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Episode 38 · 1 year ago

The Parrsitivity Podcast #Episode 64 Tom Cheshire

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In today's Episode I'm with Tom Cheshire, a good Friend of mine that I've known for many years! I'm very humbled to have him back on the podcast, in this episode we talk about time management, happiness and much more ! Instagram: @Tomtank389 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the-parrsitivity-podcast/message

Hither. My name is Adam Po and the podcast host posity to podcast. In this podcast, you will be listened to me connect with people from different walks of life, from the military to people in the music industry, to people in the self help industry and many other areas of life. In this podcast I'll be talking about topics from self help, mental health, motivation, spirituality, mindset, society, current affairs and much, much more. If you enjoy this podcast, please subscribe, share and let me know your feedback. And my main intention on this podcast is to have a positive impact for you, the lit the listener, to take something positive from it, to apply something positive into your life from this. Now with without further ado, let's go to podcast and enjoy. Hi and welcome to the polity to podcast. In today's episode, and with my good friend Tom sure, in today's episode we talked about society, social media, doing what you love and time management and much much more. So, sit back, relax and enjoy this episode. Tom Has a go and you're right. Yeah, yeah, bad. Thank you just having me on. I know you welcome. Good to have you back on the podcast. Yeah, yeah, we did another one the other day, didn't we? Bridge rational prompting and on the spot, so thought it'd be good just do another one. Yeah, notice, always, it's always good to do them with you. Yeah, what you've been doing today. May I've done quite a better than a lot of gardening in the garden. Yeah, just helping out my mom and brother and the garden. Really can I flip in the soil over? So yeah, I did. And then looking after the dogs. Been Pretty Hectic. And then who did my mom's are invalided it and all that. Did you well, I wouldn't say you like you know. It's the violence and standards of these guys and where years the quick one. So that's not I think. Once you get your own house and with your own Guarden, but you'll appreciate a lot more. Like I remember when I was younger, when I was still living at home, imm was like I help me the guy and helping the garden. I was like no, no, no, but now it's not. I Love God light. When I moved to my new house, off literally so many plans for what I want to do. If the guy like, I've got a list on the go of all the stuff I'm going to buy, like little barbecue. Am I even get a bloody gazebo baked in it with sudden chairs and stuff underneath the tables. Get those little garden likes. She knows. It looks like an airport run away, that kind of thing. Yeah, minds my starting to de relevant to like the monkeys order and all these solar lights. There must be about thirty scattered other gorden fly me like a Helly got on something. That's week. I mean, yeah,...

