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Episode 14 · 1 year ago

The Parrsitivity Podcast #Episode 88 Alexandra Maia

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In today's Podcast im joined by Alexandra Maia , Alexandra is a social media/Business strategist that helps individuals and businesses to become the best that they can be! Through helping and guiding people how to use social media, to gain leverage and level themselves up! website: https://www.house-of-social.com/ Instagram:House_of_social --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the-parrsitivity-podcast/message

Hither. My name is Adam Po and the podcast host posity to podcast. In this podcast, you will be listening to me connect with people from different walks of life, from the military to people in the music industry, to people in the SELFHELP industry and many other areas of life. In this podcast I'll be talking about topics from self help, mental health, motivation, spirituality, mindset, society, current affairs and much, much more. If you enjoy this podcast, please subscribe, share and let me know your feedback. And my main intention on this podcast is to have a positive impact for you, the lit the listener, to take something positive from it, to apply something positive into your life from this. Now with without further ado, let's go to podcast and enjoy. Hi, what was the polity to podcast? On today's episode, I'm joined by Alexandra Maya. She's a business consultant, social media and business strategist. She helps individuals and businesses to grow themselves and become the best that they can be on social media. In today's podcast we talk about positivity, life, journeys, motivation, social media and much more. Now, sit back, relax and enjoy this episode. Hi, hi, accomplish me. Yeah, Alexander, me. Yeah, not. Thank you for sure. Thank you for coming on the PODCAST. We appreciate my pleasure. I'm excited and excited to talk to you. Yeah, you too, because I first saw you on that to you a Guy v okay, and I was like Gosh, I was like you gotta so much positive energy and drive and like momentum and never very I was quite actually, no, I have been more nervous. I was actually a little bit more of a lot. I had waited for weeks, so I have really yeah, so I had already relaxed a little bit. I think if I had done that video with Gary the day after I knew I was going to be on the show, I think I would have just been even more nervous. But because I waited for weeks at I was like calmer. HMM, you kind of like build up to it and kind of Pare Yourself, only more. Yeah, yeah, so I really have the time to then relax a little bit more. So I was definitely more but it's for me. For me was just a little overwhelming because he's been a mentor for me for six years and then and then you know you only have a limited time and you want to you want to say so much, so you don't miss but at the same time you don't want to overwhelm the person or you don't want to be going on for a long time. So it's definitely like a kind of a bit of a nerve racking sort of like experience. Yeah, yeah, all right, I can. I just I think like what you you like said over that Thomas said years. You're trying to compact everything over that time until like a short kind of time. Yeah, because you you like in your head, you develop an emotional relationship with this person. You know, when you have a mentor or someone that you follow and you take advice from, you you develop your own relationship with them. So for me, it's like, and I'm so grateful that it happened now because, you know, the advice that he gave me. Now, would definitely want to be in the same if this was like four years ago. So I think, you know, I really believe in the timing of things, so I'm really grateful that it came at this time happen now. So yeah, so awesome and I think it's you know, I think it's great. You know what you're doing and...

...you know what you said and everything I think is really really good and like so like what you do in your work. It's like business consulting, is it? And my branding and marketing and help people. Yes, yeah, I essentially help smally in size businesses, company individuals, example, like yourself, even infers, want to launch a business or want to take their business to the next and social media marketing from it. So I can really help you out how to let this, how to leverage social media partning and also help you with your whole sort of business framework so you know how to go about it, you know how to how to grow it, how to scale it, where to start. So I yeah, I work with a variety of different types of clients. I can work. I've got clients that are like bigger clients and then I've got a lot of small, median size businesses, and then I have a lot of interpreneurs that are building their own personal brands and they can really do what they love, like yourself, like from life to you know, like a sort like the experts or you know. So it's a huge variety of different types of people, but with the ultimate of they want to grow, they want to scale and they really want to you know, try to make a living out of what makes, you know, makes them happy. So that's that. Yeah, what I do? Yeah, and I just I really help them with the framework, with the strategy, with the creative ideas. So there's a lot of practical advice. There's a lot of practicality when I work together with clients. So, you know, what are we going to do? How we're going to do it? We're thinking as well, so, you know, mapping things out for the next month, for the next month. Yeah, and I work right closely with them, which allows me to understand the person and even that I have in front of me, so that the strategy that I am giving this person fit this person's energy circumstances budget, because that's also that's that's really important. HMM. Yeah, I agree, and I think like what you said, you know, just kind of like stick into a lot warm sex or a piece of kind of clients. Oh, you kind of like you know, I said, entrepreneurs, small businesses, me a bit more bigger big businesses, probably a lot of people in lot of corporate sector as well. So yeah, yeah, in my first year I had a lot of agencies and I had a lot of corporates because I was. I was known here in Dubai because I always worked in agencies. So that industry new me. So the anything like Oh, you know, Alex is now independent, so let's like, you know, let's work with her now. And then, as the market evolved here in Dubai and there's being even more small medium sized businesses, I've attracted a lot of