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Episode 67 · 2 years ago

The Parrsitivity Podcast #Episode 36 Paul Smith

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In today's episode I'm with Paul Smith, Paul is a life coach/speaker. in today's Episode we talk about motivation, covid-19, mental health, finding your passion. Instagram: @plsmith32 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the-parrsitivity-podcast/message

Hi, welcome to the positivity podcast. On today's episode I'm with Paul Smith. Paul Smith is a motivational speaker and life coach. On today's episode we talked about Mental Health, passion, living your best life and coping with the current situation with covid nineteen. So I hope you enjoy this episode. So sit back, relax and enjoy. Poor, I do enjoy. Yeah, okay, good, yeah, yeah, sound so many really a year? Yeah, yeah, close, crystal. Can you heavy? Okay, yeah, sweet, so light. How things are you you? I see that you've been like you're doing those content for your facebook group and all of that's really good. One cheers money. Yeah, that's busy at the minute and with everything that's going on, but yeah, great, and you. So. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I've just being kind of cracking on with this really, you know, kind of got the time to do it now. So just kind of been focusing on this and I feel with bits like yeah, it's amazing, I see, this is a what you have to abserve. Was it your thought something now? Yeah, I think this is three eight. This is the thirty eight. I'm just processing two of oness in a minute. That's good. One. You need some great progress with its one last it. Yeah, no, I appreciate it. It's just initially getting started. I think that's the hard part of anything, isn't it? It's getting the getting the gears into place and just doing it and, you know, not not so much thinking about the opinions of all people, you know, just kind of doing it. That's that's one of the difficult hurdles to overcome, I find, you know, with a lot of things we do. Yeah, yeah, yeah, you're right. You know, it's the beginning pieces, the hardest piece be you get started and you get into that fluid's just nice. Yes, I momentum minute, you know, once you get going, it just kind of builds. It does so so lie with everything going on. Of like is it how you kind of been coping with it? Like, you know, what are you kind of use your time and and I've just been working that I was to be honest. As you seen, im just really to and you working and trying to learn new skills and stuff. Myself built on your website from scrupt. I didn't higher developer anything. So literally try to learn the text editor. For in terms of managing time, it's just you know, it's prioritize and putting pins and things. Come back to things at different times. What can we don't what can you do now that's going to give you, you know, more benefit in the long run? Little we're to spend your energy? That's a huge thing. Familiar without yourself the yeah, yeah, massively. I think, especially with everything going off now, I think people are being more mindful of, you know, who spent a time with what the focus on them, what they do, because you know your attensions, on ourselves, and you know, if you're not doing things or around, things up deserve you. You know, you kind of feel a bit near negative about it. Yeah, I definitely it's The Times they are in at the minute. You know, it's easy to feel a bit lost. Once you find that you can, you know, the things that you enjoy in mind that we just got momentum we found actually channel, when you know they what's going on, into a bit of motivate option and just get a stick in. We've got been at home, we've got a lot of time. This is how we want to choose to point it. Yeah, no, I agree, and it's this what you choose to do, isn't it? Just thinking about, you know, the effects of what you do afterwards. You know, if I do X, Y Z, I'm going to feel, you know this after doing it. Yeah, you right. Want to tell you know, one of the questions I like to ask people is in years time, years half time with people, ask you know what were doing in isolation. What do you want your answer to be? Yeah, you want to see you...

