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The Parrsitivity Podcast

Episode 95 · 2 years ago

The Parrsitivity Podcast #episode7 with Tom Cheshire

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In today's Podcast we spoke about life, mindset, taking action, comfort zones, society, self development, importance of happiness, risk taking, fear, passion. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the-parrsitivity-podcast/message

Hey, hey, I don't. Are You doing your right? Yeah, yeah, nobody, all, nobody. So it's good evening to our listeners. Don't be Vinci. If a Russian listens, good, not that, not that anyone, for many of those backgrounds, are actually going to be listening to this. Yeah, well, you never know, that's true. That's true. You never know, stocons might actually take off and we get up a million hits on YouTube. Yeah, well, you know, never say never. That's true. Optimism, optimism of perspectives, but no, appreciate your good podcast when we guard me and Lewis on. So yeah, that was that was long, was it? I think about eighteen minutes, our twenty in total. We've run that for yeah, I mean it's crazy. Why, when you do something enjoy, to kind of flies like five minutes there. Yeah, because I mean we kind of had a schedule to go by, didn't we? And then it ended up just being one massive free flow. In the end. It did work really, really well. I mean that's what I think. That's one of the good things about curse. I mean, you know, like we have it's okay to have topics and things to talk about, but it can kind of pinball two different things and it can kind of flow. It can and it gives you that freedom to do that. I think it's very, very difficult to just stick to set topics sometimes. I mean it is possible, but it just got to go with the flow of need sometimes, and you have, I think, unless you're very knowledge but on the subject in which you would speak about, then you probably just end up free flowing a bit and jumping from point to point, because I know we've kind of we had a quick ch out before we did this about what topics we wanted to do, but I can imagine we won't get around to all of them. Yeah, we'll give it a go, we'll go it go for the benefit of the listener. And so you put down a lot, done quite a few. I've gonna John to start with. You knows. I think that's I think that's a bit broad. I think doing things that push out of your comfort zone would be a good place to start. Yeah, yeah, what have you done recently to push yourself out your comforts? An Adam? What? I don't listening high, I would say starting new things I've never really done before. I think doing it, it's doing this is one of them. To be honest, this is because you've not actually been doing the podcast a very long have you, and I know you've got like you've had a bunch of people coming on doing the podcast. You've even had like professionals join your podcast, which is good. I imagine the sort of pinnacle of this, of your podcast career, as it were, would be Gary v coming on one day. will get that absolute Legendar, if you can backflips. Now, that's it, that's it, and asking him for a job. Yeah, yeah, do things. Appreciate Your Comfort Zone. I mean, the reason I pick that is because recently, I think, I think I told you about Adam. Didn't know, I did my first aid at work. Something on your instagram and if for you you've put a caption saying just had to pick up someone or help save someone's life and use all so to my could my MC Donald's...

...and I was like yeah, you guy, another hard time in my Donald No, no, I should have given more of like a backstory to that that instagram per should night. So, yeah, I was on. I was on like a threeday training course. You know, it's paid for by work and everything, because there was a demand for a first day trainer on my floor. So I put myself forward for that and I thought, you know what, fuck it, I'm going to go and do it. And I'll tell you what, as I was driving there, Adam, like, I was really, really nervous about it because there were, I knew that they were going to be, eleven of the people doing it with me. M None of them were from my work. So I like no idea who these people are or anything. And I've never been to that part of Lester before because I did it in Leicestershire. See, yeah, and that was definitely pushing myself out my comfort zone. But the reward was at the end of the day I got my first aid at work qualification, you know. So that's something great to add to the CV. You get a bit more money for it as well. And but I'm going to take I'm going to take that even further and I'm going to take an advanced course in first aid training targeted specifically at trauma. I'm going to get that done probably around summertime. I think pushing yourself out your comfort zone, it's daunting because it's a change and not a lot of people like change, you know. They prefer to do the same routine day and day out. But I think pushing yourself at your comfort zone definitely gives you that room to develop and grow that we need. Essentially, to quote unquote one of my old instagram post be the best version of yourself. Yeah, so you know, I'm constantly looking now for more things to do to get myself out my comfort zone. Just joined my local gym. I've got back on the gym hype after a very long time off. Time to get rid of the DAD pod. Yeah, that's quite a lot of people find out what the the gym. I mean that that Bot is like a whole trend of others. Based on feedback, based on feedback I've had recently, dad bod does seem to be the preferred choice for for the League meets. But the yeah, whatever. So, but no, no, I did need to get back to the gym because I used to go like religiously. Well, we used to. We still trained and we we still want to live the knot me on why. We would meet and we go running around high fields and even ship clue, and that was a very, very long time ago, wasn't it? And then the things we would end up going during a messing about fly half an hour and I actually work now and then we work out for like twenty minutes. I mean that's the thing. If you're going with friends, like the likelihood of you, quote, messing around is going to increase. That's why I went. I went with one of my friends, James, to a gym in Westbridge for it called Roka, for a very long time and then I just started going by myself and I really got into sort of like my own routine and it was it was really, really good for me. HMM. I think the importance of exercising is just so great. You always need to keep itself active. I mean I'm hardly I'm hardly at home now because I'm always just trying to you know, yeah, about you know, as you know, I'm nipping out see someone after this for a bit. So I'm always making plans. Always put myself out my comforts own as well. I think...