...that's but both my neighbors on either side, they've both like put loads of those lights in their garden. I put the the crap thing is when it's because of how bright it is, it shines to my bedroom window like legit. It's like a second son at nighttime whine shining through my window. It's horrible and they look tacky as well. They like one pounds lights from being in bargains from Oka. Yeah, I mean, if you're going to get if you're going to get those lights, at least go somewhere repsable, like bloody, being que, not being a bargains. That's that's how I feel when people going to buy you and your beer in your bit and your BMW's driving down the road and there's a led lights or in your eyes. It's almost be like that. Yeah, yeah, exactly. Obviously, when, when, when I live in out in the countryside, obviously you've got loads of people have their main headlights on like the bull beams, and it does blind you. Then you've got a flash. Then just so they turn off. Yeah, it's annoying, but we've got the know. I mean it's it's pretty grounding, ground, ground, then and it's like yeah, because, I mean it's the peace and serenity of it. I think that find relaxing and especially if it's your own guard and making it your own, it's really fun. I think I'm doing some cap plants on the go and become a local capital dealer selling him. Yeah, so bigs. Yeah, the little ten bag for the cut down the road is a regular yeah, that's what I'm going to do. But yeah, we thought some topics and we had them, so let's let's get straight into it. So we thought two main ones. We've got time management and yeah, that ties in really well. We've locked down, doesn't it? And we've got adjusting to normal life post lock down. It's like we're coming back from tour or something. We need to adjust a civilian cash. Yeah, UM, yeah, Tom Management, I mean is it's different for every person. I was got a different lifestyle, but I think, you know, since lockdown I've been more aware of we know, where my time goes offink. Yeah, I mean I have as well to a certain extent. I mean it's one of them where I've got all the time in the world, but we haven't got all the time in the world. Does I remember? I keep seeing these sort of posts like all, you've got twenty four hours in a day. Do this that. Neither know. You haven't got twenty four hours. You've got like eighteen, right, because you need eight for sleep, according to NASA. All Right, that's tells you that you've got twenty four hours in a day. You haven't. You've got eighteen. Yeah, yeah, it's eighteen. To you break how you break it down, isn't it? Like if you think this is why a lot of successful people get up early, because they have more time in the day? Yeah, yeah, I mean, yeah, hundred percent. Like a lots of this will people. You know, you see, how who can? I think, for example, Dawen Johnson. I think he's the rocky. He's in the gym four him but obviously it's his home gym, so it's not exactly along walking your bed to the jet and you got mark Wilburg. He's up super really to go to the gym as well. You See, I'm the opposite. I mean I've got borderline in from you anyway, that I've never sleep very well, unfortunately, and I do a lot of if I'm creating as nine Fj and I'm always thinking about new ideas and whatnot and how how to execute them. I do a lot of that night, often like two, three am perhaps. I'm always coming up with these ideas. Like came up. I came up with a proper, proper, good business ideas of the day and I was like who I am, and then I started getting more into it. The next day I saw carried on with it. And you do have a lot of...

...time, especially lock down at you're like me and you're in furlough until further notice, then yeah, you've got got ample time. And I remember were as soon as we went into lockdown in England. Is Like I said to myself, I'm going to have so much time, I'm going to do this, I'm going to learn a new language, I'm going to go on rooms every day. I'm going to be super productive, but then as soon as it came around to it, I was like Nah, I'm just going to get eat popcorn and watch netflix instead. I mean, that's that's one of the difficult things, or it's difficult to begin with. vers like you know, it's where. What's like? Why? It's a lot of adjustment and we're wired to lie, you know, be. It's that, you know, being comfortable. We like to feel comfortable. Yeah, because, I mean actually, we're creatures of habit. It's about breaking that that cycle if you really want to develop on yourself and, as I said, you know, if in furlough and you're not work at the moment, you've got ample time to do that. Like you, you and you're constantly working seven on your life coaching stuff. So one hundred percent. I applaud you for that. And you remember, I made a social media post the day about, yeah, a fruit, that's right. Yeah, and you know the fruits of your laghbor. We'll show sure. So you've definitely been more proactive than me, that's for sure. For probably in certain areas, like you said. I mean I appreciate that, but you know, you probably being proactive and or realize I have, and so, I mean everyone's Jommy and doing certain things that someone else isn't doing or doing more so if you know live, I think like so with social media and you know, like the kind of podcasts and the coaching and it's, like you said, when I want to first started posting content and how you structure in the hashtags and ideas for stuff like it, it's difficult and it almost requires, you know, a bit of mental kind of strength, because you have to think about a lot of different things out, things are going to appear and come across. Yeah, you have to be, because you've got quite a wide audience now, I mean you, I don't like. You've got to be. Yeah, careful with this stuff. Yeah, one what? It's one of them where one little slip up and that's say finished. I imagine if Gary P said something wrong. Yeah, the majority would think is wrong, at least any way either. You know, that could possibly be him over. So yeah, definitely you've got to be careful structure things well, it's like he kind of puts out live. Much there's to do. There's a two different ways people put our content. People put our content masters like he does, and if one of them takes off, it takes off. And he talks about saying, he says to a lot of people that you should be creating, I think, twenty five pieces of content at day, or at least, at least three to seven pieces of content. You know, if business dependent, you know and on what your businesses but it's, like you said, if you if it is a consistency and that consistency the most difficult bar. That's that's like with anything, like you said, going for a run. I mean you you started running. I've been running as well and like some weeks I'll go three times a week or four. Some weeks I'll go one and especially the weather is bad, so difficult. Sometimes, like you said, you sit down or you have a cup two and then you get distracted by something or you feel comfortable. Yeah, you feel comfortable and then it drive kind of dissipates a little bit, does it does? Like earlier I was all look for a run instead, I'm going for a walk or mate later and stay just round, just round where we live it. But I sort of said that and then I've got into bed because I was watching traffic cops and eating cereal two PM, like most people do, obviously, and...

