I I love to go to the gym, I love to go to my hot eoga studio, but I kind of looked at it as a way that I can kind of create my own workouts and do it on my own time and do what I want to do, even though there's no equipment. I ordered some kettle bells, on and on, but they still haven't come in yet because everything's back or but but yeah, actually, you know, I've been creating my own workouts and mostly body resistant ones. I'm really big on building the booty at the moment. So a lot of squats sue most who you know and for people who might be wanting to create their own, you know, home workouts, even though it might be different than what you're used to at the gym, and you're thinking, all this is a this will be a nice little break from being able to exercise. I can use this and just relax and, you know, give my body a rest. I think now more than ever is the time that you should be working out, because it releases those endorphins and makes you feel happy and you know, and this time when a lot of people are feeling lonely and down, especially with the social distancing and you...

...can't be around too many people, I think it really helps to keep your body and mind in a line, to be able to move and go outside and get some fresh air. Yesterday we rollerbladed and bite ten miles and pass you know, it started brain to that was pretty funny. But yeah, so it would have actually been five, but there this is a pretty story. They would have been like five ish, but we went most of the way and then realize that there was this flooded area and you can get around it. So we had to go all the way back around like the other way that we had already gotten so we got into the double work out. So look at US fitness freaks, but it kind of fun. Yeah, so, you know, and and and you know, doing the meditation, body and mind alignment is so key and I actually have a good book for that for anybody who might feel out of a line, the for agreements. Have you ever read yeah, yeah, so good. I I I was about first heel twenty pages into it and then I find up losing it. I took it to my mums and it's just disappeared. It's so good. So the for agreements by Don Miguel ruise threw. It's either US or ruise. It's Mexican ISMs is yeah, so my guess is ruise. But but yeah, it's an amazing book and every time that I feel as if I'm getting a little out of aligned with myself, I will read it. It's such a quick read. You can read it in two hours, yes, because it's yeah, it's pretty short for sure, and I and like you can read it in an hour and a half, two hours. And it just talks about the for like the for agreements that you need to make with yourself and with others, and that's all you really need in your life. It's such a good book. I Like I can't even stress how much like. It just kind of puts you back into alignment. Like I think the for agreements. Be Impeccable. With your word is one. The word, your word, is the power that you have to create. Don't take anything personally. That's another one. So basically, like it. Like it, which is that is saying if someone were to say something rude to you, don't take it personally. It's just a reflection of the person who's saying it. It has nothing to do with who you are. Like you're not responsible for the words and action of others, just only yourself, which kind of ties back into the first one. Don't make assumptions. That's another one. And then always do your best. So if you do those for make those four agreements with yourself and you're going to live a whole life. And Yeah, II, every time I feel out of a line with my mind and body, I just give it a quick read and I feel back on track again, because everybody goes through a little funks. So yeah, nice, it really is really nice book. And you know to that lot you tell this full pit is in place, you know, and yourself and too, you know, to realign yourself with yeah, you know, it's so it's so important. And I'll think, you know, like with how we always people and how we think, like we're not always conscious, I think, of what we're doing and what we're saying or actions and you know, our fools and you know, by kind of, like you said, realigning you so from being solfaware. Yeah, I think this way changes can be made and nothing you know us what people can can do now with this time. But I think as a society and with social media and technology and destructions and things happening around us, people on used to doing these things that we're talking about right and and they aren't. And you know, I think that a lot of what we're seeing on the news, and because we all have the all this extra time to be watching the news and scouring through social media and seeing all these, you know, horror stories, gloom and doom, and I think it you know, meditate, meditate, rate when you wake up, do it before you go to bed and, you know, do something every so I think I think it's really key every day to meditate, for your mind to move, your body in some way, shape or form,...

