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The Parrsitivity Podcast #Episode 70 Rafael Betts

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In today's Podcast I'm joined in once again with Rafael Betts, Rafael is a mentor/motivational speaker! In today's Episode we talk about loving the process, mindset, passion and much more! Instagram: @bettsrafael the YouTube video to this podcast is here 馃憠 https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=W2sFpk_5sdk&feature=youtu.be --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the-parrsitivity-podcast/message

Hither. My name is Adam Po and the podcast host posity to podcast. In this podcast, you will be listened to me connect with people from different walks of life, from the military to people in the music industry, to people in the self help industry and many other areas of life. In this podcast I'll be talking about topics from self help, mental health, motivation, spirituality, mindset, society, current affairs and much, much more. If you enjoy this podcast, please subscribe, share and let me know your feedback. And my main intention on this podcast is to have a positive impact for you, the lit the listener, to take something positive from it, to apply something positive into your life from this. Now with without further ado, let's go to podcast and enjoy. Hi, welcome to the posts a podcast. On this episode I'm joined once again with Rafael Bess. In this episode we talk about passion, mindset, loving the process, patients, positivity and much much more. Now, sit back, but hucks and enjoy. Hi, Hirofai, pro fail you. How you enjoy? Hey, Adam, how you doing? Man, good to see. Yeah, thanks for having me bad now. You're very welcome. I'm glad to have you back on a podcast. We yeah, we got two topics today and the one you just talked about was like sacrifice. Yep, big one. I think it's huge for a lot of people to understand it. All successes require some sacrifice, and the way I correlate that with with people is that, you know, you got to have some balance, which is a huge topic that you're talking about all the time, which I think is very important. You know, and balancing your successes with your wins and your learn learning experiences. Right, no losses, right, you always learned the things, so there's no losses. So you know. But yeah, I think that people need to have balance. If you had those if you had ten blocks, meaning ten blocks of time, or ten objectives that you wanted to accomplish, and you pick the pace that you were going to work at, that you were comfortable with and you could grow in and learn it, and you decided one day that one of those blocks, and will just use, you know, your bank account for an example, and you wanted your bank account to grow faster, will then you've got to take time from some other block in order to dedicate more time to that financial block in order to keep growing, right, and it's the same thing with relationship. Or family or friends or whatever block. You decide for yourself, because the you're going to make that decision for yourself as to what's important and when it's important. But I think people get caught up in that I can do it all and I can have it all, and you can, but you just got to be patient and as to when you could have it. And if you want to move faster in one category than you're going to slow down in another, because you're only one person.

There's only so much time in the day, there's only so much effort you can put in and you know if you give everything all the time, you know something will break and then you're going to land a disappointment and then you're going to look back at yourself and say, well, what did that happened, and then you've got to evaluate and end up starting the whole whole process all over again, which is not a bad thing, it's just did you really accomplish what you were trying to accomplish and did you get in your timeline and could you have done it better? Right, and if you're trying to grow every day and trying to learn every day, then you should be getting better every day and you should be questioning yourself, you should be reflecting and you should be saying, Hey, I got through two blocks today and I couldn't get to the other eight. Why? figure it out, correct it, make it better, you know, and move from there, which is, you know, I'm always telling people to be good at whatever it is you're doing, learn how to get better, then you just work your ass off to be the best from there. So, yeah, that's really the concept of how I look at sacrifice for success and, you know, unfortunately for me, I think some people do that with their relationships and their family and that's one of those big blocks that kind of should be stable all the time, I think, but it's not for everyone, you know. So yeah, no, I I feel that's a really good point and I think that's really key and society, and I think you know, especially if you're wanting to be successful, you're trying to build something and a lot of time has to go into that. There are those kind of sacrifices and I think if you're not supported them that relationship and you know, asked to be that mute as to be mutual, yeah, to be supported and I think, like you, like you said, they can put pressure on what you're doing and, like you said as well, about being better and figuring out that, you know, how we might ch out tall on and if you know a getting those certain things done light, reflect on that and see what you need to do better, isn't it? And it's not just one thing as it is all these other things connected to it, right, because I think you're you know, humans are pretty dynamic, right, and and I think humans are built to win period. I think then the day you come out of the womb and come into the world, then you're designed to be a winner. You've got to figure out who you are and who you want to be and who you're going to portray into the world and how you're going to impact a world, either positively or negatively. You mean, that's your choice. You actually get to choose whether you want to be this quote unquote, good guy or the bad here. You know. Yeah, so, which is pretty cool, right. It's that free wheel thing, but making those you know you we touched on it a little bit off my get. It was about, you know, the why, why are we doing what we're doing? And you know, the impact that you may or may not have in someone's life or in your own life, and the reality is is that do you really need to have a strong support system to be successful? Yes, I think the answer is yes, absolutely, Yes, but that's strong support system has to be grounded with you first. HMM, because if you're not going to believe in yourself and you're not going to support yourself and you're not going to do whatever it takes for you to be successful, no one's going to jump on that bandwagon that you know. You're not going to just miraculously have somebody who believes in you more than you believe in yourself, even though you hear stories right where people say like, Oh, I saw this artist playing in a bar and they don't know how good they are. You know, they don't believe in themselves. Or you know, but you think. You think, who same boat wakes up in the morning? It...