...and then I was sort of I've been setting up. So before we start the PODCAST, I've just been busy setting up Google home. Off You got clubs. I I ordered it yesterday and it arrives tomorrow, so I've sort of just been setting it up. It's what's it? The Google hub, Nest Max, something like that. was that the one with does all your lives for you, where you go out on? Yeah, yeah, so that that's that's my sort of long dream vision for for my folk. When I move house after lockdown, I want to make it into one of those like problem milt smart homes. So I've got I got the slightly better up the two hubs. It's got like a camera on it as well. What. Yeah, it's got it's got a little camera attached to it and you can do like a scary if you can do zoom calls or where. There's basically a glorified pizza timer. I don't time and you could hear it is like you say. You say, Ay, Google set of pizza time before me. Oh my PA, just flash and and you can. You can set a little pizza time, except it's got camera but yeah, I've just been doing that. So I've against them regular setting up a gmail account. Trave hesitant to do I don't really trust Google, but I've got a google phone about to Google friends, and I pretty reliable, to be honest. I mean I think it's like all of these big companies. They've they were taken all your information. Yeah, I will take that anyway, aren't they? But I say Google and Apple, you know, pretty much up there. Yeah, yeah, percent these these things, like these voice recognition devices that love, like they'll be fitable these plastic arms soon, so you can just block. Hey, Google, Wa wash the dishes and they just starting the distance for your something we can only hope. But yeah, sorry, going back to what I was saying. Yeah, I only I was like planning the rest of the day and I was already I really found you're wrong. So I went for a run the other day with my make pace, but and I really, really enjoyed it and I had such a good sleep that, I tell you, not being for a running ages. Then as soon as I sat down on the are now I really can't be put so that that that plays on the whole. You know, you get too comfortable and you don't want to do things that. I don't really fancy moving now. You know, I'm comfortable on the couch. But no, we do need to stay to this any current benefit at the end of the day. Yeah, I think to reinforce that will you said as well, and I don't know if you feel this way, but because was, you know, the weeks gone and then it's the weekend and Sunday. I think someday almost reinforces that comfortability because, you know, it is not pure browl and not many people are doing and if I'm rather it's very quality. It's just that it's just culture. It's out, it's the culture hearing a Sunday Lord's Day, Lazy Day. That's that's, that's all day. It's IT'S A lie. Everything should be running as normal on the Sunday. In my opinion, there's no need for it to stop for one day. where. Why stop the economy for just one day? What's The doing? Just just continue. But no, definitely there is that. Or around Sunday and not doing anything at all. But I'm always out doing something on this and day. Yeah, I can't stay indoors. I just can't anymore. You know, if you asked me that two years to three years ago, I point told you, yeah, I'm just going to play xbox all day and we're going to do anything else. But now I can't stand sitting indoors, yeah, doing nothing. I hate it. I know, I know, you mean like just matured really this. It's just it's just one big massive mindset and that's what we've kind of absorbed and taken and from on by. Yeah, what...