...it's it really is beneficial. Yeah, I mean the thing is, I think because well, when you start doing it, you get a bullet and it isn't a it's quite an addictive bullets. It is. When, I mean when I got to the end of that first day of course I was like, I really don't want to go back to it now. You know, I'm Lovn't been here, but you know, good things got to come to an end. So, yeah, but no, it does. It does become addictive. Yeah, and I think the thing is as well, I will prevents people from jumping and still known, as is the favor of the unknown and feel old people back on the water. Sound your minds, your mind set towards situations before people. It is so easy to talk yourself out doing something new before you do it a hundred percent. You know, I'm feeling of it sometimes, I think working up. Yeah, and like the moment you start thinking our do it tomorrow or when work out, or what if this happens, you're you're just from yourself into mindset that isn't going to benefit you. And Yeah, it can just become a habit and it's it's so easy, like to know, I'm not going to be can't do it, but you know, once you actually do it and it it becomes easy, and that that struggle and they're uncomfortable it being uncomfortable. All of that part of the process. Yeah, just not just something. We've got a gopher. That's that's with anything at starting a new job, starting the gym, that's you know, relationships. It's a change to our lives, but you know, we've just got to try and embrace that best we can. Yeah, so, yeah, definitely, is definitely important to go out doing new things. And I know a guy who's going to be listening to this podcast. He recently went skydiving to the lucky bugger. Is going to be laughing at this when he hears it. But that's getting at your comforting, isn't it? But what the fuck? I'd beat I literally be so scared to jump out of a plane with with a parade. I mean, obviously I've never done it. Anybody did it once, I'd probably be addicted, but the thought of it is really nerve racking and it's sort of climbing over that wall the things, the unknown. I mean that's that's the dusty known. My the best example, isn't it? I mean it's just one of those things you just gotta you can't really think about, you've got to do, I suppose. Yeah, I mean all I starred IV and I mean mistakes and other things go wrong and I think that's where, you know, that's things where can prevent people mutually doing it like it's been, like, yes, I'm worried, like my I'm worried that my body's going to Splitt like fifty fucking pieces when I hit the ground at him like two hundred hour because I really saw thing. And lose paper today and got unfelocking. Ever, next turn on this, because the guy in the news went on the sky diving trip that the wife bought him flounder, if I'm a wedding anniversary and in the shoe ended up having holes in, and this isn't the Grand Canyon, and the ended up like dying base God, but that is like one in other million chance of that happens. That's very, very, very unfortunate, but that is you know, you could get in your car, get you could get in a cart down a car, drive down the road and have an accident, you know, walk across the road some cup and so that's prob we can't be can't like living this bubble there, you...

