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The Parrsitivity Podcast
The Parrsitivity Podcast

Episode 100 · 2 years ago

The Parrsitivity Podcast Episode #2 with ste @keytolifebook

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This podcast is with steve @keytolifebook Steve is an author that's made an ebook on life and motivation, mindset. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the-parrsitivity-podcast/message

Hi, Steve Wait N se me mate. Why? Yeah, well, good man or goods, you said. I'm like Talel Roch. I stund like who can? I'll flug CAL froch. Well, I'm from where he's from. I'm from I'm from. Not on him, so not. So I could love but say nothing harm Tay, but not on them looking town. It's not like Stephen Gerald. No, I'm joking, just kidding. No, probably as means an all and a long going to be hard to understand anyway. Would I've got a bit of a cold as well to tap it off? Yeah, I understand you, like, because my dad's from Liverpool. Well, is he? Does he still speak like this? Yeah, yeah, still was. Still still got a scout saccent, which is quite funny, believe. Yeah, but now I appreciate you are come on upon the podcast means a lot, but I've written down, like a few few questions, so I kind of you know, talk about topics and things. You have a lot. I've written down. Like what kind of like? What helps to motivate you, I. As a person. What what do you think's importantle? Yeah, we what do you think it's important about? It about a motivation will pears and the the only way I can get motivated. Let's to start the day off like by a my shelf, like her. I like her. I'm terrible person. So it's all through in the morning. But what I've tried to do get off before anyone else. Yeah, forty five minutes to just the eaven way into the day and then I'll sindle the gym before the start there. And then to start with, I don't say motivated, where as if a week or you did screaming at me and the baby screaming and the kids didn't. It's just that just set me up for the bad day and I just no matter what I do, is I just can't change looks. Just can't change minds. Thought. Yeah, what about? I think? Yeah, well, kind of members me. I think I've kind of, like I said, I've that kind of best space to yourself to kind of getting that kind of mindset. I do not like about if I don't have a shower in the morning, yeah, good to go. I mean I can do it and still, you know, get on with things, but I don't feel as ready. You just don't feel right to yea. Yeah, like I was shower, you know, do my hair washing, Bushmativ, I'm good to go and young I'm changed, and I think it depends. If I stay is someone's house or something like that. Then you know I can push it and I'm a shaller later. But you it kind of it's like your rhythms. They've been and then if you show Weird Elf, your staff at off. So yeah, that's that's why I think if you have a night out with something, you stay somewhere, it just it just your whole kind of energy just goes out of window. Because, yeah, I think I was every week orf in someone else, as I would as well. You're bling sort of stick when your week or on that l who this isn't this isn't my normal. So, yeah, the different path on it. Yes, like routine and your habits and stuff. And yes, I think the especially first thing in the morning, like I mean you do you go to this agmntion, go to the gym. Yeah, thing for me in the path like five also take like I did, used to get off and where Holt of the Oushan or it does. No, always weircause sometimes the baby I'll get up here,...

...the I shall I've come down. I do've like a corple coffee or the Prevoy Holt S. Yeah, another got when never been back eye and then like fucking that lookin. Yeah, so getty. Also other things as well. If I had is like stuff your watch on telly or, HMM, if it's leg what out like for rafters more would clap live. If I find myself watching something on the Telly, that's just gotten no benefit to me. Whatever I have. I'm watching a program but I'm not really enjoying another nature know any lying in bed. Yeah, Kelly, finally won't. So you'll watch it anyway. It'll sater, it'll affect me sleep. Yeah, the week off and short and else was M Julian birds watching him. She's watching like she take lot violent from the night before and she's got that one and it's just a shame. Stuff over and over again. It's just that devultivated me. That's just probably a bad mood. Yeah, it's quite it's quite crazy. What can the things that you don't think of affecting your nude and stuff and how you feel can actually like have a detrimental effect. I think what back I'm in. I let's play video games and stuff, but I'm very conscious of my time. I think, especially in to the New Year, very aware of how much time I spend them things now. Yeah, because like sometimes, sorry, how old are you? I'm twenty five. Twenty Five, so you've learned that quite early. Yeah, because I've only just sort of got to grips with it and I'm tearity for yeah, I I think right going into the new year, around Christmas time, like I just I realize how much time like I spent on it and just for about it over time and I was just like I felt crap, bobby folk, crap. I was like, I don't want to feel like this. I mean, I think it's everything in moderationism. I think if you're doing some a little bit ass fine, doing anything too much is in good for you. Like that's it with any know donk and all after had a cap platform back on the drink of while I haven't it, it's like don't much for a while. Yeah, yeah, but it's like as a longer term of even that that just drink through boredom. Yeah, and then you don't know how to you don't know well to shake no, and then if the kids just stay and also, I've got a free I'll files of cane then all, and I'll be your whole light on that. Yeah, I'm going to take o'clock. How much she has to know way and I know. Yeah, I think drinks a tough one. I mean, I still working us, I woulds on hospitality for many years and hotels and restaurants and you surrounded by, you know, alcohol and stuff and the workplace and you do a long hours and the chefs will finish later, you'll finished later. People that are don have drink. You know, Ya, go, yeah, and then calls more women and then, yeah, before you know, you've got a lot of drunk. Four days are however many days or you know, sometimes it's you know, each each night you finished working at a point or couple of pints and then you think about much that is, you know, money wise. That's why I don't know. Depends what you drink, if you the body wise part of it all. Sorry, what put like put you offt thing, because it's the what is the body situation or the health or whatever, because I'm not when I think of I didn't too much my I just gold and I do, example, water. Yeah, I mean I think it was because I was doing stupid hours and I was doing split shifts, breakfast splits, and I was having, you know, having a few drinks after work people, workmates, and then getting open working order...