...doesn't think he's a fastest man alive. I mean really, yeah, yeahs that's a at some point you have to believe in yourself, right. I mean at some point you have to believe in yourself that you can be who you want to be in order for it to come to fruition and you can. You know, and maybe it's confidence, right it's a high level of confidence. You would hope it's. Some people will perceive that as being cocky, some people will perceive that as being arrogant, but the reality is is that, you know, maybe you're just bold enough to go take a chance that nobody else would take. You know, wonder if that's a little bit more important than then falling into line with the crowd and just just being a sheep and and following what everybody else does and and going home every I go and saying I wish I would have. Well, stop wishing and go do just do it. Go, figure it out, go learn, go take your lumps, keep pressing one step at a time, and as long as you're moving forward and making progress, then you can learn to live within the process of what you're doing in accomplishing and learning to love the process, because if you learn to love the process, everything else to fall into place. Right I come on a big believer that if you do the right thing all the time, no matter what it is you're doing, that you know, financially, everything will fall into place. Emotionally, everything will fall into place, relationships will fall into place, your family will fall into place. It's the inconsistency, which that's a big topic for you. You're always treaching consistency, which I think is great. You know, being consistent in all of that. Will, will, will, field results, period. Yeah, not, sucks. Yeah, and I really pretty I really appreciate that and, you know, really means a lot and I think, like I completely agree with what you said. You know, we need that belief in ourselves as well as sometimes of a people. But you have to first believe in yourself, unlike you said. Like you said there's these musicians are playing music and they don't know how good deal and sometimes it takes over people to say, Oh, you are quite good. It's kind of get a person to think. You know, kind of need that by external part of it. Bo has to kind of come from you. Sometimes you can have loads of people saying I know this, some person experience, somebody I know makes really good music, and I'll say to this person it's really, really great, you know, you really amazing, but still not putting that music out has to confirm that person right. So why do you why do you think that is? You think it's just their their flat out fear of rejection? Do you think it's confidence? Do you think it's, you know, so much insecurity that they can't handle the constructive criticism that may come their way? I mean, you know, but what do you what do you think that comes from? Because it's it's not hard for me to understand it because obviously we all have, yeah, you know, times we were not as confident or maybe we have a little self reflection and maybe we don't look at ourselves in a positive light from time to time. Right. Mean, I think we all do that, think just just humans do that in general. So you know, but when you have somebody who's just got so much raw talent or so much ability or has this ability to impact so many people and yet they're they just don't means it just is it just they're just making that choice, they're using that free will to say I'M gonna keep it all to myself. Yeah, yeah, the I think it's, like you said, the belief...

...system of that person has and like anxiety, it could be like fail you know, even fair off success. I mean, you know, fair failure. And while the people are going to that kind of probably can probably stem from experience, you know, like previous life. Isn't a lot you know in the past hmm. Yeah, it's amazing how, how how important it is. You know, you know, I'm a father, you know, and how important it is to be super positive with your with your children and in promote them as much as you can and along the way, you know, teaching them to work hard, in that the value of of a dollar and the value of hard work, in the value of reputation. Because, you know, I I've got a teenage daughter, so it's extremely important for me to know that I can, I can put my head down and know that if, God forbid, something happened to me or my wife, that, you know, our daughter could take care of herself. She can handle it. Right now, at sixteen, she'd figure it out. And they're got to have confidence. And it's amazing to me when you see young, especially teenage girls that lack confidence, and I think a lot of that all stems from some experience that they had when they were seven or eight, or five or six or eleven or twelve and somebody just planted a negative seat and you do that, I mean you might as well just spray weed killer on it right just destroyed somebody. So I think it's super important, like from a parent's perspective, it's going to take my entire life to get it right. Yeah, and I can have one bad day and ruin it all. Yeah, yeah, I'm super, super focused on trying not to have that bad day, which is a massive amount of pressure for any parent. Yeah, but but the reality is it's all about build nestability and I think you know you got a person who's in their s or the S or their s of their s and they lack confidence. You think to yourself, well, I wonder if there was some some moment that happened early on. Like you said, it's just really kind of crustal. How do you reverse that? How do you how do you get that person out of that mode? That's the big question right. I mean you're working with people, you're coaching, you know, I'm mentoring, I'm working with people. How do you how do you get that person from that mindset, to flip that switch? It is literally it's right in between their ears. Is the switch? That not sort of good point. Good question. I think, like it's bringing the person by to like there cool, cool beliefs and breaking things down, you know, addressing why the person deals out ways. You know what caused it and just literally kind of like untangling that string and just, bit by bit, breaking it down and and that. And I think sometimes that that is something that it can take, you know, twenty minutes some people. Some people could take a couple of weeks or a couple of days. It's but yeah, another's years. Yeah, yeah, and years. And I think it goes back to how deep it is, how deeply rooted it is, and how if this trauma involved, and that's a whole different situation, because that's not that's not something I, you know, I deal with, because that would need like counseling and all that. So, yeah, it can be many things, but I think if it's something that is an event that happened, the person can kind of go to that figure it out. Yeah, I think that's like a big deal. Like, you know, I...