...whether it just be a nice little brisk walk outside or if it's a hardcore workout, it doesn't matter. Just get some sort of movement in. And then I think, you know, reading, at least ten to twenty minutes, should also be incorporated into your day. And you know, if you're someone who doesn't like to read, you sell all books. Are those types of books, like like ideally a self help book. But I mean, if you would rather read true cry I do like true crime too, but if you would rather read, just just just give yourself your brain some knowledge to read. But yeah, and then, you know, listen to some sort of like uplifting podcast or classical music or something, just to kind of just get yourself in a line. And I think those are keys that everybody should do every day. And then maybe make do a gratitude journal, like when you wake up, the three things you're grateful for today, and and that's bit. That's a big one for me, than the gratitude every day. Wake up and think, what are three things that I'm grateful for today, and you write them down and it'll kind of help you put into perspective. You know, to be in that gratefulness mindset instead of the scarcity mindset. It's looking at what you have, isn't it? Looking not looking at what you don't know? And I think yes, easy to do, though, you know, and just to change up perspective. Actually, you know something, you know, people always chasing some from you know, we're always chasing the next thing necessary looking at what we do have exactly, and it's kind of an it kind of ties into the whole. You know, enjoy the journey, not just what your final dost nation will be like. Enjoy the work that you put in in order to achieve, you know, that goal that you want to achieve. Because if you're if you're not enjoying the process to it, if you're just looking at that goal, at that end game, that's where you're going to end. But if you're enjoying the journey, once you reach that goal, you can continue enjoying the journey and build forward with that. I think that's one of my best be one of my lessons, I think recently. You enjoying the process. Yeah, I kind of like to hit the ground running with things right. Why? I found noticed that in jobs sometimes of still a new job or I do something I thought I hated learning to drive. I hate drive because I didn't like feeling not confident right like to confident doing stuff. And you know, you've got to go through those motions, haven't you? And you at the end of it, you know, you gain confidence by going through those motions, by looking at how far you've come. So it's all connected. It's all part of it exactly. But you know, like we get, you know, with society and the Internet, I think, and have some people have brought up, you know, this instant glassification. People want things straight away. They want to you can click a video on youtube and a play straight awhere. You can aller something on the Internet. It comes to your house the next day. Maybe not now. Oh Yeah, my kettle bells are for sure not here yet. That's that's for sure. They could have been here a week and a half ago. But yeah, but it's important, isn't it? So you know, like what's talk about? Yeah, and you know, it kind of goes back to that saying that nothing good comes instantly, like you got to put in the work to make it happen. And and when you're loving what you're doing, you never really work a day in your life. So you're really not working, you're just enjoying, you're just creating, you're helping to build something that you want to share with others. Yeah, that's it. I as I was watching one of grand called down, Grand Card down. Yes, I love grant. Yeah, I watch a lot of his stuff and now he's he's pretty motivational, but you know how full he's gone in all what he's doing? Well, yeah, I think I saw one of his videos and he was like, he said he made his first million and he was like when he first made his first million, he was like, you know, if I want to make money on need to be a BILLIONA. And he said, he said, you make your first Minion, you saw hiring people to look after your money and consultants and all the rest of it. He said, before you know it, that millions gone. Right, what you know, funny, took great.