...the world thought us. Because when, I mean when I went to Nice, front ice, I'm pretty sure that their day of where rest. I think I'm like a month day of West where? But the day West much yeah, day Westburney, my teeth back. Day of rest. I swear they have like a rest day on look a Monday or something, because one way was going through the airport on Sunday and all those people are shopping and it was busy as hell. It's like so we're doing at some buffing, some caught. Some places have different days of operating. Like you said, it's it's, you know, culture. It's culture and it's just a big massive mind sir, like yeah, it is. I mean I remember when I went to Venice and it was really weird because I was walking around the sort of town, towny bit. Well, it's more on the backstreets, but there were loads of shops there and none of the shops were open during the day. Yeah, soon as as soon as the sun foul and it hits early evening. Lately all the shops opened, like what, what's up with that? Why can't I go out and buy something during the day? I've got to wait until evening? But it's just the culture. It's just what it's like down there. It's because this fake culture of everything needs to close the four PM on a Sunday. I wanted to go as the bar, couldn't because the bloody shopper closed at four PM. That's where that's that's just my opinion it that opinion doesn't necessarily represent the majority. No, I'm sure a lot of people love having us some day off, but I don't see any need for the world to start on one day in the week. That's just my take on it. Well, there's a lot of you know, a lot of places, like I said, that close early on certain days or the some places number when we went to New York, like and it's a different place, but like you know. But I like shops were opuntil our one and at one in the morning, like you could go shopping and buy a Su jacket, like one o'clock. But it's crazy, like I remember when I when we're in the hotel and now went outside of a cigarette like what's arms, like two am some ridiculous like that. The sidewalk or pavement, of course they obviously quite sidewalk over there was just as busy as what you would expect in like Nottingham City Center at midday on a Saturday. It was packed. Yeah, crazy. I think that you think of like that particular place, there are so many businesses, the so many a pert you know, opperuasions and businesses working, you know, twenty four seven. is almost like a steam engine that people's work shifts and patterns are so all over, like it just doesn't stop. No, I mean that's because America's pretty much I mean life in America in a big city. So in the big city in America, life is just a rat race, you know, it's surviving for fitting there. There is an exactly a lot of money going around. I remember saying about America is just it's poverty about up in a goopy belt, and I thought. You know what? That is so, so true for the majority. It's see all these sort of underfunded cities like Chicago. You know, they really struggling our in Chicago, and then you've got all these places like Florida, like it's just it's bad capitalism. That's that's how I see America's is a bad capitalist it not against capitalism, don't go wrong. I like it because capitalism sort of some courage to where the world, where the future encourages sort of what's looking for, people inventing things and stuff. That's why I like capitalism, but America is not so good an innovation. Innovation, that's the word I was looking for. Thank...

...you at it, but yeah, anyway. So, yeah, time management probably quite attrack. I didn't we but it all kind of links. So if you think about because it does, the struggles and time, time while like Whitson a time as money and it's it's like, and the thing is with time as well, and money is like you know, different forms of income, like you know, passive income. You know, said of the kind of the beauty of it. It's trying, you know, the way I think. Yeah, I wish try and get it too. If we can is where, like you said, you got passive income, you got money being made about you having to spend your I'm together money. So your you've got yeah, thing, yeah, Workay, that's what grant card and said. He said, you know, unless you're making money in your sleep, you ain't winning. That's simply what he said, and it's true, because he's a massive land or dout in the stage, isn't he? Yeah, so, yeah, completely agree with that saying. Just like if you're not making new sleep and women. So the goal is to one day make money host sleep. Yeah, figure out how. I mean. I know I'm going to be a landlord died away in the future, so maybe I'll be able to expand on that hopefully get some passive income from that. Thinks Cross. It's having a product or a process that can you know, it can be consumed and purchased, you know, whatever that might be. I mean, well, you've got you got to meet the demand. Yeah, but, like it's crazy when you watch these programs and these businesses and you break it down how much money they make and you know, like one example, I think of Amazon, Jesus, like the Oh yeah, that's all. Someone the other day about that picture of Jeff Bezos where sign the desk could be seen it. No, I haven't. There's an old picture of Jeff Bezos when he's starting out and then and you surrounded by books, because that's what Amazon used to do in there, is they just used to sell books. He's he's staring as old computer and I on a bit of cardboard spray painted on it says Amazon Dot comcom. Yeah, I remember that photo. Well, yeah, yeah, that one. Yeah, he's done very well, but we've also got a thing Amazon, the employee loads of people and the Amazon employees. They're paid here. There's lots. They're not respected. Like Drember, I told you that Amazon work is came for me at service station just off the end one. Oh yeah, he ran off with TV's from the warehouse to sells me because he said that Amazon simply doesn't payment off and I don't know whether that was a lie and he'd actually stole them from somewhere else. I don't know, but they were brand new TV's tour in the packaging and that's really said. Is Amazon. He's a delivery drive Amazon and he makes like nothing, next to nothing. No, I I'd hate to work and that it was as that's a high pressure job, isn't I mean? Yeah, picking, picking items in a factory on a time basis. Yeah, I mean I've been there and done that myself and I'm used to working away. Oh Ye, be so all those years ago and we had to meet a certain quoture, but the level of pressure they're compared to Amazon, it will pale in comparison. There's mud, but like La's time as well, isn't it? Like, you know, you think of that and you think of lie but time, quite time in your energy, is one thing that you can't get back, and I think that's why it's so important to do, you know, to do things in the right place. Yeah, and to do things that you you love doing. Do you think that you enjoy? I mean everyone's different. I mean on a Sunday, yeah, I'll play playstation for a probably an hour to or whatever, you know, and that's okay to do things like that, to do have recreational activities, but it's fine social view as willing it, because you've got you've got leam and Lewis on there as well and you're so, yeah,...