...around watching Netflix and you didn't we do much with it, or do you want to see actually a pull change? Do I thought and I put a lot of effort into my passions and what I want to run, like into something worth while. Ye're not massively and often that's, you know, a great perspective, isn't it? Because, you know, gets people thinking about, you know, what, about why am I doing? You know, what have I achieved? Because, you know, when things kind of gravitate towards being a little bit more normal, you know, going to have that time, an opportunity to do the things that you want to do. You know that you probably could have done more. Yeah, regrets, you know, regret and Gil, you know self, girl, is not something you want to carry, you know, for thinking tea. So I could have done this and that. Yeah, exactly. You know, we do that a lot of humans. You know, we can tend to beat ourselves, but we don't get to or to do list. We don't get Sufil the productive and we should have done. And it's difficult. You know, any change it first is hard. And the we first went into all everything going on, to on every one a minute. It's you know, it's difficult to find a new routine kind of adapt to the big change it's going on. But wouldn't you hard once you've found that and you know, pick yourself back up again and really really put your energy into what it is you want to do? It's a perfect time to be creative, it really is. Yeah, now, that's exactly. Is that clear? And you know it's important to you know, do what make sure happy, isn't it? And Find Your Passion and, you know, just to take that chance, you know, to that leap of faith and just do it. Like everyone's got their own passion and different thing that drives them. I like, if you want to learn another language, I learned, that's play the musical instrument or set up a website, you know, the or read a bulk even, you know, kind of by I find that sometimes, you know, the world that we live and there are so many things to do. It's almost like like people can't decide what to focus on because there's so many different things to focus on. Yeah, and I completely agree with you there. You know, we live in the world where we have access to so much datas, so much information that, you know, it is overwhelming. We have to look to make the signs will find what it is that, you know, we want to do, but that's all external. You know, for me, even of the reason which I found what I like and I enjoyed doing is to start to go within. It's because, I'm it spiritual good. It's looking within and starting to feel what you actually want to do rather than thinking too much about everything that's available to you. Yeah, and no, I agree, and I think like that's what people kind of, I think, don't do as much, but there might be, you know, fingers crossed, doing it a lot more through what's happening, because you have the tunity self and look for them to then, you know, get a feel for what you want, you know, externally, whereas I think a lot of people are doing it backwards, the seeking things externally to kind of we wore that thing internally, if that makes sense, you know, through buying things or engaging certain things, and I completely agree with you, or that. You know, like I feel like when we hear the words we need to find our passion, it's a bit of kind of red hair and a bit of a misguidance, you know, because it you know, when we look for ourselves externally, it's like looking for herself in a big game. Where's wally? And you know, it's felt in a crowd. But you know, if passion isn't something you find, this is my personal thoughts. Is Passion isn't something that we that we feel, like you said, then it's not buy any things to make us feel better, it's not touching our goals to having this car as anything house. It's about going within and doing stuff that makes you feel good from within. You enjoy you know, you mentioned speaking you language or taking up a new skill and putting new music instrument. That's the sort of thing that if you feel that engine, you feel good when you do that activity, whatever it is, then you know your own too towards your passion. But no, that's and that's kind of like you know what you're doing and obviously something to what I'm doing. And you know a lot of other people out there, you know, who posting videos or doing certain things on social media. You know that's some of them that they feeling themselves is is a good thing and I think you know that people can only kind of grow from what's happening in some way if they engage in that. Yeah, I completly agree with you. Completely agree. But...

...but like I saw that you've, is it some up you've gone up now or something, or a website the coaching minds such as I'm still it. It's it's a new website. So it's a kind of coaching firm. So what I really believe in, and I'm sure you believing this to you wouldn't be doing this podcast, is, you know, collaboration in the coaching world is key and to work together. You know, if you want to make an impact to the world, you've got to work together with people and you know you've got a look a little different ways in which you can do that, which you're doing with this, this amazing podcast. You know, you're so different. People get some of your views out there. It's amazing and see it puts together. The first coaching firm where a group of coaches that are working together. And Yeah, it's just a place to get a personal development stuff, but coaching sessions, all that sort of stuff. So, yeah, it's kind of coming together and trying my passion through coaching and making a difference. Yeah, Nice, really, really amazing and I you know, I'll appreciate you. Know, what you said about podcast really means a lot, you know. You know it's good of what you're doing and your website and collaborating with other people. And you're right because, you know, like coaching and networking, you know, it's you go so much alone, like you do need people to networking collaborate with to kind of grow it. Yeah, no, hundred percent, to grow it and to make a bigger difference, you know, and it's one of the things I always keep in mind is I like to have it a good network of coaches, you know, so if I get, like my client, basically big and too many people are puching me, I like to be able to point people in the right direction, you know. And you know we're not be the best, we're not going to have the best chemistry that were connection with everyone, but if you know, even more will. He's like a collaborate with more coaches. I know, I can see. You know, this guy is fantastic. You're going to speak to added more, because speak to you whoever you know. You can point them in the direction people that you think they will be connected with it a deeper level, because it's for me, I live by this flocky, like you know, bull shure. If people should people should be