...tell people a lot of times that, you know, you should wake up every morning. You know, most humans wake up every morning. The first thing they do is go into their to their restroom, right or there for it right, and there's a usually a mirror in there and they should look in the mirror and the first thing they should do every morning is remind themselves how bad ass they are. Look in the mire, point at that person in the mirror and remind yourself how bad ass you really are right and I think if you do that over and over and over again and you start to believe that you are, then you'll realize how much you can really accomplish as a human you know, and go figure it out and go get it done and have a positive outlook in a positive mindset, because it's really what it comes down to. If you don't have a positive mindset, how are you going to accomplish anything? You know, he's just going to go do and just be, or are you going to go create and inspire? You're off not some really good that's really good point. If that's really good way to start your days, by telling yourself that you're great and that you are enough and that you're you know, your go gets her and things are going to work out and all these kind of positive opimations, isn't it? Because I think as well, like how you start your day kind of ripples for out throughout the day and and I'm not absolutely hundred percent like it's like I I realized today because I had to go to the post office to clip my brother's parcel early this morning and I usually like to wake up, I like to have a coffee of my breakfast and because I wasn't doing that first things I had to go, I kind of felt like a bit negative and I was like man, I really want my coffee, and then I was feeling I was feeling negative until I have my coffee. But then I was like, I shouldn't tell me and rely on the coffee to maybe feel good. I should just right. You know, I think we can kind of old, kind of have these hobbits so we're not aware of if you're not some mean but yeah, I think that you can easily get caught up in that. Right, there's so many people. I mean, I love drinking coffee. I will drink coffee all day long if my body would take it right. Yeah, I mean, if you know, it's part of your morning routine and if you get out of your routine it can be uncomfortable, right. Yeah, but you still went and got the parcel, you still went executed what you went out to do right, and eventually you got your coffee. So all is good in the world, because we don't want Adam without coffee, trust me, we don't want you know, but but yeah, because it's like you can get caught that routine and I think it all kind of comes back to you know why? Why do people lack the confidence or why don't they believe in themselves? And you have to believe in yourself and if you believe in yourself, then you know, you can pretty much accomplish anything you want. And it really does go back at such a cliche. Right, you can be anything in the world you want to be, you could do anything you want to be and it's so simple. But I think that humanity has heard that for so long and they don't realize how hard things can be and how difficult they are to have successes. That I think the younger generations in our society today's very on the spot. They want things now, they want it quick. You know that it's now or never and you forget that it takes a lot of hard work. It takes a lot of hard work and sacrifice to to achieve the goals and objectives that you set for yourself, regardless of what they are. You know, and we're talking about the the effort. You know, you got to put the effort in every day. Every day you got to remind yourself that you're pretty damned you're pretty damn special, you know, if not the most special person and entire planet,...

...because you should feel that way about yourself and that it's requires hard work, it's a lot of dedication, hard work and sacrifice and I think as well a lot with that, the hard working on sacrifice. It pays off, something that might not be paying off right now, but it will pay off and I think that's, you know, reafferving that to yourself, isn't it, and telling yourself that you know, just because your mind to have it today, you know you'll go into have it. It is still going to work out, like if you have any thing now, it will come, come apall at some point, out, of course, and towards it, of course, absolutely. Because, I mean, we know there's no such thing as an overnight success, right. I mean, it just doesn't happen, you know, and I think the perception of what people think the process actually is is what what hinders a lot of people and they get, you know, you get disappointed, right if you if if you said to yourself, I want to be a millionaire by age twenty five, and age twenty five comes around and you you have ten dollars in your account. You know, does that mean that you're an overnight success or the you're an overnight failure? Absolutely not. I mean you got you got stories out there every single day. I mean, you know Dwayne Johnson, the Rock right, he's always been big about talking about you know, I get out of college, I get, you know, to a certain point. I've got seven dollars in my pocket. That's all I've got. That's it. Got No home, I got no car. I get that. I got seven bucks. Now the guys clipping you know what, fifty, sixty million dollars a movie. It is an overnight success. Oh, the guy's been working at it its whole life. You know, he's put he's put his entire life into building that career for himself and working on that brand and building and building the building. And you know what? The difference, I think, for a lot of people, is that you see someone who's forty, five or fifty years old and has this massive amount of success. Differences, they started when they were twenty. Yeah, you know, if you wait till your thirty or forty or fifty, which is fine, there's nothing wrong with that, but don't expect to have the same success as someone who is your age that started twenty years before you working on that success. It's not it's not reality. It's not going to happen, you know, unless you strike a oil well or gold mine by accident somewhere. I'm on a vacation. I mean, no, I I agree. I agree, and I think like everyone sees all the tip of the iceberg. Everyone sees that personal that figure or that business what it is today. They don't see all the hard work that it took to get to that place that they're at now, unless you do your read the your research. All look into the background of it. If how we came to what it is, because I saw like a quote, and I think it was Cocacola, and I think they said, like they sold light in that first month, twenty five bottles, right, and you know, was probably to all employees. Yeah, I mean look at the old pictures. I love seeing the old pictures of like, you know, regardless of what your your opinion is of an organization, it's that's not what we're talking about today, right, but you look at the old pictures of like, you know, apple when it started. You know, the first building, they are they worked out of their garage. You know, you look at IBM, you see these pictures of Bill Gates and you know, as us, Jeff Bezos and these guys, and it's you know, guys. There's that famous picture of bezos in his in his apartment in a room with the Amazon spray painted on a sheet. Right. It's like this is where we started. And they show you their facilities now and it's like, you know, people forget that part of the process and people, people are so enamored with the success of things they forget all the hard work it takes.