...that's quite social for you playing. So the socialist, but yeah, but you said you know time, where you put it, you know the people you put it around, you know who spend your time with, the things that you do. All kind of adds up. And I did a podcast one guy and he's talking about compound interest and you're saying, like you do, something like one percent. Say They might be working out for twenty minutes a day. That's like saying one percent. And then over time that then built, just like you know money, putting twenty quit a side, putting fifty power side, it's a compound interest. So over time it then builds. See. Let See. Okay, you know, I think I can relate to that. I remember when I was how old as I like twent two some, that after work every day I'd start. Thank you for ask so could you hear that? Yeah, I can. I can hear everything you're doing. O. I remember after work I'd spend about twenty minutes, half hour working our home and that's slowly developed in going to the gym like every single day, and back then I did. I did pretty well for myself I was gym was concerned, but I wait, I think between thirteen fourteen stone. So I was, you know, properly putting putting on the pounds. So I think I understand that sort of saying. Well, what is trying to get at? Yeah, I think I've been there, done that much and you does it does develop and grow. You can buy that twenty from yeah, hundred percent if you and if you was reading a bucket in particularly like reading, read for ten minutes a day. Okay, after doing that for six days, build up to twenty next week. You know, it's start. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I guess the same could be safe if you're trying to get out of a bad habit, like don't go cold Turkey. Yeah, we need self off it over time. I think that's that's a good one to do, because that's what I'm doing with any drinks at the moment. I'm funks. So pretty much managed to we myself off and now, because I was like badly addicted to like monster and crap like that. But I've managed to we myself off it slowly and I'm getting there, but it takes time. It's not something that you can just stop. It takes free h there and then. Yeah, so it takes three weeks to form a new habit. Three weeks. Yeah, twenty one days yeah, does. But, like you know, that's that's consistency. Consistency is key when it comes to anything that's that's predicted is going to benefit you along when you've got a really, really keep at it until you hit that sort of three week threshold that you mentioned, and then it just become habit. That's what it's like. When I was working out our own I did that for lack a month and inside to step it up. MMM, but I wish I focused more on the health doing. There's a wealth in terms of working out during lockdown, because I have been on the occasional run and been on walks, but that was purely's like past the time, as opposed to actually working on myself physically. So I wish I was a bit more proficient in that aspect when it comes to time management. But well, I'm going on a walk later or run later. I see our base feeling. Yeah, well, I mean there's no saying like you have to just completely dive into it. Just building it up, isn't it? You know, going for a walk with her build that momentum, isn't it? It's like be earlier in the garden. I started in the garden. It's like who the car for moving the car? You know I'm doing that. So it's like those small kind of ripple effects that we don't even really think about. That's it. Yeah, that's a really good way to put it,...