open, people should be able to talk about their problems and it doesn't matter who they're talking to, a long as they're talking to someone, if you get me. Yeah, yeah, of course, and you know that's kind of why, you know, one of the key things of coaching isn't like that one we met in London when we did our course and you you would say, I know, when the demonstration sometimes one coach would work better with that person compared to someone else. It's nothing personal, it's just power is sometimes, and that's it's good that you can kind of refer people to or people you know, because they might be able to kind of help that person with whatever is. You know. Yeah, definitely, you know, and we're looking to be it deeper than niches here. You know, we it's good to know which is of our specific niche work with a religion gear. You can put them toward the little couch. So wants help the problems. You can put them towards the conference coach. H I mean's deeper than Nice. It's that Endy, that con that you have with some one you know. You probably experiences in your well when you have discovery sessions or conversation about first session with a client. It's not about the inkling one is that there's the connection there and if it's right, right, if it's not, then who else can you bind them towards? Yeah, no, exactly, in a side rapport isn't it? Because you know about that rapport on that connection, you know going to be able to develop that trust as efficient as effectively. Exactly exactly. So, like with what you're doing, like what platform when you finding beneficial, because I mean there's not many different social media platforms and tools out there. I mean, would you say like facebook's on a working feus? I know there's like Tick Tock, instagram, facebook, snap chart, there's Linkedin. Tick tocks kind of taken over massively. Yeah, Tick Tock is up and coming. I'm yet to go on tick tocket I'm going to keep back for one or two and you know me, I'm a bit behind with the here, with the technogy and a use instagram a lot and for Melia and the best platform that's work for me at the minute is is facebook and it's working nicely for what I want to do in terms of webinars and groups. Have a lot of private facebook groups on there and they don't know the functionality of having pages and everything. And know you've got some of the instagram would and it's but made the minute facebooks working and do need to. I've stopped to venture out in Torun a little bit more of the PAS couple weeks. Tick to it's a couple coming and it's a...

...good opputy. Brits coaches and people want to make a difference. So we can use that platform because it mean it. I find that I don't know if you feel soon, but a lot of tick tock is it's very it's comical because it's comedian's for a laugh. You know, it's fun and it's been about to how do you use the funds by it but also deliver an important message to people to hmm, yeah, that's good. It's a good point. And I think that's why I found a top as well. Like it's a very good APP and there's a lot happening on it. And the thing is a lot of people are doing, you know, these dancing videos and, you know, create a creative, fun out there clips. But you know, I've seen people use it doing martial arts or boxing and they're using it to show tactics and things like that. But you know, a lot of people only want to give, you know, thirty seconds of their attention to a video. Yeah, or twenty seconds. The people want to onto because you swipe, there's there's thousands of videos and you can just swipe ops, wipe ups, whip up, you know, and to do try and corporate what we do and to that up. You know, the people really want to spend other a minute listening to something. It's it's sure that people out there that would, but you're trying to engage yourself in something that's very, very different to what you're doing on you yes, how do you appeal in that kind of area? Yeah, I mean you just said this is so right. It's some meaningful you know, it's thirty second videos. You know, instagram. For me, you go back this film unilize pretty instant fixed people swipe, do look doings from and you know it's good if you want to build a follow and if you want to get yourself out there seeing a bit of your personality. Would you know we need to talk with the development. When you talk about growth, we talk about making a real difference to people's life. Is The steppings enough? What can you deliver that's going to really be powerful? Within thirty seconds, you know, you being outside the box and you're right. People going there on the from the video get a bit feel good. You know, it's sting take. I just feel good that quick laugh, that quick smile. Well in deep and trying for nationals. Yeah, not, that's it. And I think you know, like there're are going to be people out there who will watch it. You know, it's it's not like how many people watch it, but who kind of who watches it? Isn't it really and who views your content? You know, you could get twenty people on it and one of those people might be part of a company or something that might open up another connection. That's the kind of the way I I view social media now, like you know, we're kind of poorly or guilty of it, you know, chase likes and responsors and things like that, whereas I think if you're just doing it, you're not thinking about that, it's a lot easier to make the content because you're there to provide value, not to the audience, not doing it for your for your own needs of the make sense? Yeah, no, exactly. You probably seen yourself on this junior self, you know, when I started a couple of years ago, and start putting on out there, think about looking to put out there. It's going to get likes and you know, you start the measure of your legs and hearts just to see if your confort and good music rep I will put them out. Well, actually, when asked, what about like, about loves, reactions, it's about yeah, job. Then when you believe in yourself that your message is bigger than you put it out there and contents out there, you get to the point where you don't even check back. The last time. I will get back to the hundred might cost I just come out. Yeah, I mean it's been even putting pumping out there or the Game Hue, try and engaging a lot of bit of a comment an engage and keep people. Really just put something out there for the simple reading help over the disco. I think that's why I like facebook, because it's easier to have those discussions of the back and comments and you know, it's got that lie function to but for me, put the content out there and yeah, don't know, that's that's all the good things about facebook and Linkedin. There's more. It's kind of more connected, more networking, isn't it? Whereas I've put content on instagram sometimes and I've just received liket likes or notifications or comments from fake accounts...