...and just feeling tired and just run down and I foll'll have a mo think al. Yeah, but I think you know, there are dread it is a time and place and I think it depends on much you are. If you can have a few drink, you may self something to be or just chill your girlfriend or something, and then there's no but I'll I'll love a night out every so often with my friends in likening them or something, and then I want to touch it for quite a while. Yeah, they find hardest path to from it. Like, I know, I know it means most of the time, but when it's hot, shoot, as you shed a lot to down. Have a normal from where Chee people in being gardens and did just like Abo thought what you tell yourself. You know, you're alls. It's all one the way. Yeah, especially like a Liverpool where you live. mean the tons of bars and stuff, like the boys buzzing place up, I can imagine in the summer. Yeah, yeah, that's so. Anyone's talks a world, and especially pool, of doing well to win in one world. By the way. That's it with Liverpool. I mean when you want, I suppolver pools, walks, my dad and stuff, and I can't conspond. Not and forest. You know, upset. You know I mean off in the wrong. You definite not UN fasting here, but it's it's like we need not all more times. You live in not think about a pot. Probably quite a few live a pool funds day able because to do well at a minute as well. And Suman and when it's to get fired in the Champions League and there's just a buzz and honor city and just everybody's just out all the time, just bullyed, buying a yeah, rather than the wave, like I remember where we want the Champions League can yeah, yeah, but I long a top. I think one of me memories at that night was watching the Anti Josh. You are faith, just that bladder. I thought I was illusioninging, not heed fellow that he went down. Yeah, is is is a is difficult because I mean, you got you up here, pressure and stuff and your friends and stuff, and they're a lot cold. You trying to come out, don't have a drink and you feel bad if you don't go out and all the rest of it. So, I mean there's a lot of there's a lot of things I can kind of draw you win by. I think if our staff started a drink or less, because, like, I've been going across her recently, for a while and I've noticed of our drink or if I eat certain foods, I can't, can't do it. It's good. You know, you notice if we noticed it, like if you work out so you hug drinks, you just don't feel the same. Now have a few, didn't staff, and then you just like kind of be bother. Done. Then yours. You want to do. was going to the Steve Move. Yeah, but go on, let's say. I was gonna say. I what what are you passionate? I what do you what are you passionate about? I say passion passionate about. I don't know. ME, family, football. I'll buy into mental health lately. Yeah, I've I've mental health problem since I wish you're going to find out. So I didn't know too much about it, but I want to. Yeah, and I think I'd probably not that a poor black got one to do it. I'll probably change remy of it was I was about fifty hmm. Remember. I can't remember exactly what was that number. I don't know if you've you've ever been depressed at any other book is sure to don't know that it happening, that it's Day, but just, yeah, just losing testing every so I didn't realize at the time because it was too young. So I was just sitting in...

...me Dohim just listening to coldplay all the time, I think, when parashuting. Yeah, like that. Yeah, and then you know you're on your younger and your mate ton for you and it's I don't know why, why not? I just don't want and then I remember to comment again when I was was about eighteen times. I just left all that to drop out of college. Scared a tell him. I didn't tell me. I didn't tell me when my dad. For about five months I just kept going out on press and then I was gone. But I was going to him. I was consisting me mats to smoke with. And then, and then I just choose to sit up. All I just stated about the walk couldn't wear how what that wasn't then it passed and then it just come back and go and come back, and then it was both four years ago. Hmm, I was driving home from where that's just felt miserable for about saying to nine months, just thinking I'll go, I'll get out of a little past. It the past, it'll pass. But it wasn't. It was just getting worse. So I was driving on from with and as a pulled onto the motorway, a wagon nearly pulled out in it me and I didn't flinch, and I mean I those things as how we're started to just talk me out, and then that's all of scared me a bit and I was like, Whoa, my God, what's he's thought up of the yeah, yeah, so forard, that's the time. I told all. Tell you. That's a I'll tell tell me. Actually, it was with that time. It's US just like whatever, I don't care, I want you up the else, I don't. Yeah, what the books there? So then it was Kuly. That'll be that about the same thing. Yeah, said they all well shod a baddy said they had a breakdown years ago with it, like it's not as to be ashamed of. or You need help, that you've got, that know where you need alp you you know covered it. Yeah, you know by yourself. or its like I'm going to tell anybody, even called the doctoresn't just tell them and any remember going there and just like he was shaken all way. Do you like test on? You don't of you. You've ever ever side? My two questions like on a scale, ones turn and things. Yes, how do you feel about things? I don't you feel about this? And I'm just at the time I'm in a day. I don't even know. I don't even know what's going on, and then I've just got to leave me out as well. So gone to live in a bed. Certain he's like where you eleven? Said I'll just just in a mood, pretty much meaning you can't provide help, do this and dude that, and then we'll send you to this. And I was like I'm not that now, now, now, I'm not doing that, I don't mine, I don't need to do that, and it was just like pretty much like the fucking goodeft. Just tell people, it will be better. Remember telling a lot in ware and it was like that understand that. I was like, well, that was quite easy, done a lot better. Hmm, I think I'd gone back and did the Dune. Them tests didn't tell me a the time. What a tested said, like a Heish like you, I'm going to put you on, I need to put you on knees, tablets, and I just saw so like Pale. Oh my God, why do white need tablets? But what God. And then I started. And then at the time I've never baily had not what about it. You know later to the way you did it ever, get did it everywhere and I don't you. Yeah, act even today could like metal. That's just like helping the way of placing that or even if cultures for years just wasn't spoken to talk about it all. I noticed that that I don't think I was listening to talk sport or some start. Collie wool was going on about it. HMM. I just seem to hit everywhere went and at all was as it always been, should always be. Spoke about all my just sad in it more now because it's real lating to me. And then...