small medium sized businesses. So it's just, you know, it's that. It's that concept of you know you, you're the honey in the best kind of come to you. So then you kind of you know you, you kind of see who comes to you, and then that's really interesting and you kind of then lean in into those pockets of different targets. And Yeah, I think it's important to also stick to working with who you get more real problem. I definitely get a size businesses. They comment so much passion, you know, Passion. That's very different from when I work with a company and an organization. It's just very different. HMM. I suppose it is interesting see, like said, the different dynamics and the different ways of working with people, because I suppose it's this they're not each day must be so different for you because you work with so many different, different people. Yeah, so I'll have like a session where, like I just had a session now with an amazing, you know, young girl lost her job during covid right. You know, many people did, but that actually called her to start her own thing. So now she's finding herself two months in, being a freelancer and having clients back in our home country. So, you know, you're talking to a twenty five year old girl who has just gone through you know, lost her job, but really, you know, when all in into you know what, I'm going to try and do this as a freelancer, and now she's and covered like all these opportunities that she didn't she had, and so the conversation is extremely different from, you know, maybe another client that I'll have tomorrow, which is a client and very different. So, yeah, it's all about I really believe businesses a people's business. You are dealing with people. You have to be your energy, get to know them, feel them out, because at the end of the day it's all humans, it's that we're working with. And Yeah, I really really believe business is business in two thousand and twenty and I really think about the business of people, how dealing, how...

...to work with him, how to talk to them, how to navigate around them. I think that's and that's a skill that people need to learn. These two evolve more in and I even in schools, like I think in school there should be something in the curriculum around stuff like this. Is Really people can do. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I know, I definitely agree. Laughing businesses is that I said. You've got to understand people, you've got to understand yourself, of and you you got to like people, because I think if you know, if you don't like people and you can't relate to them, then you know it was going to be very poorly, very hard for people to get by. And I think that kind of old business, like corporate is it nineteen s s approach is about outdated now it's still operates and some businesses, doesn't it. For Yeah, yeah, no, true, like you have to, I think, is that empathy thing right, you got to have you got to come from a place of empathy, place of kindness. You know, businesses, business, and not to get too emotional about things like you know, I'm not going to be emotional if my client doesn't take my advice. That's just how it is. You know, yeah, it's hard because a lot of people can take things very personally. A lot of people can take things to hearts. You know, you really have to draw the lines into what you don't personal. You know, I always think like you can be high energy but low investment. So, you know, sometimes with clients you don't necessarily have to like a client, right, I don't. I don't really have to really love a client or like a cent but I certainly want to respect them and I want to have high energy for work we're doing, but I can be a lower investment on the emotional side. Yeah, yeah, it's fun about like common ground, I suppose, isn't it? Both kind of working to same objective, because it's like you got to climb your advise on them. They've got a kind of take on both what you're saying and spose really ideally, you want to hope they do, because they're going to be paying you for it. Yeah, but at the end of the day, like I'm such a fan of people. You know what? I always say this sometimes when I'm having harder discussions around certain strategies and tactics, like I'm at the end of the day, I'm such a fan of like if you don't want to take my advice and you want to go and try your own road. I'm also such a fan of that. You know you want to go on that journey by yourself and learn it. I really even think that sometimes the dead. But if you've come to me and you want to hear my two cents on it, of course I'm going to give you my two cents based on my experience of everything that I've learned. That works. You want to take it like cool. You don't, I will not. I don't usually spend too much time convincing anybody. It's interesting. I did have that last week with a client where it was exactly the US who were talking about and I did say, you know, I was pretty clear about how not going to work and sometimes I'm just very straightforward and that's just my style and and I said it. Look, I can understand almost tell you like it's just not for the work. You're not going to sell the way you think selling. I think you're going to really waste a lot of time and energy where I think you put that time and energy on a different strategy, you can get what you want. And and you know, when it was still like no, no, you know what, I still want to do it and I'm like, that's fine, that's totally cool. You know, at the end of the day, you came to me to ask my two cents. There there are. If you still want to go up and do your own thing. I I I'm never fascinated by the business of having to try to convince people. I think it's a waste of time and like, you know what, that's totally cool. Yeah, in your journey and I'm happy for them, like I'll be happy for you, like by only it's it's just like when you watch my Clipa Gary, it's exactly that, when he said to me, you know your whole online at for free and you could give your content for free, and how you can have so much more opportunity. Like that's huge. That's a huge thing to do and at the end of the day, obviously it's up to me to decide if I want to do it or not. But if I'm coming to IMFORD's, I said, must be for a reason. So yeah, right, like that's just like because it's funny, like I had a lot of people that DM me after and I it's so interesting because I had so many people DNA me and they were like Whoa, like what do you think? Like, what do you think about what he said? Because that was like that's like so insane and you know,...