...or, you know, like Bots, and you know, to me like kind of you know, profiles are real, they're just kind of automated. Yeah, yeah, and yeah, and I've seen other people's profiles, you know, poor people really good profiles, put out some good content and they've got like, you know, fifty followers or hundred followers and they've got some really good content and I'm like kind of thinking how they only got fifty people there, but then I was like, well, those fifty people or you know, it's not about the numbers, is about who they actually are. You know, could be big, some big important people who follow them, and that's that's kind often, you know, the way social media should go, you know, and our people should think, because if you think constant about the numbers, you know you're only kind of filling your own ego and people are going to go into see that and you know it's not good for your self esteem. Exactly, exactly, and you know you need some important points there about they can prop out counts people with with little following and it's Looky, you can have thousands of followers, but what are the reason they following you for? I feel like instagrams a little bit of a game and people just like people's content. It's like the game of numbers, you know. Yeah, I feel like this and really, who business this feels this book. People just did liking things for the wrong reason. They're following you for the wrong reason. I've seen people follow me, unfollow me just so I can follow them back. There just wasn't Greens out there and the end of everybody on that, well, not everybody, but in a lot of people, I feel on there is to build this following, but the question is, you can have so many followers, but you know, it's for me, it's about if I had people follow me, I want them to follow me for the right intentions. Yeah, and that's what it's all about a isn't that? And you do the same with them. I've I've noticed on some accounts, and I actually need to kind of sort out my instagram because are following quite a lot. I just kind of like loads of stuff. But a lot of the time you're like something, they're like, they'll follow you and then on follow you just to get an, you know, number. And I remember, like Joe Rogan said, like you know, when he did is podcast. Yet I think two hundred people who watched it and he was like, no, it's not about how many views you guys by who actually reviews it. Yeah, and it's quite an, you know, an important spective, isn't it? Yeah, but as well, I know that twitch is upcoming, the streaming service twitch. You can people that they now open up a category for podcasts and people are, you know, just doing talks on it. It's not just for gaming now. Yeah, but yeah, like you said, you know, if you if you believe in what you do in your products, you know, it's about that impact you have another people, isn't it? That's far more beneficial. Exactly exactly. You know, I would rather have fifty followers that I made a difference in impact of their lives, then a thousand fig followers that are just follow me, food, whatever, you know. Yeah, about me can impact and a numbers. I don't care many people following people like you know, if I can just change one person or one piece of person's way of thinking by person put out there and my job's done, it's it was worth it for me. You know. Yeah, Nice, that's, you know, really positive, nice way you know being, isn't it? As opposed to, you know, people chasing their ego. You know, you putting something out there and making people happy, because that's powerful, isn't it? Know, almost has a ripple effect, you know, like you put something out there that make someone feel good, that makes you feel good, and then that might make a difference to their day and they might execute on doing something, you know, through the inspiration of you putting someone out there. Yeah, yeah, and as we're doing it, you know, I've seen a lot of people kind of for me, it's on that ripple effect. It's not about someone you sharing your post, but someone thinking about what you're written and then re writing it in their own way or, you know, plaster that message on in their own words to somebody else. I really like it when I see that. It's yeah, nice, that's kind of you know, and that's how the world should ditions. It's all about. We know we're all in this together. You know, we're not on a one man mission, are we? You know, it's who working together exactly exactly so so like because I met you in Lie London when we did that coaching course. What kind of got you into coach and were just certainly in this kind of life field offense? By what kind of draw you tru you to what I'll be upen honus. What drew me to coaching was two thousand and seventeen. I fell into quite a deep depression and really place and that I struggled...