I mean, look, it's so different than you and I I mean we're here, we're yeah, kind of you know, we're at the ground roots, man, we're in the work. You know. Yeah, sir, I know, I agree. I think. I think it's good as well too, to come from these lie humble beginnings, isn't it? Because you have to have this with you can't, it's very rare to have this without that success. You kind of need that, that journey and that process to see how far you've come. Like you look at Joe Rogans podcast, for example, on his early video, just doing them onlock is, on a streaming website on in a room and then he's got this studio. He's pull about ten years into doing it and I always got a hundred million dollar deal. Yeah, and I think people forget about that time they did it from his living room right or his car or, you know, the dining room table. I think people forget about those things and when you lose I don't think that people like, I would like to think, people like Joe Rogan, for example, haven't have never forgotten their their humble beginnings. And Look, that guy's been in entertainment for a really, really long time. You know. Oh, yeah, I personally think he's a really good comedian. So, but you know, he's extremely diverse, but he's been working on that. Craft is entire life, ob yeah, I know. So you know, and you look at people that you know when they've got fifty million followers on instagram. You know that did not happen in thirty days. You know what I mean? Yeah, so you just can't forget about the hard work and the sacrifice that goes with it and you know, managing your time and your balance will help you get where you need to get to in the time you're supposed to get there. And and do it with with pride, enjoy right. Yeah, sucks. Yeah, and there's some it's so important. Nothing to reflect on, my, isn't it? Until absolutely you've got to study the process. I mean you got to learn the process. And and because how do you get better if you don't, if you don't enjoy the process of learning and growing and succeeding, then why you doing it? M Right. And so, if you don't study the process and keep your feet grounded, you're not going to learn how to do it better the next time. Yeah, you know, if it took you twenty years to come up with one great idea and you learn nothing along the way, guess what's going to take another twenty years for the second great idea? Yeah, yeah, no, also true. Yeah, so I think there's a lot, a lot, a lot you can take from that and be really, really thoughtful and really introverted on that thought. You can really you can sit down by yourself and think about that one quite a bit. HMM. Yeah, so it's so deep, isn't it? As Sary Real I think it definitely hits home, especially with it are a lot people who all successful, a lot people who have, you know, made themselves. It's wo goes back to that, doesn't yeah, absolutely a hundred percent. I think that you know that. That's where your grounding comes and it goes back to that, that level of confidence that you may or may not have if you had a bad experience, you know someone along the way and you can't, can't look at yourself in the mirror and be really happy with who you are. Think a lot of people. You know a lot of people are driven by by others telling them that they can accomplish something and so they really driven to prove those people wrong and in reality it's right. Are you trying to prove them wrong or you trying to prove yourself right? And I think if you're...

...looking at it from the perspective that you're trying to prove somebody else wrong and show someone that you can when they said you couldn't, for me that's like a negative perspective. If you believe that you can accomplish something and you want to go about it and go get it, I believe that if, if you're looking at it that you want to prove yourself correct or right, then that's coming from a positive perspective. I think your opportunity success is much higher and you're and you're going to be happier about it. You know, m because that's that's like, sorry, no, no, go ahead, because that's like more within yourself, isn't that your passion or burning desire when yourself, whereas if you're you're doing it kind of public, subconsciously to prove something to somebody or something or someone. Yeah, I think it's not trying the same. Of course, thousand percent. But I think if you're trying to prove something to somebody, that's motivation. HMM. Because, but if you're trying to prove it to yourself, but that's inspiration. Hmm Hmm, because you know, you know motivation. You know we I think we talked about that last time. Motivation. I mean you can be bought. Motivation can be bought. Right, I can. I can tell you right now. Hey, Adam, you're going to do ten podcasts a day the next thirty days and if you can get that done, I'm gonna give you a hundred grant. Yeah, I got this, I'm gonna get yeah, yeah, your your your content maybe junk right, but you're going to get that objective done because, yeah, you're motivated for that six figure pay check. Yeah, yeah, but if I tell you, Hey, you put out ten pieces of content and they need to be pure and it doesn't matter how long it takes for you to do it, and I'm going to pay you zero, but you're going to change your life and you're going to change someone else's life, and you say, you know, I can do that because I want to do that for me and myself, now you're inspired. So yeah, I think that doing it to prove someone wrong is motivation. Doing it to prove yourself right is inspiration. I like them make a t shirt out of that out. Yeah, so that's a good quote, man. That's it's definitely post to worth without. Yeah, maybe that's the nice post to. knows. Well, that's why I'll do. Well. Well, well, I did a quote. What my idea was, what I've been doing is going for some of my podcasts and taking quotes people have said from them and put them in, putting them into a wallpaper post. So I got that on one. I'm over one, so I'll do that with up and I'll type you in it. I'll put your name on it. So cool. I'll take all the Promo I can get man. Yeah, but but now it's it's so true, isn't it? And, like you know, we can all be I think we can all be motivated inspired. I think it can be through, like you know, video, tax someone saying something. There so many forms of it. Yeah, there's there's all kind I mean they're that in two thousand and twenty we have so much opportunity to reach out and touch so many people in so many different ways that, you know, for anybody who has a message, regardless of what the message is. I mean that's the kind of the beauty of the world, right of humanity is that, you know, you do get to say what you want to say, whether someone is going to agree with it or not. Hm, and you got to respect it, right. You have to like it, you know, you have to listen to it, but you certainly have to respect the fact that everyone gets to voice their opinion and put it out to the universe. And so I'm very grateful that we have these platforms that we can get together and talk on and put out stuff. You know, I'm at a stage in my life where I feel like I in order for me...