I need to be doing x, Y Z. But yeah, his he's them pretty well. When Law of the people out there as well, he's one of my favorites. that the t X. have you read the ten x rule? That's what that's a really good book as well. I'm such okay, I'm such a Bognerd I've realized I've said so many book names, but ten x rule by grant. That's really good. He's such an inspire inspiring person, like in his that conference that he put on in February. Like, like man, next year I need to go to this conference, because that was amazing, like by the looks of what he posted about it on social media. HMM, it just looked incredible and so inspirational and and ironically, right now we're supposed to be at unify Las Vegas, which was supposed to be yesterday and today, and it's Gary V's conference, which was canceled because of this coronavirus stuff. So I guess it not. I shouldn't say canceled, because it's postponed. But yeah, and I think, you know, that's another thing people can do, go to these conferences to, you know, get some inspiration and, you know, hear from those people that inspire us and help us grow in life and and in knowledge. And you know, you can even go meet some like minded individuals at these events as well and make friends, and you can. I think that's very important to do those types of things. HMM. It's be with a lot your law mind to tribe and people listen it. Yeah, wheve learn Phnom. You meet some of these people sometimes in this law you've called it, you feel like you've known them, that you know your whole life. Yeah, and it's and it's crazy to think that, you know, there's only a small subset of humanity that are interested in this type of stuff. And like some people when you're talking about like when we were telling people about the conference unify Vegas, they're like what, why would you want to go to that? And we're like really, why wouldn't you want to go to that and help and prove and learn and network with others who try to think positively and motivate you. You know, it's kind of interesting to think like, even though it seems like a lot of people are so interested in this self improvement and self development, really it's just not many people are at all. Actually. Yeah, no, I completely agree, and I think a lot of people kind of they like their routine and they just kind of get into that kind of Lt. I mean, if you're someone's hotty that you know what they they're in them, then fair enough, but some people just they kind of don't think outside the box. If they make sense? Yeah, I think for me it's just kind of like if I want to do something, I'm going to. You know, I kind of get I get bored easily. So I'm like, Oh, I think I'll do this, so I'll go do that. You know, we can just do something else, like learn something new, learn a new hobby. Like put the Yoga teacher training. I loved Yoga so much, like I it was my saving grace, and then I was like, you know, why don't I just become a yoga teacher? So I just went and did yoga teacher reading. I need to do I've never tried. You Go, I need to try out the law taste. You should definitely do the yoga thing. It's amazing. It is not only the body but also the mind helps it. Yeah, I definitely have to check it out. But like after go on Youtube with some further and start doing yoga and living room or something. Yes, Yoga with a Drean, do that. That's a good way, good, good starting point. But like I saw that you you work with make a wish. Oh, yes, yes, so amazing, really nice. Yeah, I so. With my whole medical ordeal, I got to make a wish and you know, it's kind of a people don't recognize this. Like people automatically think that if you're a wish kid, you're it's a death sentence. But it's really critically ill children. So people who are you know, they could die from their disease, but not necessarily like you are going to die. So just critically ill kids up to eighteen can can make a wish. And so I was granted a wish during my medical ordeal and it was to shadow Matt lower at the today show. But Given Headline News and everything that Matt Lower has gone through, we'll just say it was to shadow the today show.

And so, yeah, and it was an incredible experience. Like a limo picked me up. Oh Yeah, Limo picked me on my mom up from our house and drove us to the airport, took us to New York, of flu to New York and then everywhere we want to New York that day or that weekend. Actually not just a day. A Limo took us, but I got to go shadow the today show and they brought me on air and introduced me and it was it was an incredible experience. And so ever since then I've, you know, wanted to give back. And so now I'm on the board of directors for make a wish of Ohio, Kentucky and Indiana. And Yeah, so it's kind of come full circle because you know you're going through the darkest period of your life when you're when you're sick, when you're in the hospital, like all you know is the loneliness of a hospital room and you know you can't really see an end in sight. And make a wish truly helped me to see that there is a future beyond my illness and that there's a light at the end of the tunnel and that I can continue on and continue to grow and achieve my dreams. And and I really think make a wish help to keep that spark alive in me during my illness and I've been a huge proponent since then. And so, yeah, now I sit on the board of directors here for it and I hope to help other children to it, to see that light at the end of the tunnel that I was gifted when I was in my dark time. HMM. So such a nice, pretty, really nice touching things at there and to be a call of the and and and you know, a lot of like recently the our gala for it, which I also was the host of, the MC of, since because I also do public speaking. So they asked me to be the MC of the event, so I was the MC of it, and we raised over, I think it was like three hundred fiftyzero dollars and just a couple of hours for make a wish the evening of the gala, which was