...and I spoke to somebody coming who was and those saying that crucial part of your day is waking up like that, though. What's like? What the key parts of how your day will go? How you feels when you wake up for a thing in the morning, because if you think, if you think positive thoughts in the morning or you do something positive, that'll then kind of ripple throughout your day, if you yeah, I mean that's a lot of attraction, isn't you know? Your thoughts will manifest into reality. Thanking this a traumatic. Yeah, it's true. It's what. It's what you said on don't worry, the single which is really good. M everyone go listen to Mr Traumatic. Don't worry, you'll change the way you think. I was going to say, yeah, thoughts manifesting for as you so yeah, I percent agree with that. If you wake up on the right side that, then that's going to have an outcome on the rest of the day. Definitely. That's how you know if you're doing a job you don't like it and enjoy. You know you CANNA wake up in a bad mood. If you hit your Toel on the side, that's going to make it even worse. You probably not got to once talk to people. You know we're all being there. Will done it. Yeah, yeah, that's it. I think it's just noticing what you're feeling and what you're thinking. I mean, that's copy the difficult part. Just put me when it comes to work. Most workplace calls, the the like. They force upon you this attitude of leave your personal issues. Oh yeah, completely, don't let it. Don't let it come to work like. I'm sorry, you can't just suddenly switch off and then you walk into your workplace how you feel at home. You will bring that with you to the workplace, because it's impossible not to whom? Not a robots, alway, no, no, but but where. Places would prefer it if you were robots, unfortunately, because that's how they'd make the most money out of you. Profit over people, culture a lot and all corporations so adopted and it's just it's just destroying life fields of people. I think often the thing is as well, people not saying that all people, but some people feel like they're, you're, not control of their lives, that they need, you know, this job. They you know, understand, people got bills and mortgages and families, but you know, I why you're doing that job you probably don't enjoy. Try and do something. I'll find something that you do enjoy and then do that. Yeah, that thing you don't enjoy doing for a while to you've got to bay, you know, a build up, and then and then say, okay, thank you very much, I'm going to do this. There's other thing now I'm gonna Yeah. I mean that starts to God. Isn't your people always saying, I am looking for another job, looking for another job because, you know, they hate the deadend job there and at the moment. I mean, who can blame them? A job as a job and then but they needed to pay the bills. They need it basically so they can live and have some form of lifelihood. But you always need to keep in mind, like what do you want from life? Career? Wise, if you're in a job for the sake of having a job, you you're in the wrong job. You want to be able to say I love my job that I spoke to someone recently who is so passionate about her job. I current, but what, what exactly she did? Now all we're just having a conversation about it, and I could just tell how much she loved her career and I thought like, you know, you've got it, you've got that good job. That's that was bring you genuine happiness, because you'll go into a job you enjoy. You know, I want to be able to wake up and tell myself, yeah, I can't wait to get into work. I can't I can't wait because I love my job that much. I mean, I don't mind the job in it now, I don't mind it.