...know, because under a rock life happens. Yeah, yeah, yeah, well, now is isn't it is important. Stuff are your comfort zone and I think we're wired to seek comfort, we're wired to follow the crowd. Yeah, you know, of course, because what's Cave Mon Times. You know, we're that fight flight. Yeah, well, I the fight. Fight or flight in itself is a natural instinct, but notice that stepping out your comfort zone. It's something that we don't do enough. But yeah, you know, I'm always keeping active. You know, if you ask if we had this conversation a year ago, Adam, I'd be telling you, Oh, I get up, go to work, come back, play my xbox to like four or five hours, go to sleep, repeat, but now I'm hardly ever here. I'm waking up like a good few hours earlier than what I used to, keeping myself out the house, you know, and doing doing all kinds of shit. Yeah, really, and you know I'm poking addicted to just doing new stuff and put in, putting myself out there as well. A specific example of this, right, you're probably going to laugh. Okay, well, I was on this first daid course and it was the last day and I see this, I see this gorgeous redhead, right okay, and I thought, fuck it, I'm going to try and get a number. So I did actually end up asking her for a number, but before I did that, the nervousness was there. The part, big part of me just wanted to say, book it on, just go home, do what usually do, chill out, you don't need any difference in your life right now. But I thought, fuck it, I'm just going to put myself out there and try, and it's the trying that counts, it's the doing it, and I think we all need to be more. I can't think of the word I'm looking for. Sponsors. Sponsored. Well, I mean I was planning that for a good like eight hours straight, exactly how I was going to ask this this poor girl for fucking phone number. But no, I mean I did it and I felt really good about myself after because I essentially had the Khooneis to to get out there and try and get it. Yeah, chasing, chasing what you want, not enough. Not Enough people do this. A lot of this are also fucking autonomize these days into our normal rou teams and we don't bother to make any changes in our life. HMM. We're all will guilty of it at some stage. But the people that make progress, of the ones that are actually put in their best foot forward, HMM, and doing something about their lives, you know you you sick and tired of waking up at the same time every day to go to a job you fucking hate? Do something about it. Yeah, no one stopping you from creating a great CV, no one stopping you from approaching, you know, people high up the chain, as it were, asking questions. No one stopping your applying for jobs, no one stopping you from trying to get the number of that gorgeous redhead you shown the first is that a fuck it? What? Why not? Just yeah, just do it. It's a shit, shit, a boove moment. Just do it. Yeah, it's is important to sue as that comes...

...and they feel the fear and do anyway. That's actually not what I've heard yet. That's that's good. That's good because I think my is forward. First to have the recret of not doing it, not taking that chance, not taking up deep exact actually trying it and fell. I. What the what have you got to lose? If you try something, you fell in your bust off. You learn from you you can do you learn from it and you might know better for next time and you'll have the satisfaction of telling yourself, at least I tried. Actually wrote down a really good quote that I just wanted to bring up quickly. It's from from Mr Traumatic Shock. Sorry, I just wrote it down here. Where's he gone? But traumatic on the podcast it says it says here failure is the key to success. Don't be scared to death for trying. How true is that? HMM, that is that is true. Yeah, so try more, do more, worried less, because at the end of the day you just going to regret the chances you didn't take. How can I agree more? You can't. It's the fucking truth. But the thing is, it's crazy because, like the blood the last podcast up, last podcast I did, always talking my good friend Antonio Thinking here what in the same was yeah, yeah, he was. So it is so easy to set a goal in in to create these narratives, but so little people do. You know, it's it's not hard to write down go something so simple, but is, you know, a very complex thing to sit down to think about thing, because I think we're just at times, like you know, for education, in educational lot to blame problem and you know, which busy on being on the guard or not, or to, you know, want sit down, have a think, think about what it is that you really want to do. You know, if a teacher said that, you know. Yeah, so, you know, sit down for circle, right down the things that you really want to do and doing follow it into not hold back for fear, because I think, you know, like visualising your goals. It's visualize, it's seeing yourself where you want to be and taking the necessary action to that thing. Yeah, I mean, I was got mindset and R and blouse, but I think we've all got our own stuff. We've all got our own shit, so to speak. You know that we have to work for, but we have a choice whether we want to, because I think for a lot of you know, like you said, take an action and doing things. What complicates that in the first place, it's people belief systems. Is, if a person's got the school of belief in the cell that's in themselves like that, that's the issue. That's what's holding them back and they need to try and push that to one side and bealize that you can do that. You can do that, you just need to apply yourself. HMM. But in it doesn't help these days that, you know, we're having shit shove down our throats like stuff on Netflix. People have binge watching you know, if you ask, if you ask nowadays what someone's favorite all be is, there is a good chance they're going to say I'll binge watching this TV show on Netflix. That's that's not a fucking hobby, Carolyn. All right, that's good. That's an addiction. That is not a hobby. Yeah, well, it's, and I think stuff like that prevents us because it's so...