...to get out of. And the only thing I kind of actually had not reason to do and to continue as my martial arts so used to know, twice a week to four times a week, just as a bit of a destruction and in their found kind of then philosophy and Chinese philosophy start to read real deep into that and then I found a coaching group and kind of side to transform myself with them three to four months and I thought. You know, I want to help other people now if I can build myself and where I was like drinking all the time, being a really, you know, depressive, horrible play bill. Out with that, you know, without therapy and constant because they just didn't work. I tried it and didn't work. It wasn't for me, you know, for Myself Out with that through coaching, through mindfulness to yeah, and how do I make that impact of the world? And I came across, you know, I did a lot of research on all different coaching courses and bound one that we did together. And, yeah, want to make that to help people now. So there really, you know, an amazing journey, isn't it? You know, it's like go to a certain placing yourself, you know, like look at you know how you can change a situation and make it better for yourself and then, you know, use that experience, isn't it, to help other people who might be in that place exactly. And you know, for me I feel like experience. This is where I feel like everybody's stories some important. You know, we've got a story, we should share it. If we've got experiences of going through things and we should share them because experience is what really helps people overcome you know, we we live in a world where education and qualifications are supposed to you know, that gives you credibility to help someone, but I feel actually it's experience that really lists learning. who was the want to take something's going to give you much more than talk to somebody as a qualification. Yeah, no, that's massive thing. I was true. And the thing is that like qualifications and certificate starts or part all kind of buys into the system and unfortunate, that US how systems being built. But like people would rather employ or listen to somebody who kind of walks their talk, so speak like you know who's who's, you know, lived through things, who's experienced things, and they're byproduct of, you know, their experience. You know. That's why, you know, I think I like you real lot, because he is an example of that. He, you know it's had all these different experiences and he's like, you know, look at me now. He's to the point where it's it's hard sometimes to that, you know, you could have a qualification something that you've got no actual, you know, experience. It's people are, you know, probably going to judge you more. You know, like gonna Think, you know, do you know? It's me exactly. Yeah, you know, Gary V is is the perfect example. You've probably done when I didn't look back at, you know, when he was doing his wine and amount of lives he plumb there, I think, with you got to Le to fifty five, really got a huge amount of different it lives that he kept doing every weekend, week out, even the Inter action just continue to continue to continue to continue. Look at him now. Yeah, that's it. And he kind of like, you know, came from like Europe and then came to the states and then you just kind of kept on in. This is before they add all the APPS and platforms out there is now. He was like the early days, like early facebox. Last Youtube days wasn't like when. Yeah, but not. That's it. And it's about your experiences and you know, it's what you do and how you use your experience, isn't it? You know, to benefit yourself another's and not be a victim? Because that's why some people can do can be in that trap of being a victim and be alarm not okay, because of x y Z. Yeah, victim murder is something that we can all fall into. It at some point. Yeah, it's, you know, simple solution. Now, Tho, as soon as we start to take accountability for our own lives and everything that happens to us and, you know, take some responsibility towards it, then we can walk change. Yeah, no, I agree, and I think, you know, right now is a time where people are more honest with themselves, because a lot of people, you know, all going to go in for our struggles, our own all or an obstacles in a minute and you know, we should be honest with ourselves and how we feel, because if you're lying...

...about that, you're only kind of, you know, kind of bullshitting yourself on, so to speak, on you, and that's not going to help yourself and that's not going to help other people kind of perceive where you are exactly. You know, and I'm honestly, that when twos and team was the first time I've felt the depression I've gone through a couple of years before that, but I just buried stuff, you know, I didn't want to face it, I didn't want to accept that in we'll take responsibility when he put for anything that was happening. So I buried it and that it comes to eat your lives or you're right. Yeah, we kind of bullshit ourselves. You can't bury what's going on. We've put a feel it, you know, to feel it, to heal it, and we need, yeah, follow a lot of said good and if you followed some Google before. But in one of his videos you talked about responsibility and how responsibility is about our ability to respond. So it's not about attaching blame or blooming ourselves for anything. It's about them. Right, I have will you to respond to any situation. How do I want to respond to that situation? Not about I'm blame and to blame for this, but how can I respond? Certainly asking the different question to yourself to thought walk yeah, I've I've seen a bit of his content. My brother follows and a lot, he watches a lot of this stuff, and it's a bit like a philosopher, isn't it? And that's at and I think a lot of people, you know, we all react to walk out, other we react and we don't respond. Responding to a situation and stuff is completely different, because this is a perfect example. I what's happening. A lot of people reacted to pickome. They didn't respond, they went reacted, flew to the shopping supermarkets, ballards of things. That's that's a reacting, isn't it is? Yeah, some people react, but also people put blame. You know, hear a lot of people in our conversations there come to be in the government or the blame in this or the blame and that the judge for the blame on somebody else. That's going on and that mindsetting itself is not a great space to being. So instead of seeing, right, who can I blame for this? It's right. How can I take responsibility for this? You know, and this is not seeing that you you cause the virus or you to blame for the virus or whatever that's going on. It's actually seeing, okay, I have an ability to respond to this situation. It's you looking at what you can control and how can you then use your ability to respond to make a different or help out place or, you know, de Creative or, if you want to respond, to