I went to a Tshaw me offer. This like said every class that I didn't really want to go to. HMM, it was. I to the like I don't find me, and he said, well, what's the West? I could happen. You got. You don't like it. It doesn't work I would. You know. So you've got so. I said, though, I think it give it a chance. And you know, the therapy was so bad. Yeah, it actually made me laugh that much. Helped to told in the way that it was intended to. Yeah, like the woman to the woman's just just like really condescend, then talk until you like a baby. And it was like that. Don't it was. It was that fully at the left it and went by the doctors and then some part of it we got, though. I don't know. You know about like cognit of behavior and stuff like that. Yeah, CBT and know pay. Yeah, like it was late, doing doing things like that, and it did help. And then that's also got me on stack down and shortly changed to me Mi mindset, I thought. Well, used to like view everything just like normally quite miserable and just every time it's quite judge mental. So I'd watch people just what the years all possible, and then it's so so, I don't know what it's just change me for the better. So like a Tho, just maybe less judgmental and then stop to stop being so miserable about every other. Yeah, also, I ended up getting into disorder. Sort of think I even know what the question was not yeah, my mental health and my motivation and positivity and for that. Yeah, I think it all. It will play thing which them. That's all they give me, like the kill, the aster I probably needed. Yeah, that I'll. I'll. Did you get into it yourself? ME, myself, I I kind of kind of always been, you know, interested in people and stuff, you know, from young age. But I personally fell into it. I had a an accident when I was about thirteen I think, where I fell through a skylight on a church roof. Yeah, and I was pissing around with friends at the time and I was looking around and I still was just kind of like doing park or, you know, running around. There's some holidays remember Boles Board, you know board kids, and I stood on the skylight on this roof and it just went pop and I fell down about put about fourteen foot, fell through the skill and I landed in like a little sink cubicle and I work and yeah, I basically from that, you know, I come home open and all that stuff. That's got hospital and then I was I remember doing my GCSC's around them, you know, couple luck soon afterwards and I remember just shaken and just feeling really overwhelmed and my kind of four thousand to die. So I ended up having a nothing like PTSD and the anxiety and depression and all of that stuff, and then I came. I came through that, you know, over time. Yeah, well, what did you do? What to get to get through it? Yeah, I had a basically like therapy. So I'd like you know I can sling in that kind of stuff. I'd meetings with calms, which is, I think, children's mental health. So I had quite a bit of therapy. And so my nun's Toe y's a. So so yeah,...

I had that. That one of quite in a couple of years. But I remember just going into it. kind of it. What brought im was like groups, crowds of people. I just remember my heart thought racing and I'll just like just you know, I'm going to die. Yeah, that was because of what I was that was the initial thought of what I thought when I felt for that roof. Then you know you're you're going to shock and I didn't experience the trauma at the time because I was in shock. So it starts playing out afterwards. So I had that anxiety for a while and it really kind of, you know, afterwards it kind of got me thinking about, you know, mental health and how the body works and how the mind works, and it kind of gives you in a way. I mean I hadn't aware it's already, but it kind of it gives you a certain awareness. You're able to tune into people and things on level. You know, I mean like yeah, okay, so from from that period of my life, I mean, I'm okay now, anxiety or any of that now, but it's just got me wanting to help with people in just more curious about, you know, how we kind of operate as people, because you know and we're quite interesting, complicated creatures if you think about it. Yeah, we are. It's it crazy like what you say in there. That's what I started to think after I've been through that short of open we might do when I got that interested in how your brain works and being in control the stuff was me. A lot of it, a lot of the CBT was like being in control your thoughts. Yeah, so back like you can always, as long as you in control ther for that. Your feelings all come along with that. Or if you're not, you let your man wonder. That's how you don't up in your in your holes, but they're out. Obviously you start laughing round more than then when you've been sitting there and call on people for everything they like. I don't even know these people that have just just judge the moment what I think they are. I don't know what they are going to do. I don't know how their brain works. Yeah, little bit more patience as well, as I'd say. Yeah, can makes you more patient, makes you more where, makes you quite empathetic. I'm not saying that things like this should happen for you to kind of become aware of these things, but I think if you do experience certain things or you've been there yourself, you you know, and it's almost like an antenna, like I can pick up on the energy of someone or how they feel if they're not okay, because I've been there myself. I don't know. It's like you're probably the same. You can just pick it up. Yeah, you're still could just getting a sense for I don't be like they're not right, the sort of not right. It's not that they're not or not after themselves or HMM, put the only the only thing that I don't like that the minute with like the mental health things, brilliant. If everyone at or I don't find like on social media, you got to put a lot of people just milk and it for at tension. All right, what you mean? I've playing the victim, called what, you know, people who haven't, who haven't, suffer the little user for an excuse, just sure to get out of things or get attention. Like yeah, I...