incredible. So Nice. Yeah, I think it was actually more than that, because I think we granted enough to make to grant thirty eight wishes. So that's three hundred Eightyzero, and then I think like some trickled on, so I think we like, you know, near four hundredzero dollars for to make a wish. So that was really cool to see all these people coming together to support such an incredible cause. And Yeah, I love, Love, love the work that make a wish does. Nice play. It's nothing. Must be amazing things to be pall off and create possive impact people who you know, you've been some situations, Oh yes, for sure, and getting to Wat some of those kids you know that are going through it. I think, like you know, I can kind of provide them. You know, there is a future beyond this, like look, look what I used to be in your shoes, and now look how far I've come. You can do it too. Bad Aspect, nice, lovely. Yeah, it's really nice to hear. And what what advice would you give to people who might you know being you know, might be in the same situation? That use in a probably too small here and as well, if I shoot too for I mean the the greatest advice I can give is just to learn to love yourself. And and I know it's hard to do when you're stuck in that web of darkness, when you're you see yourself in that light, because I didn't know how to escape from it. But and I took my illness for me to recognize what I was doing to myself, because sometimes it takes stepping outside of ourselves to see the real picture. And looking back now, as someone who dealt with that, and sure there are still some days that I will revert back and think, oh, should I be should I have this? And then I'm like no, you know what, get that out of your head. We're not, we're not doing this. No, but but you know, the key is, just as someone who's gone through it before, looking back at my old self, I would give myself a big hug and say, you know, you have a bright future head and you don't need to be worrying about this. Just learn to enjoy and live life, because it can be gone in an instant. And you know, my experience showed me that I was worried about the most minute things that didn't even matter. And, like you, learn to...

...recognize what truly matters when you go through some sort of ordeal and and and it's not and it's not your body trauma. Like your beautiful, how you are. You don't need to kill yourself over, you know, every calorie lead or every mile that you run, like your relationships with others. That's key, that that's what will really show you true joy, not not counting calories and not not running extra running that extra distance. So I think learning to love yourself and and cherishing those relationships you have with others and recognizing that life is so fleeting and to experience every moment and truly, truly in golf, every moment. That's that's what I would be advice I would tell them and I would I would say, you know, picture yourself in ten years from now. Can you continue doing this for ten more years, and I would say most of the time people would say no, I don't know if I can keep doing this, and so you just kind of have that mindset. Yes, changes need to be made. Yes, I can do it and, you know, seek help if you need to. Yeah, yeah, now, sir. No, it's it's really you know, it's really great, total considered and talk about. You know, the things we can talk about really, you know, really means a lot and, you know, very, very, very grateful. I'm so grateful about you that you wanted to talk to me. Yeah, no, no, you welcome. I just think, like you know, it's so it's so important, you know, to connect with people, isn't it, and to find people on the same wavelength with and, you know, if you can connect with people and provide value to others and create something positive and would positive impacts and others, and that's what's all about, isn't it? If people can take something from this, absolutely, yeah, and and hopefully people people did. If not, they just listen to a nice midwesterner chat about meditation. But my it's you know, it's something that you know, we that kind of needs to be out there a lot more isn't it? Yeah, and be acknowledged. It needs to be implemented in education and then the media lot more. I think it's kind of getting, you know, getting out there more so now with no health and what's going on. Yeah, for sure, it's definitely a wild time to be alive and I think I think meditation and Movement and positivity is needed more whenever right now. Yeah, ruling it together wrong. We are of thing. We are. Yeah, and you know, it's kind of interesting because it's kind of this is an experience that nobody like. It's affecting the world like you're in a different country and I'm over here and it's affecting both of us and it's something that I think will bring bring the world together. HMM. Ultimately, yeah, I think things will definitely change and I think we'll go about our lives differently and I think people will be more aware, businesses will run differently just all the world, how the whole kind of world operates. And I saw that the the world itself, what the Os only is being repairing. HMM, like, you know, because obviously a lot of people aren't in cause anymore. You know, not as many planes far around, right, so all these common emissions on affecting you know, there's only the universe as much and all the factories and so for you know, it's something that's going you know, it's highlighting a lot of different things and M so in some aspects, you know, they're all positive. There is some positives that can be taken from it. Yeah, and I think and and and, as as we spoke about before. You know, even in dark times, try to find that little bit of light in every situation, and I think that's key. And to stay sane. Yeah, yeah, yeah, Mos, yeah, you a, you o came for time. I'm so time. Yeah, I'm good whenever. I'm good for time, whenever, whenever. I'm not really on any schedule as...