do nothing, at least you're giving yourself that truice, because it's quite a deep Topica, is there. It's like, you know, like especially with you know, I'm not going to go into politics, but you know, the government life, if people. If the government or people are more genuine, people are going to trust them because if you know, as a human being like we're not stupid. We can see what's genuine and what's real and what isn't. And if someone's not putting the hands up and taking a bit of flack and be honest, people are going to buind that trust. Because you've got to be honest for yourself, to be with you know, honest with other people, aren't you man? Yeahs want us to be honest with yourself, to be working people good. It's more value and not not being honest, but just so change your main set so that you look at what you do or you can control and how you can react, rather than, you know, trying to put this blame onto something else to give you an excuse not to act, if that makes sense. said. Yeah, deep coming. But you know, what's causing everybody pain right now is that they're being forced to do something. You know, if you take your favorite chocolate bar, I don't know most well, whatever, right. If you were eating that on your own, that's it's amazing, you know, but if some stuffinite down your neck, you're going to hear it. You know this is the fact that we're being forced to do things rather than actually doing things out of her own choice that's causing us this pain. So how do we flip that background so we're taken back control them, we're using how we want to respond to things? That makes yeah, I I agree. It's a good point. And it's not just being forced physically by staying in certain locations and not being able to do certain things. I think we're also being forced, you know, the information and the news, like whatever platform me go on, it's all about the virus and I'm I'm very choosing how much news I look right now and what news I look up, because, I mean, I talked about this on a podcast. Every day. So I went on Sky News and at the very top it was like breaking news. People at home and now having to, you know, work on their own dental surgery feelings, and I was like, how is...

...that breaking news? How is that at the top of the news? L and the news, like the media, don't put much goodness out there, they don't put much positivity out there, and and that's, you know, something that makes is control in some way, because it makes people more vulnerable and scared exactly, and you know, you just give the perfect example of the difference between you know, have using that boy to respond and you said they're they're very careful and you choose what news you watch. There you know, said the media is forcing negative stuff on us and what we have a choice to read, that, we have a choice to believe that. So, you know, we could take that back and look inwards and see a right. How do I choose to respond to the media? And for me, and I guess you do some semers. I don't want anymore. You know, I said the words for the important things that I need to do on my phone, but I don't watch the media anymore because it caused all this thing. You can even breaking uses people to films at home. You know, like HMM, yeah, that's certain. There's different sources you can get your information from. That I think Forbes, Forbes and eyes at the New York Times and I know Linkedin News. It's it doesn't really publish, you know, in an next is. They just can't lay down the facts. I find. So you if you can find, I don't know, other alternatives and new sources that don't put all the Negg you know, brandle the egg to stuff. They just laid down the facts. I think that's kind of probably, you know, a good way of filtering your news up, because it's your time and it's your energy and it's like I used to religiously do it every morning Sky News, first thing in the morning. Spend about fifteen minutes of my time looking through stuff, and you know that that was it our first twenty thirty minutes as you wake up. Those forts that you think carry throughout your day. So if you're if you're looking at negativity first thing in the morning, that's going to carry throughout your day exactly. So that's why it's good to, you know, soon as you wake up, check out your you know what you're doing, your wisdom creators and let's CACW page and you know, check out my podcast the morning. You know, give it up. Positive Sids. Yeah, but you know you're getting everything you're seeing here. It's your living that choice. You know people who you know read the news or whatever, social media, because you know you got a lot of news on social media and that's negative. It's this. But you know, we can see our media's negative. It's crap, it's this, it's makes us all we can do something about it, like you haven't choose. You know what you follow, who you follow, what you want. When you watch it. You know it's exercise and that ability to respond to excess in our choice. Well, the media negative like yeah, a nice sucklear and I think through this, I think less and less people are going to be wanted to consume it because people confused. Yeah, and I've been confused by I think. You know that one day it's this, one day it's that, and it's almost like, you know, the government and the media don't really know what to publish next. It's all that's publish this, because this is, you know, new information or evidence, and then the next day as something else. Yeah, you know, did you this? Newly knows what's going on. It's all you've got a various with a cure. We've never working to from those who need and newly knows what's going on. You know, the more we try and make sense of it, the more we feel confused and lost. So it's just in case, off, you know, digest what you need to do. I guess focus on what one what you can do right now for yourself, you know, and others around you. When you help the situation. Yeah, now, that's that's is a clear and it's folcus on what you can control and what you can control isn't as well, because we need that sense of control. Knowing us, that's that's certainty. We crave certainty. We need to know what's happening right now. We don't. So that's kind of causing a lot of anxiety by people. How, how would you say or what tips would you give the people to kind of, you know, manage their anxiety or emotions of them which says the things are always believe? It is. You know, when we not feel anthistic, the focus too much on the future. You know, with Pouk staching my imagination, we start to think about, you know, what this work we're going to mean for our future. So for me, the biggest tip with anxiety finding something that brings you to what happened right now. You know, and I'm not seeing what's happening outside. If you've got a house, so you see your job, whatever, it's going to bring you yourself to the present moment. You know, I'm trying to not get to spirititual on it, but it's bringing yourself in the...