...think the more you see it that, the more that all put people off. Open and all. Yeah, well, I think what what people tend to do is they tend to why? I've never asked. On social media, instagram and facebook especially will probably most of it really important linkedin. A lot of people will put my, you know, XYZ, whatever they're complaining about, and people comment and they get attention and when it makes them feel good. It's like you get likes on Facebook, on instagram makes you feel good of releases and dolphins, I think it is. So they do it, you know, based on that and it makes them feel better. You know, because people are playing in, playing into their game. The wrong way to go about it. I mean you got a lot of people whoo have a lot went on and they don't talk about it. To anyone like you won't even know. Yeah, I think, especially in man, it's kind of, you know, like get on with it, you know, that stiff up a lot kind of approach. Jot. Mean just crack on. Yeah, well, that's why I used to feel. I think that's why I hadn't shared anything. It was just to I think, the point that I got so bad and it was short to like me. Dad was like if you don't control yourself out like how or nothing else that I could do type of thing. And I think just sell them one piece and I'm not seeing about. Just gone shut up your pushy and like sto like four hundred one more behind. I wouldn't even do like. I'm quite gone out going in works. I'll even at the time into Adam Shit in all the lots of day like usual. Just leave me alone. Yeah, but I was telling him like Adam never a known that, but the never ever have pictured you was the last piece and we was reading like that. They could just don't know, watch common on in people's head. Yeah, and I think as well, like there's a lot of people out there who've never had some things in mental health or they just don't understand, you know, they're just kind of gotten no empathy or they just, you know, don't understand, or so I okay. Well, yeah, this too was sure. I mean the shompetition people, they are like that, like that they're seeing people who had said were the sold but or the people who are wouldn't off really, and you sure they hit out like now, now, that's just a lot this shit. That's not that's just that's just a game with a lot of that. And you're like what, they wouldn't understand because they unbean in the same position. Or I don't want course would. Yeah, like sometimes, you know, if you I'm being there, you want to know. If you don't research things and mental health and stuff, you know you're not. It does an interest you. The people aren't going to know. But I think with the Internet now and social media, I mean it's it's growing. It's growing at such a lacking advice to rate. I mean, when I was at school I remember going home and going on Msn Messenger. It was ms a messenger, myspace and facebook could just kind of started. You know, how was it, whereas now there's so many platforms people use and I think, especially with Instagram, a lot of people there's more and more young people with self esteem and confidence issues that down to, you know, how they feel about myself due to social media and the seeing pictures of like, you know, the norm, you know, that how how you should look, how you should be. So I'd say, HMM, I...

...don't know what about this glution, but I don't know. I think it's like the girls have more sort of PA pression. Don't be found them. Well, it's like, yeah, it's I see sometimes pictures on facebook of like, you know, certain models and stuff for these influences and you kind of think, you know, the very st very, very, very slim, and people just kind of think that's the normal, that's how it should be, and it's not about how you just look, it's how you are as a person, you know, and I think people can kind of forget that. They just come so folks on how they look and come across definitely. But I mean there's this pros and cons. Social Media, I mean, is a very, very useful tool and I think it's how you use it and I think it's how much time you spend on it as well. I have to breaks on it to got one of quit a lot. Do you know that I I used to spend, you know, a lot of time on facebook and instagram. wheres now? I'll skim through facebook and then I'll sign out or I'll go on Instagram, our score through, I'll like a few posts of things that I follow it and then I'll come off it. Yeah, I think he thinks shot facebook. I don't use Yally. After all, might log into it once. Will be twitter at generally use mostly for football news. Yeah, shot me Paysall AC counsionant. I've got the meal, the one like we bok accounts on instagram. So yeah, I wasn't mentioned that. That's really got some good content on there now, some good shot me sure, moving dot of it. Don't think I like that. I like that and I all the stuff it just popped into me. Had H I just started. I don't even know what, to be honest, the whole book actually come from. It was last year. I was I was lying. I didn't I remember the night. I was lying on the floor in the living room watching him. I was watching the guard fire that just come back on sky and I thought a few drinks and that fell asleep and short of listening to the blackground and the other did. He had the dream that I wrote see much wait for way than we had. Woke up and knew what I was going to right and had it seem a notable last night. Seems like about what? And I was like, well, I don't know really, just about me life short off, and then she warn't well, I don't you're right. It there. Lastly, cool, I don't write books, do I can see sayful to do it like after a focking will. It's called a road. In about two days. It's not massively long. Yeah, but then I showed it and I was short. I laugh on aware what you think I do. I lenart. You went too, it's really good. She went. Did you get that? You steal stuff off it? I was like no, let's shot and tight, and she went, I'll, I'll, I'll spell tia forward and change the few minds and round and like sens. that didn't make sense where it was short of how I was speaking. Put them when you ready. It didn't make no sense at all. Yeah, change they and she was like, or what are you want to do it? I was like, I don't know, I don't know. So I showed a few people and then I started getting a bit anxious about it and I was just thinking, won't it do it really want people now one all the ends and out in real life and then afford? Well, some people could read this, might...