...like, you know, it's really interesting and it's like and I was like yeah, I mean for me, I trust because, yeah, that it works. Sorry for me, I said advice. At the end of the day, I think we have to do what we feeling side and listen to our instinct and yeah, yeah, yeah, no, I agree. I think you plet be right. I think you have to you have to listen to what's right for you and you know, it's up to you where you take that advice or law, what you do with it. Instinct is a strategy and we don't seem to look at it like a strategy because we go up to like, Oh, you know, strategy, it's like and has to be like this very serious thing, but you're Gutin. It's a huge strategy to follow your gut instant. Most of the Times it's actually right. Yeah, it's. It's I think it's, like I said, it's tuning into that, knowing it, and it's like you have to know yourself. Doing will get to know that part of you you know, and half that you know. When you get over people's opinions on it, you get that clarity to it. So you must not like clarity from them. I think it's terrible. I think I think we should ask like one or two people that were trust and then that's it. Like I think once you start like asking too many, of course you couldn't get different opinions, because everybody's going to have a biased everybody's going to have a point of view of where they're coming from with their opinion. And I mean for me, I really like my mom for me, is my sound board. Actually me, I am very obsessed about just following my instinct in my whole life. I've always just been like that. It's like I feel I want to do something, like I do it like an even when like that's crazy, I'm going to do it, and it's always kind of played out okay, even though it's been quite insane, but it is that's always played out well in some way or another. Like I remember when I was super lost in my life and I was like, you know what, let's just cross the horrid as and for like three months and no and like yes, and it was like me and my best friend. This is like years ago, and it was like the best thing I did because it actually unlocked so many things for me, and I think that I go in with what you feel, with what you got instinct tells you, because at the end of the day, if it plays out well, you can say to yourself that you know what, it played out really well to listen to me, and if it didn't work out, you only have yourself to blame. I think that's the problem. You Ask all these opinions to other people and then, if things don't work out, you end up then blaming them that it didn't work out. I'm like, dude, no, like, it's on you. It's on you if it's going to work out or not. It's your responsibility. Yeah, now, exactly, as people can often take goodvice, more people say and then do it and then belong. Oh well, you told me to do that and it didn't work out. So so I will know your control your life is up to you. Whether you take that. I'll do that on not. Yeah, God, what's up? What an experience going through this a hard does it like? Oh, that was so crazy. I was lost during that time. So that was like a time of my life where I was lost. So I thought my first career was performing arts and and so I started in performing acts when I was really little, six my grandmother for the theater and and that was in Portugal, and then I continued on in the UK and then when I went back to the Portugal, I continued and then my biggest dream was to like New York, and then I managed to get that when I was twenty. I just send out the audition days. I mean we didn't have any money for me to do that. So again my mom was like, I'm really worried about this because you're sending out these audition tapes. What if you get accepted? Like, you know. But to cut a long story short, like I was just stubborn and I'm like, I'm just going to send these audition tapes because, a, I really never thought that I would get accepted because I'm just like this Portuguese girl in Portugal. Who in New York is going to like accept me, like, you know, you really like this is like far out, you know, and I was tweety at the time, so you know, and the world is not what it is today. At that time I'm thirty eight, so a while ago now, is a while ago, now, a little while ago. Yeah. So then I yes, and then I got accepted, I, which was like what, this is like insane, how that I get accepted, which, and now the tributes to you. Should just always persevere, because you just never know what can happen. Yeah, when you think all of your odds are against you, you should just persevere. Never...