...to continue growing and learning, I need to share what I have and yeah, yeah, you know, I make some people think, I'll make others think I'm stupid. You know, I might inspire somebody, you know, yeah, inspire me. So, yeah, it's just really about growing, being out there, being the universe. Yeah, you know, changing and evolving. I think that's just kind of what humanity needs. I really think we're really, really close to just being a great society in general. You know, I don't know that I want to live on the planet. Yeah, Moss, yeah, this is the only choice we have right now, at the moment. Yeah, with it. Yeah, now, I oftink I completely agree, and I think like it's about lot, you know, being the best version of yourself. Isn't that being hoppy, being passionate and put putting something out that? You know, if you put someone out there, that change of someone's else is life will change that day. That that's what it's all about, I find, you know, making it. It's it's putting out more than what you expect to receive by because, well, yeah, I mean that's when you're doing when you're doing that, your mindset is in that place and I think you're doing whatever it is you're doing right, whether you're you know, whether you're promoting self help or you're promoting coaching, or you're promoting makeup or food. I think if you're doing all of those things with the expectation that you're going to give far more than you're ever going to receive, and I think you're doing it from a point of inspiration, and when you do it from a point of inspiration it makes a huge difference in the quality of the content. The authenticity. Yeah, the authenticity is just it's day and night. So you can kind of tell when people are posting up and putting content out there, having conversations with you, when it when they're looking to benefit themselves versus benefit a cause or the agenda for everyone. So, and it happens a lot in business, I mean, and when you're working, you know, obviously I still work full time. So Ye, in business and your and you're doing your thing. You know, I've really tried to work in into a place where partnerships are super important to be successful, and sometimes you'll run across people where you know there they have no interest in having a partnership. They just want to get the best deal for themselves all the time, regardless of the outcome, regardless of how it works out for anybody else. It's only their self interest and I have found that that makes it really hard, regardless of what kind of company you have, to work well and have a lot of success. I think that when you build partnerships, you know, you get this emotional obligation from both sides to to want the other one to do well and succeed, and so you'll bend over backwards and you'll do the things you need to do to make that happen, and vice versa, of the customer will actually do things to help you be successful. If I think it just works better that way. And so I think, you know, authenticity and business is super, super important, you know, depending on what kind of culture you work in. I mean, if you work in a culture that's, you know, all about the dollar and that's where you want to work and that's where you want to be, you just have to compare mentally, because if you're not making the dollars, they're going to cut you out. Yeah, you know, you just got to be okay with that. If you want to work for a company that's all about, you know, inspiration and feeding the world and feeding the you know, the mindset of the world and you go find that place and it all comes back down to how you look at yourself, how you feel about yourself, sacrifices you're willing to make for for the betterment of yourself or your or your goals and objectives. And you know it takes a lot of self thought and takes a lot of self evaluation. You know you...

...do have to to be careful not to judge yourself too heavily, but you certainly have to evaluate where you are, who you are and where you're trying to get to. And then that comes back to that. You know, where we started the day with, it was sacrificing and making sure your blocks are balanced and if one block is lagging that either you're not giving it enough attention and love or you need to give it more, regardless of how much block, how much of the block, is taking of your day. And so, you know, working through all of that, staying super consistent and I think if you do all those things, like I tell my team at my office that if you're if you've got a good product, if you have an honest product, if you're authentic and you're consistent, then success is inevitable. M May not come tomorrow. It may not be next week, but it's inevitable. If you if you've got all those tangibles in place and you're consistent, then success is inevitable, you know. So I think it applies to people in the same way that applies to business. The payoffs are different. HMM. Yeah, no, I I completely agree. I think, like you said, the such its one one of the things that you set up is like the people that you work with, you know, like some people might be out for themselves, you know, especially in business and agreements, and if you're not prepared for that, then you can probably get swallowed up by it and you probably have to prepare yourself to some extent going into those kind of lights and Agios and working certain kind of business. And it's how that kind of comes to your values, doesn't it? You know, what your values is a person, what your business lies, what all those of a person's like? You know, where do you meet each other in the middle of that? And Yeah, I mean I think that goes across the board for everything right. I mean if you're not, if you don't, if you don't have a moral compass established, you're not firm in that, you'll get chewed up in any environment. You know, you know it just in the if you if you're in the corporate environment, it just may impact you financially more than if you were in a family environment or a friend environment or community environment where it just makes you you up emotionally. HMM. Yeah, if you're not grounded, you're not certain of who you are, you walk into a scenario that you're unfamiliar with. Yeah, you're probably going to get chewed up and spit out. So you've got to be prepared for that. And that just goes back to how are you going to feel about that when it happens to you? You get to choose how you feel right. Get to choose whether you're going to be defeated and depressed or you're going to be be inspired and motivated. Yeah, choice, it's it's how you use eyes and and how you bounce back. Is a bit like that movie, for example. Won't get too much into it. The Wolf Wolf Stream the same way it goes. First Day he's being Yellowda and the guys calling them all cons a curse words, a frest like. But he kind of like, kind of use the he he had luck at it. Different effect on him. Where some people you know, who like dumb, listen for me and then that's it. Well, yeah, I'm out of here, see you. And that's true. Right, it happens. It's knowing and then it's like that whole you know the famous rocky movie, right, where it's not how hard you get you get down down, it's how you get up, or something along those lines, right. And so it's very it's such a common theme. That goes back to Shakespeare, right, such a common theme in the world, and it's amazing how you just have to be reminded. I mean I think it's good for people to remind it every once...