...need to hear it and the thing and it might sell them. And if thought I might just stay and sell it. Yeah, no. So then I just I just googled. How do you sell a book? Yeah, and and then I ended up watching all of you know, all people on Youtube, if the people putting you from long catty vignature and everyone. Yeah, I've never heard that these people before. And then they were like he needs social media, and social media, I don't know. I was like, all right then. So just I just started doing it. HMM, I'M gonna put it on there. I should the few. Yeah, we got people actually buying it. Yeah, and then it got a couple of goods views off it and then sent it to and I' Chenter it out to a few people. Don't for my benefit from reading, or I mean so far out of that, goods reviews. I know reviews that is for the one points and one's going to say rather than just go this boxer pilot shit. I was scared and people do it wor com pass it boll yeah, then sold them cause cout went on local media and started trying to shelley. And then I see you seeing all like the type of stuff on doing, people writing things, and I was off like clad, off right, right, stuff that I'm thinking, and then a lot them. And then, as you shaded, all the people to ear into it all, what are just carry it on. Yeah, but yeah, that's that's Allo what I'm doing with that anyway. And then it's closure, cause of had a better success of selling it. It's all I write them move on and said to me bad, like what you think I should like about me, sis you and just do the same thing, but like are you getting on Fourth of a and it was like, all, I don't just get myself in shaping. Just say adn't ever ever do when just she really takes me. And it has been. It has been weak, like I am doing better than aspects of stuff. Off All the men. But ahument, madam, like another one I'm writing. And then I've wrote another couple a little bitter than all that I may publish or just put out there. More. It's that's just come out of no wad. Dolt to be dreaming about short and when I was half pissed. But now that's time. I mean, good for you for doing that, though. I mean it's crazy how that came around, just by having a kind of vision or dream and then waking up after a few drinks and then as mentally. You know, good for you for doing it. And what's your washing page on our instagram again? It's key to life books. It make what sure your instagram page again, you're a teeth, a lightbulb, key, key to life book. Yeah, last man, that's that. That cos that's what it called me dream, and then I thought, shall I change it? A sort of push. I don't really think that even makes sense. And then I couldn't think of another titles of call, and that was like, well, that was me to you, or that's what it needs to be called. Yeah, you go with what you feel is good at that moment, I suppose. Yeah, it's like some of pops into your head, it kind of sticks, you know. Go with that, go with us. Yeah, so, Ye, I we I thought that enjoyed the bit reading right in it. Well, I thought, well, I'll carry it on. I mean, I waight of only one way to that's ones are more than lords of the people have. Don't sell it. To me, it's an accomplice. Yeah, I mean it's far better. There's that closing that you far better. Do...

...you know you're doing better than the people who aren't doing it? Jommy, you know use you making that pro you know you making those steps and take an action and doing it, compared to people an idea and acting on it, and I think that that's, you know, one of the hard things about being a person as well. We will sell all, yeah, I'll do that, I do that, and then, you know, a mom for two my go by or a year my go by before you actually act on it. And that's good you're doing. Then, even whether it's called or not, it's like and say I wrote able, I'm sold it. Yeah, and I mean the thing is, with Amazon, like you can, there's so many platforms. You can make these ebooks now and as you can put on Amazon. I don't think it cost you anything. Not Doesn't? They take the take a cut out of you there book. They tell you what a sell it for every night and again. The'll deal, just try and promote it themselves. And then you just did you just check on your amazons all the people and I'm shitting anything that tend me about of you. Yeah, and Nice, really good man's cool. Well, yeah, but then it let me into just get pretty well, even that turned into me listening to podcast and watching Youtube, watching all these people I've never heard of. Like take this time last year, I didn't even know what a podcast was. Yeah, the idea. I didn't really go on social media, went on twitters. Will had scores and forteen me. But yeah, I didn't even know what it was until that. And it's like just opens off new doors by they want thing, just like domino effect is is it is like a domino fact. It's like, you know the effects, and I kind of start watching. I never heard of Joe King of WHO Jolt You? Yeah, don't like watching them. He I first heard about him and watched him on a fear factor years ago and he did this prose game show program in America, people have to do things to make much, to get money. He hosted that and I saw him on a youtube doing a podcast. Not Like Holy Shit, that guy. I see Ontov, and he's at all has a people on this podcast and what he kind of motivated me to kind of do this like because I saw one of his early, early podcasts and I think he's in the room in his bedroom. You know, if some of some of his friends streaming it. Yet that grady as well, is it? Yeah, one of his friends was talking about podcasts and there's May said it's not about how many listeners you get, it's about who listens to it. And he said it, you know, when he first thought he had two hundred, two hundred views and now he gets like, you know, thousands and millions. I mean, I mean, I know he's famous and stoppe probably, you know, gets more. Qui as well known, but you've got to start somewhere, having you and it can just take where, as you say, don't want the ends that anyone just takes one perce and those it to just stop ball across it and then actors can change. Yeah, I mean that's kind of amazing thing of the Internet, isn't it? There's so many do was it coming before you? People you meet as well, like, you know, irself and stuff and other if together that didn't exist with the yeah, which could easy. You can just be holp you. I'm just speak to anyone anyway. Yeah, it's pretty scary that it's like quite cool. Wells do you listen to or watch? I started, I used to. I've kind of began what I when I was a teenager. Listening. Start Listening to a guy called Alan Watts.