I love the people there, some of them, and it's an easy enough job, but obviously it's not the career. That one which is one putting in effort outside of this job to be able to reach my sort of quote career goal. Yeah, so, yeah, if you're in a job that you don't like, even if you don't like it, still be the guy that puts points on the board, but look for something else. Yeah, definitely. N You'll find your happiness elsewhere. Now, I completely agree and I think you know that's kind of you. Know, the whole thing should be asn't a sea coppiness, instead of just getting the money to pay your bills, because that money you're getting you it can't take it with your Knya right when, when things all said and done, like you know, your life experience in those moments what count. But, like you know, have a lot of successful people. Will have to. You know, people have to start somewhere. That's it, isn't it? It's that. It's that process and I think that's something that I've learned is a join the process. It's enjoying the process and being patient. The process is where you learn the lessons, it's where you get this, where you get skills from, you know, and it's all about that journey. I mean as a passionate driver, it's for me it's not about getting from point a to be is the getting the counts, the bit in between. That's that's what I find the most enjoyables. That actually driving. But you just just rewinding it a bit. Sorry, I don't know. Mentioned about happiness and career. Wise, I think a lot of people may say, Oh, will, I don't like the job, but it pays well, so happy. If that's your response. To what me done just talks about you still need to find yourself in your career, because if happy, if money is your only motivation, then you need to sit down and have some serious, a serious discussion with yourself that what you actually want from life, because there's a lot more to life than material wealth, and you'll one day you'll come to learn that people these days are so materialistic it's actually sick. MM. Happiness doesn't inspire, doesn't come from money. Oh yeah, but I'd rather be staid in our Lamborghini. Shut up now, you wouldn't be. You be happy if you had what you wanted around you as opposed to money. HMM. Yeah, I just wanted to get that out there because I'm seeing a lot of materialistic stuff these days and I don't know whether that's the resort of lockdown or people from a compensate for some problem. Probably guilty of itself. You know, I posted some money stuff, but but I know materialism, material wealth, isn't proper wealth. So yeah, you the finish a mean that's one what you're saying, but you know the difference. You're not caught up in that mindset. You're not caught up in that lifestyle where you often get stuff to buy, stuff to feel good, to sell. All, look at me, you're just saying this is what this is me. All right, this is something that you like. I I like certain closed. There's, you know, the some things that we all like, and that's fine. Things after yeah, I'll love, yeah, love, Rolph, yeah, and yeah, that Jomm in. So that's what you like, that's fine. But if you're caughtping up mind setting our lifestyle where you continuously buying like unnecessary shit to like, stay happy, then it's not the way forward. I mean the thing is, people are out there taking photos on the soul's next to lamborghinis or in private jet. So don't even own that stuff.

They're just getting it for the crown. Yeah, and then try its image online. That isn't their real life. And you know, a lot of these I saw, I saw a video with these riots happening in this protests and there was a woman, Amazon, instagram influencer, and she was dressed in this black dress and she held up this picket sign and this other person took the photo of her next to these crowd of people. Person Took Moto and then she put the put the the sign down and walked off. She wasn't even part of the protests. So she's really how did you know that? Justn't want it was obviously somebody caught and recorded it and people called her out and found out who she was, and then you go to her instagram profile, she's removed all the photos. So there you know, there's people out there who are living this life that they trying to appeal to the world that they're happy, they've got it all sorted, which you know, deep down the oven and that's the sadness of like fag. Yeah, I mean that. That's the danger of owning a social media proofile. You can betray yourself to be whoever you want. You can lave the entire world, like you know, and I think staying true to yourself is one of the most important things to like my social media presence, it's very low. I don't have facebook and you know, I do have an instagram account, but I've only got that through photos on there and I don't really so I'm not really uploading anything and what's up like that's that's pretty much it, because I was just sick of going on facebook and see absolute seriously, that it's weird. It seems to leave my faker. Well, I've noticed on for I'm focusing a lot more, and I think that's one of the benefits of not having proper social media presences, that you're focusing and actually more on yourself, which is what you should be doing anyway, instead of following the life of someone or a group of people who you know you don't even cross their mind as it's waiting. My agree, and that ties in the time management as well, loosely. So yeah, I mean, if you're if you think that you listen to this and you think that you need to start focusing a bit more on yourself, delete your social media and try your best distinct with it. Take it from me, because it's deleting your mind. More on myself and actually better myself one hundred you know. So when I just read Facebook, I can use paper anyway. You know, I kept my messenger so I can speak to you guys, because you can deletely profile, the key your message. So I kept my messenger but leave my main account. I just the only people's lives who I want to know about, my closest friends, and I get information from them anyway. So now I think you've done really well done. I think you know you you've noticed how you know I was making you feel and your you know your time and your energy and you made that that took that choice and action to say, you know what an awesome enough. I'm going to focus on the I don't want this anymore. I think that takes a lot to do and I think you know, fair play for doing that. But, like you know, I think if we you, if you do use it, you have to have that balance of how long you use it, what you look at how you yeah, don't sell that self control. Try Not to compare yourself on it, because once you fall into that tropic comparing yourself, it is game over. You know you're just gonna he's gonna fly yourself esteem. I mean, I I fell into that trap. You know, it's so easy sometimes that on my on my linked tin, somebody posts the video go of I don't know why this is on Linkedin in the first place. Somebody was had a banana. They...