...know, and all the odds were against me. I. Yeah. So then I did end up going to New York. I studied a few years and then my visa finished and I could continue living my dream, and I was really good dream because I was waking up every day and I was part of the American Academy of my card and I was acting every day. I was so happy. And then my visa finished, my money finished and there was no way that I could continue. So my heart was broken. Pretty much. It's like like what now? And and I have to go back to listen. And I was so heartbroken I didn't know what was my life purpose now. Like I grew up being little and being obsessed about musicals and I would watch the S, you know, Fred astaregine Caley, there in the Mor row, like my whole life was I'm going to be a performer, I'm going to be an actress, even if it takes me my whole life. And then suddenly I didn't know any more what to do. So I had no idea. It was like what now? And I was in Portugal and I didn't feel like I belonged in Portugal. All of my friends, I could not connect because I had lived this amazing life in New York and now I'm back in Lisbon. It's like I felt so disconnected. I didn't have friends, I didn't know what was up, and I know what's going on. So I was lost for a period of like I would say, I think it was like two and a half years, where I had no idea of what I wanted to do. And during that time my grandmother that was living with me and my mom, my mom was still in the UK. You know, my grandmother was like, okay, you just have to go out there and just do something, like just get a dog, like so that you meet humans and see people, so you know you're out of house, just like kicking me out of the House. I was just at home, I press and so then that was the boy like under the Dube and I was just like, like what are doing my life now? Like what's life? Yeah, so young, like I was like twenty three, but I felt like I had lived so much because I live. I moved to the UK when I was ten and I was really like traumatic expoens, like Oh, super bully, you know, kids kiss in UK or mean, Y, tough. I had to grow up fast. I didn't have friends for two years at school. You know, nobody wanted to be friends with me. And then, you know, so it was like this. There was a lot like growing up. was like a lot of like change, change, change, change, and I ended up getting a job at hard rock cafe because I walked into hard rock cafe and I was like yeah, okay, you know what, this kind of gives me a New York vibe. This yeah, for me to work. So I ended up being a bartender at hard rock and then I was just part sending and having fun and didn't even yeah, whatever, I don't know. And then I wanted to travel to the Middle East because I had already been fascinated with the Middle East and culture, just fascinated, not a specific reason, I think, at the time, and I had a crazy gay best friend and we said to each other, let's try and find the crazy strip we can go on and back in the day you would go to travel agencies. So we went to these travel agencies and we were like we want to go to like the most craziest like places. What did you have when you have and everything was just the normal stuff. And then one day, when then we end up finding this lady and she's like, okay, I know this person in Morocco that does this Sahara out teams for like two, three months, but this is fun, you know, this is under the radar, this is under the books, this is all unofficial, and we just looked at each other like that's the one we want. Yeah, can we pay dot and she was like okay, and it was that and we ended up going for like two months and it was so crazy and it's definitely not something you probably be able to do now, because it's super insick to do that now. I think, yeah, crazy and anyway, c a long story short, like I really believe everybody should get lost at some point in their lives, because when you're lost you should give yourself the time to experience so much lots of different experiences that it allows you to work how what you want, what you like. The more experiences your taste like. The more experience you get, the more you learn about yourself. And and you know, the Sahara was just like a small part of this time that I was lost. It was in the Sahara that I did decide, okay, I got to go back to the UK. So that was my part two of living in the UK, because that was like, okay, I gotta go back to London and I have to study in London because I'm like, okay, I am not going to study in Port I'm going to study in and what am I going to say? I have no idea. I figure it out when I...