...in a while how important the arts the world and how important they are to each other and their families and their friends and their communities and how they impact people. And I think that's where people like you come in, is, Hey, you know what your voice out there to remind people how important they can be, now, important they already are, and how important they should be in how much of an impact they can make. And you know, you got to knowledge that. You got to look at that mirror by morning be like yeah, you know what, I am important, I am special, you know I am a Badass right, and I can go do anything I want, I can coomplish anything I want. Nobody says is going to be easy. Nobody's ever, you know, claimed that that that fame will be easy or success will be easy, or financial success will be easy, or even relationship success. Look, I've been with my wife for almost thirty years and I'll tell you that Ruchos and relative. Yeah, thanks, thanks, and it has been a relatively easy thirty years, right in the sense that I would not want to be anywhere else for that timeframe and I certainly would be the person that I am today without having that experience. You know, and I knew the moment I met her that I was going to marry which is I get it. It's Cliche and you're full of Shit, Rath, and I get it, but that's the truth. And you know, has it been perfect? I'm going to tell you that, yes, for me it's been absolutely perfect, through whatever challenge is that we've had, through whatever learning experiences, through whatever growth opportunities. For me it's been perfect because it's helped mold me as to who I am today. Right, awesome sounding board checks me when I get my head gets too big. All those things that you're looking for. So I think that if you and I think it all comes down to having that that mindset, being positive, look at look at the positive side of your situation and understand that want it could be a lot worse, for sure, right to you know, are you going to grow from it? You learn from it, are you going to fail? It's that simple. And if you choose to do the ladder, then I think you're going to have a lot more success and a lot more freedom moving forward. You see a better understanding right and so, whether it comes to relationships or your personal growth, or your friendship growth or, you know, Your Business Growth, you've got to have that relationship and you've got to have that understanding of who you are. But it all stems back to your sacrifice and your confidence and you got to wake up every morning and look in the mirror and be that person. You've got to believe in yourself. You know, it's we touched on it earlier. You know, I find it somewhat oddly unique when people, you hear people's stories, tell you about you know, I knew that person was going to make it. I believed in them long before they believe in themselves and I think that comes from a place of hope, because the reality that person is not going to make it until they start believing in themselves. I mean it's that simple. Yeah, until you start believing yourself and believe you have something to offer and have the impact, you're not going to make it. Yeah, no, I it's really excreting to fallone your lap. Yeah, I think that's that's the thing and you know, like in relationships, is that balance, isn't it? But have that balance and that that mutual synergy and support and work through things and you know, it's not ninety percent one side and ten cent the other. It's got to be that fifty percent eache each. So you know each side and people, like you said, in life sometimes expect things just to happy happen for them and when things don't go their way, they they crumble and worry in the well, I know it. We're something happened with somebody I know...

...recently where, you know, they lost their job. They weren't yeah, I understand understand that. It's difficult when that happens and you do feel negative, but there has to come a point where you you stand up for yourself and you go. You know, I'm going to do something about this. I'm not going to be a victim. I sry. I'm strong enough that I can deal with the situation and I think that is something that's important as well. And people is that with the knowing to find that place on self. Like you said, you have to believe in yourself that it's going to work out. Yeah, yeah, well, the thing is is like, you know, think I just had this that, but what's more dangerous? A defeated soul or inspired soul? M You know, we just one to cant which one can accomplish more, defeated soul or an inspired soul? I think like if you're if you're sorry. You know, a defeated souls going to impact one person, right, and inspired soul can impact millions. You know, and I say dangerous just because it's you know, it's an outlandish word, right, dangerous. It's yeah, yeah, yeah, you know it. But yeah, you know, I think as well, like you've got a some I think if you've been to adult place, isn't it? You know, it's that kind of gives you that kind of fire, and so I don't think. I think it's interesting. Like you said, inspiration and how all these different people are become successful. You know, all these people in life of all our difference experiences. Having that Oh, yeah, for sure, for sure. I mean you don't think that the Vasos of the world or Mark Cubans of the world, or the zuckerbergs of the IBMs or the apples of the cocacolas? I mean you said earlier Cocacola sold something like twenty five bottles their first month. You know, they could have quit, they could have shut it down, right, hmm. And and we and we'd have no cocacola today. Are We'd have no APP bull. You know, there'd be no zoom. May Not Exist, right, if people shut it down. Yeah, yeah, you've got to to be that person that is willing to take the chance and the risk and and move forward. Yeah, and and go and put themselves out there. Yeah, they remind me of that as well. I was listening to mcgarvey's speech on when he did it, one of his keynotes, and he said block bus stuff. You remember block bust the back in the day. They they have an opportunity to buy Netflix for forty million dollars and they really they didn't take the opportunity and went bust. So I heard something about that too. As well as it is that, you know, people say, Oh, Netflix killed the blockbusters of the world, and you think about it and it's like, no, people killed the blockbuster for the world, because if your experience at blockbuster would have been so radically amazing every time you went hmm, you wouldn't go. You wouldn't go, I'll let me do this netflix thing. You know, people would don't get me wrong, people would write, you've got technology and things change, but it would have died like that. People would have put up a fight. You know, I don't get the same customer service from Netflix that I do from from blockbuster. That's the answer. Yeah, Netflix. Netflix doesn't know me other than by what I choose to watch on...