Yeah, then, if you ever heard of him, he was a philosopher. Yeah, it's a philosophy thin during the s or the S S, and he was like a Yogi, you know, proper chilled guy with this good and he's into Buddhism and he's American. I think he was. He probably wasn't. Don't you know that? I don't know give false information. But his name is Alamat and he's taught about life and energy and society. And at the time when he's talking about the people didn't take him serious, you know, during the success of a clown cause like that or the people. He used to give lectures and seminars. He was, you know, very well educated, give lectures on philosophy and stuff, but the stuff he's he was talking about back then, it's happening now, like just way ahead of it. That a way ahead of his time. I'll started listening to him and I'll start listening to Tony Robbins. Aunt you robins. Yeah, you've heard of Anthony Robbins, the big fellow with the master of UNs. Yeah, yeah, I got. Yeah, but don't know what's going on with his clap's. Yeah, they any body cart laugh? Yeah, but I sat listen to him and I've recently been listened to Gary Vane, a chunk, that Gary the yeah, he's good as and I've been little been watching his content like a lot more recently. Yeah, he's just so to the point and he's like, I think, quite big role model them. I mean a lot of people don't like it because he squears lines. He's got a certainice Chee about it. But yeah, I don't even notice it, to be honest. That things the environment you're going to walk in, isn't it always? motionally? Call me yet to see who by listen to I started I didn't, I don't know, by accidant, because I'd watched the wharf walls. The need to film a yeah, and then you don't wave your computer and everything just listens to you don't know whatever you watching those it. So, yeah, I've gone on Youtube for put'll pop. It's all off of the kids. And then, as she named the wolf of walls, the podcast with the real wolf of walls, that he or George Jordan Bell for yeah, listen to them as well. Yes, all to put along and just started laughing and I wear eye wait and sales meself. Yeah, so what's your fae? Some of the stuff you're saying astors like you're also cringe Sha. And then I'll watched, I mean some of US overtams really good. And then I watch them interview grunt car. Don't you ever watch call down? Yeah, he's good as well, and I just thought I was a little laugh on me. I don't fall peacemall I see, like the way he was dealing with the windows, look on them, and then I just started watching everything is. And then, because I've watched that and seen him and interviews on sort on, and then ended up watching it was at that robber Kiasaki. Heard of that guy. She's short of act one of you out of this when I was like he's got there, he's really bitch in medical fellow. And then watching interviews from years ago with Donald Trump. But then, because I was watching him and not just a lot of up, it start to popping up on me home with him. And then it seems to be like a lot of little know with all scammers with his name on it. So talk from a little bit else. Was Watching Tony Robins. You had seen that did the fitting on Netflix. Yeah, I'm not your group. Yeah, that will be your daughter. Watch that. Actually Watch that one. I was I was having as made the whitby partner. Then there's shown. Yeah, badly, and I want...

...to stay. Any moms and a watch that it and then I run and I was like, are we need to sort those old girl like to shored? Yeah, yeah, there's a there's a lot of good role models out there and I think it's important to have like a mentor or mentors, you know, like to it's like that saying as any your vibe attract your tribe kind of thing. Yeah, it's some point, I think, you know, to have mentors and role models and to watch people like that. Yeah, it is. You never do. You never read the sheet. I've I've read a little bit of it. I've I watched it a couple of times. My brother watches it a lot. And that's about the law of attraction, isn't it? And how you think energy? Yeah, I believe in that. that. I believe in the world of a stacking. The other just taught a lot of the bottle was a bit to the too much ballshit. Wait, yeah, a lot of it was good for from of it. With your flare, you can just wait for whatever you want and it'll just happen. Yeah, I mean I think. I don't. I don't believe in in I mean I think you have to manifest something. You have a lot of holes in it. It was delivered just to the wrong people. They did just think. Think like, Oh, I'll just ask for this, it'll just happen. Yeah, you've you've got to like think about it, see how that feels, imagine a visualize it, and then you've but you've got to you got to say that action. It's not going to happen about that action. They want to be short, that full and then sit at your desk called they they were not on an expect on it to just happened. Yeah, not exactly. But there's does a good documentary watch called it's called minimalism. You've seen that. The minimalists a good these guys basically sell everything the own. They kind of have like, you know, one jacket to you know. So they have a couple of items in their home and there was kind of doing talks and stuff, and you know how it makes them feel and they feel better for basically by kind of getting a lot getting rid of a lot of clutter. Yeah, but now there's some good stuff out there. There's you over heard of a guy called Jordan Peterson, Nona, Jordan Peterson. He's quite good. He does like lectures and seminars. It's another guy, Simon Simon to neck, Simons neck, possibly not at all things. So yeah, there's there's loads of people out there. I think with these kind of people you watch, they are very different. On then I think, yeah, take what take what? Take what's best for you, all of them. Yeah, but that Jordan Bill, for I mean I started watching this content when I was like eighteen, nineteen. He's very good at he's an unbelievably confident yeah, he's very confident. Any kind of sucks you in. Yeah, I think eventually, probably the thing from me, as well as voice, just start going through you a bit. Yeah, yeah, quitel and of walls of your them who or something, walls of your scored. It's one one. Yeah, but you go too. You Laugh to him, you laugh to send me a...