...get there. But yeah, it was it was awesome, it was do was awesome, I think. I think being lost, if you embrace it in a way of like let's just taste as much as I can, it's so recording. I always say to everybody go get lost for a period of time. Yeah, got what an amazing time. You know, those time and I, like you said, like you know, by you know, pushing out your comfort zone and just doing it and going out there, you know, you grow down. Yeah, yeah, courage to want to get out of the comfort zone. Yeah, and, like you said, you know, by getting lost you're most kind of find yourself a little bit in some way, because you kind of like, you know, the more experience you have, the more you build, you know, people, skills, connections, you know, life experiences, like you said, like I remember now, I've done bar jobs and things like that, and I remember like a certain times I won't I wasn't happy and I just didn't know what I wanted to do. I know I wanted to help people. Are Do something, you know, I'll just like, you know, what is it? What is it I want to do? You just when you don't know, it's not very nice, but you can reflect back on those times and see the experience you've had. Yeah, and when you don't know, you just go with what you think right. So, you know. So when I when I went through this time, it was like a cart fotball attending and that was just like to kill time and to have fun and to get some money and to meet people. So that was like the next time. Ever, there was like one year. That's all we did. We bartender at night, we went to the beach during the day and it was like the like time of our lives, like the best Stuf I've ever had in my life. I couldn't even believe I was getting paced to do that. It was like this is like fun, I'm getting kicked to have fun. And then, you know this the horrd trip really started clicking things into you know, what I need to start. I need to go back and study something. But that's all I knew, like I have to study something for a short amount of time, because I've never been into like studying for a long time. I grew up with among her self made. So for me I really rather get the experience on ground and work my way up and learn, learn, learn, learn, like read books, study people, follow people, like be a strange rather than the academic way of you know. But I was like, okay, I need to study something. And then it was really interesting because I in Portugal I still tried to get into multimedia engineering and I'm like I failed mass how could I ever get into like Multimedi engineering? I'm like, what am I on about? So then that obviously didn't work out. I dropped out like four weeks after like the course started, and then when I got to London, I'm like, Oh, I know, I'm going to be a journalist because I love communicating. So I was like I'll be a journalist, and the world was not what it is today. They we wake up and we are like I want to be a social media market here and we've got the words social media. We're talking about thirteen to fourteen, fifteen years ago, where the world is not what it is today. So, yeah, I was already having massive tendencies of the technology world because I would take apart lap computers and scanners. I was I was really obsessed about hardware. So I would like, yeah, that I was like building sides and I was like learning dream weaver back in the day. And I was like, I don't know if you remember, I don't know what Your Ages Bom Twenty six, okay, cool, yeah, yeah, so, I don't know if you remember this. I don't like if this magazine still exist, the PC guide magazine. Yeah, I'm a yeah, I would subscribe to PC guys. I was obsessed about this world, but because the world wasn't what it is today, it didn't click to me early that I was like into the online world and I tried journalism. I dropped out. I then tried interior design and when I did off, yeah, and and this was in St Martin's University, University of Arts of London, that one, and it was my it was my interior design teacher, or Valerie, that came to me and said, Alex, you suck up this thing, at this in your design thing, not your thing, but you're really good at like branding and you really good at like social media. But at the time they wouldn't the word social media war. That wasn't happening. She was like you good at this like online Internet thing, and I was just like cool, okay, like like this course is they're like an because this was like a one year diploma right. That was like okay, cool. So where do I sign for that one? Like okay, cool, like where do I go? This looks at me. It's just like, oh no, there isn't because this is still so new, like this is like you, you know, looking around. Like so what do I do?...

It's like, well, you can finish the interior design, because this is like halfway. And you know, and I can understand that you're going to look at the projects in a different light and that's fine, but at least finish it. And then I think you can go get a lot of internships and agencies, because that's where this world is happening. And as soon as she said that, everything starts at clicking, and then I'm like yeah, because I was already massively like on my space. I was like loving linked in at the time, already high five some of the early platforms. And then it's around yeah, so then I just and then clicks and I'm like, Oh, I think I do like this online stuff thing that's going on. And I really started going into the world of social thirteen years ago. So I didn't just intern in a lot of agencies and I started finding my way and and if it wasn't for all of these events when I was lost, I wouldn't have arrived at all the conclusions that I then started arriving. It's crazy, isn't it? Lot when you're in the this happening, you don't realize, do you? And then it's crazy how you just had the domino effect, isn't it? Like one situation on to another and then on to another, on to another. But you got to be open to it, because a lot of my friends, so I moved back along and be two of my best friends and we had a lot of other friends in London, a lot of my circle. They would judge me and nobody got it and they would be like, you're crazy. You just paid to get into a one year diploma. Like when I got the journalism it was a three year of course, was like a bachelor thing, and I dropped out exactly three months after and a lot of people, my friends, were like, you don't know what you're doing. You should stick to it, you shoot, you know, stick to till the end. You've paid for it. So what are you going to do now? And I was just like, I don't like it. No, I don't care if, yeah, another year. So you be lost, but be open to know that you have to keep searching for the next