...unpilled the banana and they were cutting into it like it was doing an operation on the banana, right and they did like a face on it or something, and that that video received like eighty likes and I was like, okay, I was not it and I was like, okay, so that that isn't putting anything. What's that? Got, just got. There's nothing to do a business networking. It's just stupid video. That's goal at tension. I'm putting, you know, work on my ass off into these podcasts and what I'm doing and putting. So, you know, I like say some of the positive out there and sometimes I don't care about the likes or things. I don't that's not why I do it. But for a split second I compared that video, the banana to my one of my podcasts are released and I felt, you know, ultimately, like crap. I was like how is that? Eighty likes and minds only got however many. But and I was like, you know what, I'm not going to give that my attention. You know, you know it's that's stuck. He said it's so important where your attention and your time goes, because it doesn't matter like what likes you gets or anything like that. That shouldn't be the main driving for city posting hit and that is why some people post off, because they want to get the likes. There's got to be something more behind it. Like I said, work and jobs. Yeah, yeah, that's that's it. That's it. I don't post really for attention stuff like that, stuff about my day really on my instagram and what people see that you're being genuine as well. You need to be yourself and you need to be genuine like you are, like you know, like I am as well, and we all have days where we don't feel as good or we have down days, you know, like I. You know, I do this podcast and I'll post video content and pictures, but you know, I have days where I feel like can, I feel like crap or my feel tired, you know. So you know it's not consistent as all the time. I'm not putting videos out every single day. Do you know? It's me. It's that balance. But he you never know, far mean, yeah, turn the PODCAST during a lot of down you know you've been. You've been out so hard, like actually everys like new poems pretty much. I mean even do multiple yeah, well, I will come to the habit of doing is chasing up messages and scheduling them like in advance. So I think tomorrow I got free for and then I kind of went from doing three a week till like probably ten to, if not more near ten to fifteen, depends a week. What what you want to do is you want to keep chasing up those schedule podcasts until keep doing that, until people start chasing you. Yeah, that's that's when you'll start to see, you know, the real one of the real benefits your podcast, when people going to be planning over each other to have you featured on them, and I mean when. Will take it up, and not just what I don't want to. Once I'm making to new place, any place, I'll be able to convert a because it has two living rooms. You convert. What we'd do will will make like a makeshift yeah, yeah, and when I have you, when I have you down there, I will will get like cameras. Yeah, I will have like a proper Joe Rogan thing on the go and we'll get some not not live stuff that will be recorded or whatnot, but we can get other people on there, get like Lee and Lewis, etc. Etc. On there, I think I'd be really cooler and that would be like a new sort of chapter. Yeah, in your you know, social yeah, no life. I appreciate that and I think that's something that I definitely want, and that's...

...something that, you know, gravitating towards is, you know, having that having that studio, having that place and having, you know, the cameras and things I like to do on and that's like, yeah, be good, way, the way, the future month. So, yeah, it's the way. Yeah, but yeah, we haven't even discussed ours. Than we can do it for ten minutes. I mean, did you want to maybe save that for should we said that for another day? So I'm conscious of the time now. Yeah, yeah, that's fine, that's good. Yeah, so, so, so on our next podcast will talk about adjusting to a normal life post lockdown. You know how we feel about going into this, you know, normality again, how we've changed as individuals and much more. So. Yeah, then, well, we'll call it a day now. I don't doing it for a good for you. Yeah, of course. Yeah, right. So, yeah, thank you very much having me on. I don't know. You wasn't on any any any time. His pleasure time you on and rooming's a lot the problem. Yeah, thank you, FAM easily. Hope everyone enjoyed it. TAK.

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