...message with them, people in at the end like the bad yeah, probably watch them. Yeah, yeah, I'll go send your message. Of the people that I mentioned star last night. I can't remember the fellow name. It's not add my elise. Here's that work at my left. You never wants go well, e'Sy susopos interviews would all plaiting. What's the people we've taught about? Yeah, happy. It's like quite a henge fellow on the leaf, like a like at the end of this gem experience to be sort of his size. He's a unit, just that nice fellow by the interview this or I can't even pronounce his name last the fire there for you. was watching it last night, is it? Fella come come to medical from Armenia when he was like six. Sell Stories about like when his dad us they would do was shaving off that much to live from where that he used to get in the bins like that was enough. That up and flew out by like restaurants and people markets, and that's what the at off and that's how we like staff at those way, even though he's like a multi millionaire, more like a mad stories like that. Should people think they've got it hard and then you just listen to them stories. Fair playmate put the yeah, he was watching you. was talking about like little things you can do, you Shay and make when when he was a when I was dot was daughter was five, he just used to take it on a date every week just to like teacher, teacher out. She should be treated. Don't years older than little things like that. It's like, yeah, bold was, I've got to let her young. I've got I've got quite a few kids, me like or yeah, youngest, me, youngest to girl, and I'd like I just like I just wanted to go up with good models and respect. Yeah, Nice, it's important, isn't? Yeah, definitely, but I think, like Pete, is always someone out there's going to worsen yourself, isn't? There's always some out there and I think we've liked those p put talking about you see on the Internet and trying to think who ilse sad showles. Well, Grand Card. One level want Roga to go to be up like few times, but I'm not think yeah, was a thing that like a lot of it. Yeah, he's out there and he's just well, I'm not. I'm not the awful, the sense you like about ant all humble would standing and she beat eleven million people. I just think, I well, they going to listen to me for what little things he says about I just think, yeah, that's like I feel. Well, a lot of the things bought them, like a lot of the way things are drugs and light. That income was just too boredom. I'm where's my docy? Party doesn't think about it, but that short of the way. I slip if I'm not doing short from the colls. But we got sun on the Gold Life, I've noticed lately. Yeah, about three things on the go all the time with while I'm not. I'm not. I'm on this to you and I'm watching the matching. I'm tirdy about the authors. Well, just need to be busy. Yeah, everyone's everyone's got the right outlet and everyone's got their own way of being. On me, I haven't as a person and stuff. And when you watch our people and they say little things like that that you think about yourself but you never realized about yourself, and then they've shut yeah, that's that, I didn't know. That gives you a little bit more self awayness. Doos me. Yeah, it doesn't make to make you very mindful and make sure you appreciate certain things as well. I I first saw that grand cord and Guy when I think it's new year or Christmas. E little blue of this video is crazy video and he gets like a firework or something and he's got some master cigar and he likes this cigar. With the firework or something. He's like flies, like jumping around and then he just froze off. This building what oftmes and it...

...just kind of like flies down and explodes and stuff. But I was like who is this guy? Then I like went on to his profile as AH, wow, he's like proper into like real estate and business, and I think happened. Well, all the is you look a blaud of yeah, you just mean he's like safety or sort of put up. He that'saw. One of his recent videos is quite good and he said something about being a millionaire and a billionaire or something like done, and he's I don't know if you saw it, but he was like saying you're still Kay's like who's got? You said in the crowd. Who? Who's got million dollars? MMM, and he's like he said that when he got a million dollars. He was worried about where that million dollars is. A girl. Yeah, so he started hiring counting, you start hiring ad rises, you start hiring all these people who then costing expense, and then a million dollars went down. He said. He was like Shit, I need to be a billionaire because I'm I'm not going to be worried about where my millions are going. Yeah, you invested all the money when the stock market crust in the end, just like talk a chance from it. Invested in lots of problem you while all the places with that low and two thousand and eight. That's how we ended up minted. And then he eat those like I got into him because I do have a car dealer ships all those. A lot of it was like yeah, yeah, so I started watching it, but then it is to be, I mean most of it like basic what you do anyway, but just more about where heath can like where you'd like. You'd you'd be prospect and people with as you pass back for Hap people and just give up. And I have not one wants done. Answered the phone to me like you don't want to talk to me. And when you get to the five piece and telling it to Piss off, just like I can't be bothered. I'll do it again some more. Where is he's like not yet. Good, power through and just keep gold and keep going them so a while and then you'll just get used to the dejection and you won't care anymore. Yeah, but easily learn les used to, just like I think he just wants to go and gold, gold that I think of ever position. I'll be like about that little. I'd always want to have some one on the gold would I think I'd have a lot of Dunceime as well as gone on slave them everywhere. Yeah, I think you've got some of it. Downtime. It's summers, you know. Was He just burn out and crash? I saw like a REV guy. He his work ethic is crazy. Yeah, and it's the ground he's he's posting like video or he's got a teammood of his videos. Yeah, but he the COn'tenty posts in the days, like something that people might do in a year. That's it, or like in four months. He does it in like a week or a day. Look what every in need doos and I don't even know what I feel like you've got into me for. It was like, yeah, a little opinion. It will say these new podcast on this uppen and then I plays play and I'm like, but even know, like out this up for it's going from and another. Listen to it and it's what it was. Will bubble like everywhere you look. Yeah, he he's really kind of kind of movates me a lot, inspires me, because he came from a Soviet Union. Yeah, you know, you needn't speak any English. When school people making fun of him and then he did like, you know that wine there's wine library videos talk about wine and marketing and he just, you know, he said something like I talk a lot now because for the past hour the many years, I'll just work. And Yeah, yeah, th incur. I think I got into him when I was watching that thing of she really goes on like car boot tails and a medical just start by. Oh yeah, and...