extree entered, for the next thing, because you can be lost and then you could just be like okay, I'll just take anything or I'll just want to do nothing, be lost. But it's almost like it's like you're going hunting. You always like looking for the next thing, for the next thing, for the next thing, like you know, yeah, yeah, yeah, no, I feel from that's great. I think that's like that's how we should be as people like you know, if you don't know what you're doing, try something, see that how that goes. If that doesn't work out, try the next thing, but don't stop, if that makes sense. Just keep trying things out. Yeah, because I can relate to what you said because I went to university and I got a place in I went back to not to come Trent, but that's notting him where I'm from, and I got a I did. I did a degree in criminology, so like the psychology criminals, and then I had to retake my mathematics because I got an F in maps. So I had to retail my mass get a SE grade. Get that because there's a conditional offer and I had a limited time to get the mask. Great to go to UNI. Yeah, I so I did that, got to UNI and after a couple of months I was like I don't like it and and I dropped out. Yeah, ink, dropped out, came and tried something else and then found coaching and yeah, it's crazy. We have to be open to trying things and be open to change. Like this conversation I was having with this girl just before this chat. There was a moment I sent to her and she's younge twenty five, you know, like and she was like Oh, because, you know, I'm worried about what's going to be like in the future, when I don't know. Like for now, now, it's now, and I really think, like what everything that's happened in two thousand and twenty? I think it's really giving us a huge perspective of let's live more in the now and in the present and focus on what we are now, this week, next week, next month, and and we don't have to have the huge pressure of figuring it all out. I think that adds a huge layer of pressure on people, like live in the moment, live in the now, this is what you love doing. Race. Is it going to be the same next year? Cool, maybe it is, maybe it's not. Like change. Change should be embraced, like we should welcome that as a good thing. HMM, yeah, I mustively agree. Must We accur? And I think like, and it's not a lot, looking at what the people are saying and aspect visit, you know, like what you said were what you were doing. You have friends and stuff saying, Oh, why you doing? They waste this money, you're going...

...to waste this time. But I've never cared much for what other for other people's opinions, and I'm very thankful that my mom and my grandma. I think they really contributed for that in that way. Also, because I think my upbringing in the UK was not the best. It really just made me like me myself, and I then like you know, I think you know, when I was bullied and I didn't have friends, I just had to learn to accept it and be okay with then I'm going to do my own thing. But you know, I think ultimately was mom and grandma, you know, brought me up in a way of, you know, follow your drains, do what makes you happy, seem true to what you want to do, really gonna give a shit about what others will say. I think definitely must have come from mom and grandma. I mean, yeah, little we didn't have money for me to go to kindergarten, so I spent a lot of like my first years in in the theater because my grandmother was an opera singer. So wow, yeah, so I I really grew up like my early years. I grew up with these crazy queer opera singer humans, crazy, you know, and on their laps and they would like do my hair and teach me how to do crazy hair and the hair spray, and they would like dress me up in these ounfits and and they would tell me these things. They would like yes, now what like you're taking in the world and don't give a shit about what people said. You know, there was this very queer, flamboyant personalities that I did grow up with, and my grandmother was one of them for sure too, and I think that must have definitely just left it in front of like, I really don't. I mean, I have a lot of love and respect for people, but but at the end of the day, I just want to do what I want to do. Yeah, yeah, that though, I don't blame you, and I think it's good to have that reinforced and I think it's quite some some people have to learn to think that way. I mean I I suppot lot attention into what people used to think about. Why do and it took a long time for me to lie like Oh, that. So if you can have that, you know, support instilled and encouragement, isn't it? Yeah, tell you not to. Yeah, we yeah, I think and I think that's why I think parents needs, you know, I think parents, I think needs, can contribute to do, like mom and dad needs to give a lot of that love, a lot of that comfort. I mean in that way I had but like, for example, from my father, I did it. So, you know, I can, yeah, I can see the two signs of the coin. I can see how, in that sense, mom and grandmother gave me so much that and then how from my father it was like the extreme opposite. And Yeah, we carry on with you and it can definitely affect you on you know, how you feel about yourself, how maybe you're someone's approval, in securities and yeah, things like that. Yeah, yeah, no, I agree, and it's, you know, it's kind of working through that, isn't it? And just except trying to have that positive kind of mindset on it. Got To work through it. Like, I think the worst thing we can do is humans, is make something that's happened for us in the past become a crup such that the word like becoming an obstacle and yeah, come to constant excuse. We are better than that, like, we are not defined by something that's happened to us when we were younger. We can takes a lot of hard work. It's and by no means I'm saying it's easy. It's huge. Takes a lot of emotional mental rewiring. We're almost sounds like a reboot of realm things that we feel inside. But I believe we can do it. I'm an optimist. I'm saying that out of my own experience with what happened with my father. It's taken years and years and years and years and years and years of this constant rebooting, realigning and resetting on, you know, getting rid of the framework he gave me, getting rid of that and creating a new one. But yeah, have to put in that work, otherwise that is in the find us for the rest of our lives, and it's like that. That can't make sense. A completely gray I think us. You know, interesting true, and you would know this because, from what you've told me, you've had a trauma thaty you. You've been working and you've worked to overcome it. So you, you would hundred percent know...