...present. You know, your meditation or German as or stuff a grade. But what is it? What activity do you really enjoy? You like reading, univer's a Netflix users and what can you bring yourself to the mole? Stop thinking about the future. What can you do right now? You know, makes make the most of what's happened? Yeah, no, I must have really, you know, agree with what you said, and I think it's well staying present asn't it? You know, because if you start thinking all the box, you know what or if in all of that, and thence the future, you're not gonna you know, we can. Your Immune System get stressed, more chances of getting a cold and your energy levels going to be like. So, yeah, you know, it's exactly right, you know, just do the things I make you happy and kind of bring you back to the moment, isn't we? So that moment it's looking at what you can control, you know, and so stop looking things that you can't, because when now, you know, I'm not with my family. I missed the cut off to get back up north. So, you know, also learned on south and and you know, I can focus on am I ever going to see my family again? What's gonna Happen? hown's going to go. I can, you know, I can go to all those negative thoughts or I can see him right and here. How can I put myself into my work? I can I do the creat stuff that I enjoy doing? How can I make an impact to people from our home? How can we make a different what's going on right now and stop worrying about the future? You know, and I know it's easier said than done, but if you find those things that will mind, okay, then that the twig. That's going to happen. No, so you definitely kind of hit that out on the head and I think, you know, we kind of cover some really good points and I think it's definitely true, isn't that you have a choice of what you focus on and we've all got our own mental health ruling this together. So I mean it's not like they're you know, people might all that, people are there, might feel alone, but you know, the the reality is other than all and because the thousands billions of people out there who are experiencing exactly the same things, I can ye know that who world. So you know, if you think about things that have a negative things happen all the time. Death happens all the time, you know, people are going through shit all the time. The only problem we have right now that makes this different is that we're all gone through it together at the same time. But whole world, everybody on this planet, is being affected by this, this pandemic in one or another, and that's what's you know, it's causing the real issue. But one of the things I like to try and tell people, and it was Simon Ce neck, you've got me into this way of thinking, that we need to let go, getting back to this sense of normality, trying to seven things were tried to kind of keep ahold of things and preserve things that we have, and that's not a great mind set to be and we need to change. Or folks, you on how we can know change, really do things now you know. So, if you're a small business, for example, and you know you're trying to preserve or preserve it or trying to keep the things that you used to do, things really used to do them, how change that? To adapt? You know, it's all adaptability and it's the same for whatever you're doing. It doesn't want to be business owner to adapt, adapt, wing into the situation and making a new set of habits and new form of you know, what you're doing on your daily basis and adapting to this new way of living. Yeah, Nus, I completely agree and I think that's a rare prime example already. Good point is, you know, how the how do you improvise an adapt and what you're doing? And I know for I think some sectors, you know it is kind of make or break, you know, especially hospitality industry. But you know, like there are ways around there, you know, do you do more deliveries now? Do you use online, things like that. So you, like you said, you've got to look at ways of to improvise an adapt and, like you said, a lot of people want to rush back to normal, but that that normal gone, but that's in the past and we're creatures, are habit. We want to return back to our old habits and ways of living because, you know, the how society is being running up until this point, you know, being going on for years. So people want to run back to what's the norm and what feels safe and comfortable to them. So it will be interesting to see how society runs after this and how businesses operate, because I saw an article on Linkedin and it said that office, Office is especially are going to have to adapt. They're not going to be the same as these...