Netflix. Netflix doesn't know me. And my guy at blockbuster might have been my high school buddy and new me. I might be my golf and partner or my bowling partner or my drinking partner. Yeah, yeah, that guy knows what I like and he's going to say hey, you gotta see this movie, here it is. Yeah, right now. How the ease of Netflix is great. Being able to watch the same movie that a million other people are watching and not have to leave your couch. It's great. Yeah, yeah, but you know, technology people think that technology kills companies, and I think companies killed themselves by not providing the content and the customer service and the the desires that people have. Because why would you pay twice as much for something? Yeah, that you're not going that you can get for half the price, if you're going to get the same experience, if you're going to go to a blockbuster and get shitty customer service? Well, I'd rather go pay Netflix and not get any customer service, because no service is better than shitty service. Yeah, so stus. You know that's completely true. Is Yeah, so there's a few sides to it, all right. I mean technology is great. I love it. I'm not. I'm not super it, I mean by any means. Sometimes I have a hard time turning my computer on. But but yeah, no, it's true. It's all into linked hissm. Yeah, yeah, and it's growth. I mean, if you you can look at it, is growth. Right. I think I read a quote one time about Bill Gates likes to hire Super Lazy people because they will find the easiest way to get it done. Dumb, which is crazy, right. That is so against everything recruitment. That recruitment goes by and you want to get the best of the best and you want the person who's got the Ivy League degree. And when I read that, I was like wow, you know, yeah, that's pretty damn interesting that you would even think to yourself, let me go find the laziest person I can, because that person is going to figure out how to be the get it done the most efficient way. Yeah, and then I'll take it from there and I'll tweak it to a way to meet my standards. Right, but that's insane. That's an insane thought, and I mean you're talking about I mean he is the wealthiest person in the world right on paper. Yeah, you know, so pretty wild. Is Insane. I think like you can take somebody from a certain byground with no experience or training and certain areas, and then you can then kind of mode them and shape them to learn and grow. Calling you off not saw. The amazing thing with people is we can, we can, we'll ill. What's the word? We're very is it malleable? We adopt. Yeah, yeah, that's very adapt humans can adapt to just about anything, and I don't think that. You know. Being smart has nothing to do with your intelligence. You know those two things have nothing to do with your common sense. Those two think those three things have nothing to do with your your street knowledge. You know those four things have nothing to do with your emotional knowledge and growth. So when you're thinking about that comment that I'm going to hire the laziest person I can find to accomplish this task or this goal, he's truly looking at your successes have nothing to do with your intelligence in the sense that maybe you just have been put in the right place yet maybe you have been given the right opportunity or you haven't earned the right opportunity or you haven't practiced enough to get lucky it. So it's pretty interesting. I mean that that was when I'm telling you,...

...it's I try to read things as much as I can, to learn as much as I can keep growing, but that one's kind of stuck with me. You know, that was really stuck with me and it kind of goes to back to think of the think of the sacrifice that that individual is willing to make to hire that person. I mean you're staking your reputation at that point. Yeah, you know, is he going to go bankrupt from that choice? Now, obviously probably not, and so it's not financial, but he's taking his reputation. That's probably more important than the dollars in the bank. Yeah, tell anyway. Yeah, it's it does blow him on a little bit, doesn't like I remember when I was reading Steve Jobs Autobiography and this guy was saying that Steve Jobs, I think he got the job as Pacord Bell. Don't quote me, pack on Bell. Yeah, one of these, all right, or HP. You went for one of these jobs and they gave him the the night shift because they didn't want Steve Jobs going in the daytime because he wore, you, wore flip flops and like dack a trench coat. He just was and he didn't want it. Is Look ruged and they was like they hired him, but they gave him the position to work at nighttime when no one else is around. And it's like, like you said, you know what is the right kind of person is, you know, as a such thing as the right person to hire? You know, like it's kind of crazy when you think about it. Yeah, you know, and that comes back to you know, I think I think gave he's famous for saying it or promoting it anyways, that no one's good at hiring. People are really good at recruiting. You just have to learn how to be really good at firing fast, you know, because in an interview you're going to get the best version of that person for thirty or forty five minutes or an hour, however long you sit down with that person. You know, and I think people are really good at recruiting, you can watch somebody over a period of time and say hey, you know what that person is going to fit into my culture, you're going to fit into my organization. Great, let me go figure out how to go get them right. And so that that I think a lot of people are good at. As long as they understand what they're what, what component they're trying to fit or what area and their expertise are trying to fit or, you know, where they're lacking in their organization, can they go find that piece that that makes their organization better. I think people are really good at that. But highing, I don't think anybody's really good at it. You know, I tend to agree with with his statement there that yeah, I mean I've hired hundreds of thousands hundreds or thousands, excuse me, of people in my lifetime and I don't think that you know, I've probably gotten a right a very small percentage of the time. But I think if you learn how to be quick at firing and explain to people how you're going to fit in here, I think that's probably your best route for success when it comes to that. So again, for someone to say I'm going to hire the ladiest person I can find is mind blowing to me. Yeah, it's like it's like, okay, but there's intent, right, there's intent there. Yeah, and and I think that you know, when you're looking at yourself and you're deciding what your goals and objectives are going to be, it's a about you got to have intent. You need to have the intent behind the decisions that you make in order for your decision to remotely have an opportunity as success still going to take hard work, still going to take time, you still have to do all those other things we've been talking about today, but you have to have intent. And in order for you to have intent, you have to really believe in yourself, which means you got to every wake up every morning and tell yourself how much you believe in yourself and give yourself those affirmations.