...what what that is like. Yeah, yeah, you definitely see the flip side to it when you've had something happened and you've been on the other side. You know, I always putting to school and things happened to me at school and then that thing happened around the same time and then those those things my step that so it was all at once and they would, like you said, when you've been in certain places and if you don't care for you can kind of take that narrative drumming from that neck to just so I've been taking I've been taking that narrative, but my father's gave me. I've taken it every single relationship with every single guy I've had until eight years ago, that friend, and but that's what I think. It's fascinating. The patterns are there for US see. We can see, we can clock the patterns, we can clock it, we can see how we're how the framework we see the world is based on something that's happened, and I think that's the first step. If we get that of awareness to go like, hold up a second, like and how we seeing record something is wrong. That's like, I think, the first step to the beginning of what why now need to do to feel and to reset, and and then, and then, I think that's like the next hardest thing. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, okay, yeah, yeah, life strong going journey, isn't it roll learning and growing and developing. You know, each day, each week each month and definitely, like you know, big long processes and it's not we never really reaching UNMARK. Would just keep going. Yeah, we got to keep pushing through, like push through, the push through, but we gotta want to push through, we gotta want to get past the like I remember there was a moment last December where I did something that I had never done before. Its dynamic of being with a guy and I'm the wanting of becoming better is so big and me that I'm like, I need to become better at this. That want allowed me to push through, to do what I had to do. Yeah, and, you know, like and then when it happened, it was just and then I was just like it's just like every thing else. When would do the next side, it's like it's like that say, it wasn't that painful. It's the idea of it that's painful, and it's like yeah, ten years to get here, but fine, yeah, okay, yeah, yeah, not. Definitely, definitely, I'm not. I I agree. I think you know, relationships like that, you know, like you, you kind of have to be that mutual field, doesn't it? Because they people can, people can challenge you and then you're going to have to become better in certain areas. You know that person. I push you to do that, and then if you're doing that, then that person should be doing that, and it's that kind of mutual thing, isn't it? That's something that that I've definitely learned as well. You gave time, by the way. Yeah, I think I can do like maybe five, seven more minutes. Yeah, of course, of course. I was gonna say, like, I see when I saw one of your videos you did alive the other day last week, and you'd like eight hundred like post it those behind you. I was like that's there. Yeah, so many more. It's it's such a probably good way to organize, you know, where you're out with things. Actually, these posteds are all my students. So I do a lot of events like master classes, food cans. Yeah, and I have this ritual where at the end of the event I get everybody to pick up a post it and just ride to their kind of like all moment. You know, like what is the one thing that you are stuck with the most? And for the past four years I've been doing so many events. I have these huge bag school of posts because I like saved them and so the ones that are there are from students that have come and down my short courses here in my house. So those are all little notes from like people that you could like read. But itself, yeah, like this one, this one you definitely is my own. I'm a huge fund of posted because I think it's a very good design. Thinking cool, it allows you to, you know, do this, which is things aroundt like stability. So for me, for the way that I operate,...