...addictive. It prevents us from getting to where we want to be, because I'm guilty of it, as you know. Idem I'm studying to be trained to being electriction M but there's there's been times where I've just kind of put down the book, stuck something on Netflix, not because I wanted to break but because I'm looking addicted to certain stuff on Netflix, and it's sad, you know, I haven't. I've made a point now of not actually going on Netflix for a while. I actually deleted my account. HMM, I'm not paying for that Shit. However, want to watch some that I just like. Don'tload it. Concerning hip hop, gone time here. That's it. Yeah, but, you know, completely agree and I think it's difficult. It's difficult to break up. This is because we will get into these habits where you know, you might finish work, you got home, put TV on, you might it's truckler or whatever, but I think, you know, sometimes you might come to a partner time in your life where you just you just feel like crap or you just feel bored or you just feel a certain way and you get into it right, you get into a bit of a Rut and half the time you do well, we're unaware of it. We're unaware. You know, it's like doing new things, trying things that are new. It's like I've I've got loads of box you know that. You know I should be reading every night and, yeah, and putting my time into that, you know. So I've I've started like reading again before go to bed and spending different time reading. That's a new helbit. So creating a new habit. If I don't know, that's all scientific on. That's that. That's that's it. That's a good habit and a good hobby to have, because at the end of the day, knowledge is power and everything you're retaining from these books at is only going to help you down the line. Yeah, and they'll be certain situations where you think back, me think, Oh, I fucking read that in such and such a book. Yeah, I know the answer to this and that's how you're going to stand out in certain situations. That's really good and what I've started doing because I've ditch Netflix. Now I'm actually writing a book at the moment. HMM, early stages yet, but I've done about just over a hundred pages. It's sort of like a rough copy. But that's why I do before bed now I find that I sleep so much better. Turn off, turn off the TV, turn off the screen. I'm sort of writing down stuff in my book and, yeah, I sleep so much better now and it's such a good thing to do and I think it's a good habit to have that I can relieve. Well, no, I'm actually writing on where, I'm sure we're all writers start, pen and paper. is where it's at at the moment. But if I do get round to completing it then and if I do get it published, then yeah, I'll probably put it on a knee book. Yeah, that's good. I mean the I was sure the best song, so you will be really, really good. Thank you. Yeah, well, I mean it definitely. I think writing. It's definitely increased my sort of creative will improve my creative side to a certain extent. You know, it's your imagination on paper. HMM, you know. Yeah, so I'll probably do a bit more of that, depending if I'm back tonight or not. I guess I'll see. Yeah, see, not for the best time in you know, I'll promote it, you know, when you've done it and everything very much, but I think like, yeah, we should all do that. We should all find something within us, within...

...ourselves, that we can put out there. You know, you do do means in like a contribution. Yeah, like, you know, like something that you're passionate about and putting out there into the world so other people can see it and benefit from it, you know, and take interest in it. Yeah, because you look at everything around us, like I kind of blow my mind a little bit. Like I parked up and I went to MC Donald's give a month, yeah, and I was looking around and I was I was looking at cars and I was looking at the buildings around me, and I was like there's McDonald's, and as like that, I was a companys, a company, someone created that, that someone's idea. Yeah, and then there's like a starbucks start walks out that someone's idea. Like you just see where it is now. You know, you see where it is now, and I think that's with a lot of successful people, that's with a lot of businesses. You just see what's on the surface now, where they are bit behind all that, behind all this, you know, all the success. There's a lot of ideas. There's a lot of failures, as a lot of try and knows that went into getting those companies and distributions with on now. Yeah, yeah, no, that's it. I mean Jeff Bezos, when he's tied Amazon, he was doing what? Selling books, I think. And and now, and now, look at him. People are buying. You can buy anything, anything from Amazon, YEA, and have it delivered to your house the next day. Look, look how far he's gone. We're getting the same. He had the right he had the right business model and I think it was a another company that started off in like a fucking shed. There's a like a google. HMM, there's a famous I can't remember. There's a famous picture of Jeff, Jeff Bezo. So don't if you've seen up shut on my instagram and it's him and he sat a desk, get this whole computer and on a bit of car yeah, on the wall behind him, says Amazon. I've seen that. I've seen that photo and you said, you know, I read, I reckonize. Very humbling for someone like him to look at a picture like that of himself so many years ago. And I mean all of us, you know, every single one of us. Imagine, try to imagine where we're going to be in five, ten years down the mind. Yeah, not enough of US make the actions now to secure that future and that's that's saddening. It's suddening. But you know, human race, it's it's a spring, it's spival of the fittest, you know. So it's only you can take the actions now to secure as a future of yourself. And if you're not doing that then you're going to be still in the same but that you are now doing the same shit day and they are. And that's gonna be hard for some people to hear, but oh well, that's the truth. Truth Hurts. Last reality. There is reality, not reality sucks. Yeah, but yeah, but you like think Bart to when me and you went to New York and January last year, and you think scale, at the buildings, the businesses are know, we wof through Wall Street doing hmm. Yeah, I mean that's you know, that isn't kind of real life. You know, it's kind of not for everyone. I'm not saying everyone needs to go down that route being a stockbroker, but you know, like they all these buildings and all these people creating these things. You know they're taken action, they're doing it. They're not sitting around the side. There's...