...today. There's going to be screens, they're going to be more kind of like segregated and stuff like that. So it will be interesting to see see what happens. I mean, it's going to be less office space. People probably going to be doing more online, online conferences, its rooms. Good to you. You do like the online face now and you know it's become, become the habit. It's going to be the way of working. That's going to be, you know, is the future, and you're right, it's going to take time. You know. How how is it that you're going to act when you know all these quarantines or people can go back out? A lot of people will back out if you can readapt to the old ways of you know, back and it's going to go on for too long that it's going to feel unusual when things do start to go back to the way in in sense of not back with a word, but when we can go and we can go and have a meal and a restaurant and we can go to the pub and we can go do things socially together again, it's going to have a different feel it's going to be different. Yeah, no, I agree, and I think you know, like it takes three years, it three weeks to develop a new habit. So I mean where people are going to go? They've got used to how this is, you know, they, like I said, it's may be difficult to shift from this. So actually going back to work and a lot of people, you know, might figured out that the job they've been there and hasn't been serving them and they might have set someone else will will looking to other career opportunities in areas. So I mean there's going to be a lot of I think, in my mind, a lot businesses were people leaving a lot of businesses people. I want them to go back to work and in terms of like going back to restaurants and pubs like they would, they I don't actually know because I haven't heard anything yet, but there might beach doing social distance and the might be only letting so many people in the place. And people as well are going to be pretty traumatized after all of this, because it's kind of finding experience and people are going to be thinking differently exactly, and you know, it's it's this is going to go on for until they get a treatment that gets around everybody. You don't know. You know if it's going to be treatment and how it's going to cost some stuff, but it's, you know, the real this is going to go. Everything's going to be controlled and we need to act that that. You know, like you said, when we go to a pub, you probably have to do it in minds to get tables to restaurants. Is probably be less, less seats in Mister, all this social distance and thing is going to be going on for at least a year, you know, and it is not going to be like the quarantines lifted, wow, everything's back, going to do what you want to do. It's going to be slowly controlled and it's eventually going to get less and less and less and less and less. But that's going to be over a long period of time and we need to add that. Yeah, that's it, you know. I also thing as well that we've kind of got off lie with us and this is kind of like a practice running some some aspect, because you know, this, this virus is something that, you know, killed a lot of people and it's killed different age groups in this is something we need to just accept that there are viruses around and that money and resources and, you know, equipment needs to be you know, money needs to be put into other areas, because it's something we've just not had an our take awareness or taking seriously, and we just need to be more prepared. I think, just accept that this is something that's going to happen every so often. If we're not, you know, if we're not prepared efficiently, not, you're right exactly. That's what we should be thinking, that's what government should be thinking and what everybody should be thinking. It was to happen to everything gets back to a good, good place again. We all feel good, we can go and do we want. How do we prepare so the case it happens in five and again, we're better here? M It's new learning now and being able to apply that again in the future. You know, it's a big way up corks. You know, you think of all this money that's gone into the military and investing in technology for people. All you know, countries have been thinking the next big thing to shake the world would be another country invading or North Korea launching something, you know, which there might, I don't know, you know, something like that. So the money and resources need to go into like healthcare and things like that. So we know we're so. You're right, you know we live. It just shows we live in a world where everybody has melt...

...and health care. Not Everyone has food. You know we're not. Everyone has the basics and that's where the money should be spent. Yeah, but, like you said, we like to spend it on warfare and things. But let's look go to teep politics. Yeah, it'll be okay, though. Do you know mean we just, like I said, I need to focus on what you can control. US, just time wise, a coin. If you were always if you know better position and somebody else, then help somebody else. You know, there's always someone out there. We can't help someone else. It's worse up in us. Do when you can to pull them up. You know, if everybody was pulling everybody up instead of pushing everyone down, we've live in a better world. We really would. Yeah, I know that. That's exactly exactly. So, like how can how can people find you on stal medio and you're and they can follow my personal of facebook or Instagram, or they can just check out the coaching minds and find us on there. And you know, every least see this everyone's welcome to the wisdom creers group. It's an open joint platform for anybody who wants to join there and it's for the positivity, for the project, sort of personal growth. So even will welcome to join them too. Yea sweet cool so, you know, definitely positive what you're doing and you know you're doing a great job. And Yeah, continue to Wis Short, the best with what you know, Tom and keep up these podcasts and looking forward to this. Some webisodes come through and yeah, it's fantastic what you're doing here, so keep it up. It's a minute and thank you great. Yeah, no, I really appreciate it and you know you're very, very welcome to be on, you know, and come on this whenever you like. So I really appreciate it. Yeah, you welcome. You have an amazing doing it and will cut. Yeah, yeah, of course. Ter,.

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