...put something up, take something down and, yeah, I find them. I find them as they are super like helpful, like yeah, cool, awesome. Yeah, yeah, I think, like you said it, we've ideas as well. It's good to get it out, you know. We haven't. I had with my forgot it. You can watch down, put on a post. Not Done. It's quite quite good. Visualizing things can be really helpful for some people, seeing them in front of them mapped out can really really help actionable. Yeah, yeah, no, so definitely, I was not their own way of working out and there for that's a really great, great way to do it. But do you have any like favorite books as full, but you read realful? Yeah, I do. I one of my favorite books that I've been reading for the past couple of two years. Let me grab it, it's here. Yeah, this book by by Ray Dahia, princess massive. Yeah, so it's like I mean, Ray Dalue is an amazing, extraordinary businessman and he's one of the most successful, like entrepreneurs in the US. He started back in the S and so the book called principles, which is all of his principles that he's collected over the years, and you can read it as a manual. You can you can just even like open any page and actually just start reading from whatever that you know, that section. But it's massively in massive as the detail on how he ran his companies, how he ran his businesses and all of the learnings that you can really, really, really like get from him. So I love this one. It's been with me for the past three years and I've just been reading it slowly and and he has on his instagram he has like little quotes excerpt from the book on his Instagrat. I think it's Gary. I think it's Gary Be's agency that are doing his social media, I think. Yeah, and there's an interview with them together. I think that you can see. Yeah, I really love this one and I haven't been reading anything new. I mean I read a lot online, like I read a lot of blogs and things like that, and but I think this is the book that I've loved the most in the past two years. That I want to say. Yeah, yeah, also awesome to definitely check it out. Yeah, I think you would really like it. It's really awesome. You can you can read at your own, like it's got like awesome like little sort of like Oh, nice, flightlights, diagrams and Vincy, superly interesting. Like, yeah, I think you would like it. Yeah, I definitely check it out, of course. Wow, say, the hero journeys. So it's like could adventure, crossing the threshold, the road habits, metamorphosis, the ultimate boon, returning the boon. It's really like this guy's huge, like it's really yeah, kick it out. Yeah, yeah, definitely, definitely. I'll added to my Amazon Bask Okay, I've got I've got so many books I need to read it's crazy. I look, so I had a reading one and I'm like I'm going to buy a one. O, that one looks good. I'm gonna get that one, and then I'm like, I know, whatever, done. So what are you reading now? I I read recently. Everything is figured outable by Marie Folio. She's a coach. Yeah, I read epicutus. It was a flot Roman philosopher. Okay, it's called manual for living. It talks about different ways of thinking and things like that, but philosophy. But I'm reading Garry V's crusher at the minute. I got I read all that years ago. Yeah, I've got Oh, yeah, of course give these books. I mean that's like a staple. You're all, yeah, yeah, the film. Well, yeah, the Black and green. Yeah, that one's quite good. And then I've got a because my granddad side a native America. So I bought a book based on a tribe in the native times called a shout, the shadow of shadow the moon. I think it's cooled. Okay, about the all the soft the native Americans went through in the West. So I'll be quite interesting to read. But yeah, you know, and so much from reading. Then you often important. You do. I don't. I don't read as much anymore as I use to. HMM,...

...the reading I do is not book reading anymore. It's more a lot you know, like long articles, things like that. I'm interesting and I really haven't read a book from start to finish in a long time. I like this type of like Mabe. Read like a chapter and it'll like put it down. But even that, I haven't done it a little while. Actually, maybe soon. Yeah, yeah, we have time. Like, I love podcasts. I definitely love I'm loving podcast more than the reading books. Yeah, yeah, like the how I can do other things. Yeah, no, I agree, and it's like you could do something. You can listen to it, you can do we need's to. Yeah, yeah, but but not that. It's not just be. It's been a true pleasure talking to you. Thank you, Adam. Thanks for having me instead you. Yeah, it's quite as place. For a minute. I've got dogs an IPHONE. So, but not. You're very, very welcome and it's been really great talking to you, and I'll post it and I'll promote what you're doing as well with it. And here, hold on. Yeah, of course, I my husband a mess. You look fine too. Cool. We made this happen. Yeah, yeah, yeah, not same. Same. Thank you, welcome, but not. Have a beautiful day and all the best and stay in touch, Knight. Now we're staying touch over on instagram and we see yeah, oh, sorry, sorry. Why where could people ware? Can people find you on social media. Sign. Yeah, they can find me on Instagram at house underscore, off underscore social. They can go to my website, W W house of Socialcom they can check how my free courses and my consultancy. I also have a youtube channel, Tick Tock, but I guess most of the fun happens on Instagram. Yeah, yeah, yeah, definitely, definitely check. CHECK, Alexandria. Thank you. Thanks, Adam. You're welcome. You take care. So have an amazing see soon. Bye, bye. By.

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