And I know it's cheesy and its and it's so cliche, but it is reality. The reality. Yeah, if you don't believe in yourself, no one's going to believe it. Yeah, right. So then you've got your intent and then you go and execute and then you put in the hard work and and then twenty years from now you can become an overnight success, which is awesome. Yeah, no, I I completely agree. I think it's it's, you know, a little attraction, isn't it? You know what you think you'd to come and it's like if a tree, for it wasn't strong and the firm it's, it wouldn't be grounded, than it be blown over. You know, it's absolutely and I think like it's so important. I think it's something that, you know, people need to you know, ed, be educated onlock, you know, especially in society. You know, I think that they are a lot less things got on with people if they knew that and they're reinforced that into, you know, that their daily weekly life. And, like you said, you can you can tell somebody that they're great and it might help a little bit. The date it's got to spark something in them for them to believe it. I don't. I yeah, I've experienced that relationships with people where I felt drained emotionally because I've put a lot of energy into support and the person, all trying to boost them, but if they're not feeding that themselves, then done. And look there there is some sense of reality with all of that too as well, the where, you know, if if you want to be a world class sprinter, you know you can work as hard as you want do all things, but you know, if you're not fast, you're not fast, right, but that doesn't mean that you can't be a sprinter, it just may mean that you may not be the fastest sprinter. Yeah, if you you know, if you want to write books because you want to be an author, you know you may not be considered the best author of all time, but that doesn't mean you can't be an author, you know, and so you have to get to that place where you know reality becomes your reality in a sense, right. Yeah, in the words, there's no there's no delusion as to how much success you can have and you know, like, for example, I mean I'm forty six years old and if I say I want to go break the world record of deadlift, the probability of that happening is not very high. Not Impossible, but not high, and so you have to kind of think, you know, where's the reality? Become my reality? And Yeah, doesn't mean I can't be a great, you know, great lifter. It just means I may not be able to attain that in the sense that you know, can only be what. There's always going to be somebody out there that's a little bit better than you. Yeah right, and there's always going to be somebody out there that's maybe working a little harder than you. Maybe. So, you know, if you get struck with that reality, it goes back to our earlier part of the conversation. As you you've got to choose how you're going to feel about that, you know, and what the next step is going to be. Is it going to be progress or regress? And so you've got to you've got to figure that piece out and having that confidence in the morning to say that you believe in yourself and you know that you're a Badass. That makes a huge difference on how you react to maybe moments of reality or reality checks or things not going your way or not getting your cup of coffee first thing, you know, ha, ha, yeah, and curse in your brother all morning,...

I'm sure you know. Yeah, I have to do this for my brother. I would have had my coffee already. Yeah, yeah, you know, and I think it all circles back, right, it all comes back around and it's just about it's about the security that you have within yourself to believe in yourself and trust in yourself and and enjoy the process, learn to love that process and not focus on results more than focusing on your growth as a human and how you grow to the process and how you get better at whatever it is you're doing. Right, yeah, you know. I mean, I'm always saying it. Right, be good at what you're doing, whatever you're doing, be good at it, because being good at it, you know, being good at what you're doing means that you have pride. It means that you're that you have pride in your work and the outcome. Okay, taking the time to learn get better means that that you are inspired by the process and that you have a mindset that says, I want to be better than just good, okay, and then working your ass off to be the best. That's just straight up motivation. That is just straight up killer instinct. I want to be better than everybody else because I can, because I want to work that hard to get it. So, you know, I think that's the first time out of my've actually put some clarity to that statement that I make pretty much in every single post m you know, where maybe maybe some people understand it a little bit better. I mean, I think it's pretty simple statement and it's pretty direct, but I think that's the first time I've in fact, I know for a fact that is the first time that I have ever explained how how I came up with that and what that means to me. No, I think I think it's great, the way you put it. I think it's like superb and I think it's spawn and it there's definitely come full circle, doesn't it? A hundred percent, no doubt loss. Definitely, it's it makes you really think, it's it's powerful. It's powerful when you think about isn't when you break it down? Yeah, I don't know that that I've actually I've thought about it and I've really you know, obviously, when you're trying to create a brand and you're putting your stuff out there. You want to be consistent, right, and I always kind of knew that that would be kind of my statement because it's kind of like my mantra, you know, I don't want to be stagnant. And then, as I've thought about it, you know, it's really what it means to me and I hope that, you know, somebody hears that and understand it and maybe they get a little bit different ve on that common and it's not just some guy point a finger in a camera for sixty seconds like be good, get better what you're asking? Yeah, you know. Yeah, yeah, actual, you know, there's real meaning behind that, you know. So, yeah, as first as I shared that, man, I appreciate it. No, no, you will, come on, I'm in. I'm I'm so happy to have you back on the podcast. I think it's important to talk about things that are real, real and ongoing and not are important to is, as you know, people, and to share that and to spread that message and to pull that out there for people to take something from it. Yeah, I agree. I agree, and I want to thank you for inviting me back and, you know, giving me a platform to talk on and, you know, create good open conversation and dialog. So I think what you're doing is powerful and it's important, man, so keep doing it, keep doing your thing.

You know. Yeah, keep doing you. But is it happy, good, whatever you're doing? Be Good, luddy. Yeah, yeah, how to get better and then work your ass off to be the best. There you got. Yeah, appreciate the time. Man is always in that. I hope you get to do it again soon. Yeah, of course I do. I do enjoy your platform and you know, again, I think you're doing awesome job, doing great things out there. So and whether you know it or not, you know you you've got a worldwide impact, you know. I know you've got followers from all over the world, that you're reaching out to people all over the world, so you're getting a lot of different perspectives. So I think it's great to keep it up, man. Chance really enjoying it. Thank you so much, and it really really means a lot and I'm so grateful and humboard by you know from what you said, and you know, I'm really privileged to have you on in to talk to you about what we spoke about, and I'll keep you know. I'm happy that you like what I'm doing and I'll keep on doing it and I'll be happy to have you on again soon. And Yeah, I'd love to man. Let's will connect. Let me know when's a good time. And I thought I'd love me back on the show. So, yeah, appreciate it. Thank you again and good man, I'm glad to be associated with your brother. You two, mum, all right, we'll talk soon. Yeah, take it easy off, see sooner. You got it. All right, she's got a man. Be Good Mom. It's a.

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