I was just like this last music and then I just end not watching all the videos. But yeah, it's called trash talk, wasn't it? Trash talk? Yeah, if we may me Blave, that's appen. He's called he won and five, he didn't get five, and then nothing. Yeah, nothing. We started a lot like an that's when I ended up watching all the with yours. I was like he's decent too. You kind of inspired me to do that. I go to K Max and sometimes I go to child shops butt a lot and I find something. Child shops are not looking at him. Like I got an Ebay. I got an Ebay. I gone complete and sold items, not Google stuff, and I'm like Shit, yeah, from the prize. Yeah, but it's a gamble sometimes. Yeah, that's it. If you got kids? No, no, not that. I'm not. Not. No, yeah, I haven't just yet. You controlt of force of a for to the th little chances like that. Kom Yeah, yeah, but questions here. What would you say makes you happy? Made men up? He's probably family. Family, definitely. Yeah. Even busy. yeahs water, like life, watching, motivational stuff. Yeah, and generally just that. I haven't started a laugh, like most of my way at I can't stand me Jobab it's made better by life. The LADS would they like? We'll just going laugh all days. Take the pace out of you. Today, like sometimes you see, see a lot of stuff. Now it's like you can't say this, you can't say that about somebody, but like an and I will you just think, good job, nobody comes in again and there too at me thought to eat your they like even go. Yeah, one, that's hold the lots. About a few years ago when I was on the spe what's kind of sad to tell them, because it's like it is quite a male dominated the environments. Yeah, yeah, sure, that I felt on the easy. Telling them after the fast was like shake me a show everyone was that understand number. Then it just then saying then to me and the pistol hard me over the LL. I didn't mind that Short to help me to do it, but I'll be sitting here and want to go and to be to a cost. On that was like I ca on that just came and say one of your loop tablets and go get yourself out there. And even though it looks bad on the face of things and all, they don't mean it viciously. It was just it was fully forty. Look like just just a short and about yourself and just think, like it's stop be so sharious about everything. Yeah, no, sir, I mean I think you could have that approach. That's it. Well, I think it. You didn't bladom and Sosual like your daughter of sculpture. So you're probably he could be similar and in the same way as really like a lot of a lot of our dialect through that they is just absolutely and the house of each other. Where there's problem, you'd probably got all the partner in the world where it's be like why these people so horrible to each other, where we probably say you know, whatever you're come into with and nobody talk to Piss. I'll to you. Think they didn't like it. Yeah, well, I mean my my dad is probably that one of the quickest. He he's I've never made anyone like it. Like you try and say something, he'll come back within like a second. Ut's say something. Yeah, I don't know if that's just him or just like the little pool where I would as well you drow up out of younger. You twar the second you start, girl, everyone's taking the piss out of gas. So you've got a lad to do. Take it on the tune and give it back so like it's all the hardened, you know, do it. So, yeahh, yeah, if they say short on new, you just like it. I could go somewhere and people could absolutely...

...slate the black holes and my appeared until what I'm wearing or what to do and it wouldn't bother me. Could you used to it? I just see it. There's a bit of a laugh where the people problem date half of it and go on another cry. Yeah, yeah, well, I mean, like it's quite like I said, it's your environment, isn't it? As well, where you are. Yeah, and you're he surrounded by and stuff, like some parts of like, I mean there's rough parts everywhere, but I mean they never pools. Some rough parts in Liverpool, yeah, and in Nottingham, wrong, from some rough parts, and he surround about people, and so you kind of have to kind of fix up quick I suppose, you know. But the yeah, like with my dad, my dad's like a chef. I've worked with him, you know, quite a few times in same place, and I've still have seen like the bands between my dad and Jill other people. Yeah, and it is just on fire and you never has any problems as well. Well. Well, I think I think that'll look as we'll just it does make you laughing as well. Than does shorter than the weights. Easy not to be so obsoudious about yourself, like obviously to fill things where you draw the lad yeah, yeah, of course. Yeah, you to say it to and you know, we haven't get away with saying stuff to new you can't do you can't. But you wouldn't get that in sensially for make someone for your leg. Yet think when you didn't. Yeah, it's just myster small of it. More of a laugh. Yes, like bounter, isn't it? Crack and stuff. That's it. It's when you're comfortable with people as well as and then, and not what. Yeah, I mean, I are you, Mam and below. When I was a teenager, lice, hey being told what to do, and you, I speak quite defensive and stuff, and so not when people did do, you know, crack and they say things. I still like kind of get a mental get really affected by words. Now, you know, and I'm twenty five. I've kind of got works in a few places. Are Kind of experience fair share, but you get used to and you just can't laugh. Little bit of a Tifteem like going back to the start with I was saying, I'll bother used to I'll buy I'm of a warm and make some time. I'm just like you are a horrible person. Woks like I've got like I've got away and qualified. Your said. Oh my God, when a way, when I wait. I used to wear with me that when I was about twenty with all a lots you could work with me, got me a job and a police and they think in the wall was more one how bad I was duppy door fitting. You could warm you up to co with us to make me Hick Laugh, and then I'll laugh at me and say I was this place in the amount of times just waiting to polsh room at the time, and he used to pick up like creative lessons and just throw it that. Some one just store laughs like booting doors and they'd all be laugh in the let me go that. Go on a short yourself out. You're fucking God, shake as I'm use the bath. And then another came by by ten o'clock and everyone to be laughing the boat they put then it just it was a daily a Kid, and every day I suppose to makes you fix skin, doesn't it somewhere? Who the part of myself on the way on it with the Moant alonger some at about before everybody else, because by the time all than the US just come out in the morning, I'm ready. Yeah, yeah, there's a funny...

...thing there in that morning, isn't it like if I'm a nice host palm breakfast splits and works in this hotel and it was like start to six or seven and then I'd finish it. Well, sometimes three o'clock and I'll be back in at six. I like going to world like first in the morning. I just didn't want to speak to anybody. Housekeeping tick people be there and they say alone and I just be like yeah, I just want to say anything. Sometimes it sounds really bad. Now I'll go. That's what I was like. I mean, I got I can get that by of one morning where it's like I don't even like the way you breathe them, like you breathe clay. It's funny. There' interesting like what ticks what ticks people off? You know, one's different on it or my but my beard way drop in the morning like she's in a Disney film, like she's so happy. Bears a coming into the windows and so slow. Is like it's the opposites in the Mato came from through that. She'll in that cheese. I rate any little fingers and another mat on my hard full of them all. It's all the way it happen. It's funny. Yeah, no, no, I will, yeah, but be there. Yeah, they would have gone. It definitely makes yeah, of course, course, Nas. It's been a pleasure to chat to you and it's been really, really good at us. Yeah, thanks, met, I take it. Yeah, yeah, no, you welcome. UP ON SEEMING INTEREST.

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