...okay, I don't want to like overlay, if you know, you had to do anything off now we're gonna we're just going to go ahead of the grocery store after this. Yeah, I miss, I miss. I went to New York and my friend last January. That was doesn't experience. We booked like an AIRBNB on the Internet. Ere be I any you know, I lived in the hell's kitchen area, but where I lived was nice in Hell's kitchen, so I don't know, because I know you were saying where you stayed in Hell's kitchen was kind of shady. But yeah, yeah, we be a pollman. It was like a bit wrecked when we got there and it was like some number film. So we stayed there for a couple of nights and then we had random guys knock on the door because they said they were like the almost a ghost leak. Ye, who's always get out of this place. But about pause, and good pause wherever you go. But Um, amazing place. The America like it definitely, you know, would love to live down one day. Yeah, it's a great country. But then not just a probably good to go a shoot now. But is that okay? And then, but already. Really appreciate your time. I really appreciate the paintings. Thank you so much for having me and if you ever want to re unite and do another jet I'm happy to do it. Yeah, no, definitely, definitely, definitely saw something in yeah, perfect, great, greats. Can I you a literally talking to you and I saw you your your point of he he's got podcast. Spellsn't he? I'm sorry, what was that? Oh, yes, you called does yes, so he has a youtube channel and also a podcast and it's basically it's based off of pro wrestling. So he interviews pro wrestlers. Yeah, that's pretty cool. Yeah, so he did entertain entertainment news for fifteen years and would interview celebrities and whatnot and then, but he's always loved wrestling and yeah, so he so he made his youtube channel about interviewing pro wrestlers. So it's pretty cool. Gay He's got going and all he's been going Qa, is like live Qa, since he typically travels to his interviews. But yeah, but what this, all this that's going on, he's not able to and tomorrow is Barbie Blank, which is also Kelly Kelly, as people would know her, and I'm pretty up for it because she is amazing. So one PM Eastern Standard Time, which by the time this is this is released, obviously it will have gone on already, but I'm pretty funched for tomorrow's interview. Yeah, now be awesome. Wrestling squad big thing in Americ wasn't it? Like it's a it's pretty big. So there's WWe, aew and Wa. Yeah, so many different ones. It's a it's a great time to be a wrestling fan. That's for sure, I still loved to rock. Yeah, Johnson's The guy, the rock of the Rock is probably the most famous of them all. M Yeah, John Cena, on Cena, John Cena, dust one job. You know, I'm a big John Fan because he's granted so helps. Like a lot of people have wished to meet John Cena and John is a big make a wish, donate donator. So I'm a big fan of John for that too. Nice. Nice. Yeah, but they're like huge guys on there, like six four ohs, some huge. Yeah, and like three hundred pounds. They just pick you up and just for you like a twig or something like that. Yeah, exactly. But but no, we definitely have to connect again and then or even if, like, you know, your partner wants to be on the podcast or sure, yeah, I'll bring it up. I'd be waful. Yeah, thank you so much for doing this. No, no, no, thank you for coming on and I really really appreciates. Stay in touch, for...

...sure, and and you stay healthy. Yeah, yeah, what care you too. You have a good evening to take care. Thank you. Hurried, but.

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