...a stall. That quote, and I think is about a Rolls Royce and they said that the reason why there's no Rolls Royce commercials is because people buying them on sitting around watching to there something like that. So that's true. That's true. When was last time you saw an advert about Bentley? There is there'sn't one or the gutty. No, it's just it's just Oudy, BMW Plasio, stuff like that. I saw Bentley yesterday. I got pulled up out some a workplacement and there's milk Green Bentley, this old sould guy what work like a new Bent Ley? Or Yeah, brand new for by for Bentley just pulled up all for by for the bet taker. I think. I think they started like seventy or a Kus. You can customize it hard lucking broid could tell them it was like proper real lever was all employdered. Oh yeah, yeah, the materials will be amazing on a car like that. But you know, even has a choice of what they want to do with their money and the time. And we are, we are in control of our lives with you know, the minute you become a victim and you say it's not me, it's because of x, Y Z A, then you given you power away. You're not taking responsibility for your life. You're well, yeah, and I mean but some people might be in a situation where, you know, they have got x, Y and said, but then they still have to try and make the best of the situation that they're in. HMM, you know, but the end of the day, is all down to do our choices. And one of your very first famous quotes, Adam, we all make choices, but in the end our choices make us. Yeah, that's like ten years ago. I think. He said that for those are bioshock, it's by shock. That's where I got it from. And okay, bars are from that box through sixty and then. That's right. Thing he said then I kind of really connected with that and I was like wow, yeah, yeah, but I'm this bioshock class up. It was free on the playstason plus. HMM, but I don't really play xbox anymore. I don't really have time. Yeah, I'm I'm a lot more limited with it now. Like I do like playing games, but like, if I play more than an hour, I feel bad and I'm not. I'll just wasted, do you? Yeah, I mean if I sleep in past ten now, like I'm just wasting time. Get up. So, but I used to like sleeping till like twelve one, something absolutely ridiculous like that. But you just wasting your time. Time, they've been given to you. This is your times limited. So they say something crazy like you sleep like a food along for something like that. Will you? I don't know what you do. I could you don't you do? Because there's twenty four hours in a day. Our sleep is what natural recommends. An a hour sleep is the baseline for people. Get eight times by three, twenty four. So yeah, you do sleep for a third of your life, which is a lot of time. But then again, sleep is important and I I think you're sleep. That's one of the things to talk a while. Sleep is important. Like I are not I'm a really chill person, but if I don't get sleep. My muscily, I fear, affects me. mustible light, you know, if you've got a NTEL. HMM, and then that really just it ruped that routine that you have. It does. Yeah, I mean, I'll be honest. I if I'm up early, I'm kind of like fuck, fuck this, foot golf, that, that kind of stuff. That's what I'm that when I wake up and I am bad for it. That is definitely one of my downsides. But yeah, so I continue. No, no, I finish my...

...buzzing. Say A lot. When we last went out in town that time, HMM, I went back to yours and I weave. Yeah, I'm over and take ways. We was order and I won't right, I did. I did get them money back for the food that I ordered, but from crazy I've deleted to just e up now, for here I've had to take away actually, not good. Well, over among the last time I to take away was when you were around. Yeah, that's to take away. Yeah, which's but yeah, but when you're tired it has a knock on effective mood to how you run. It also does. Yeah, lack of sleep altars our personality temporarily and it sucks, but that's just how it is, you know. That's why people when they first get into work that I don't talk to me before I've had my coffee. Yeah, done, like Shit like that. But then again, that's a mindset, that is a belief. You know. It's like I saw a guide did a quote about it. You were saying, like my Mondays, people hate Monday's, but that that is just a mindset. You've told why? Why do you think they hate Monday's? Two reasons. One, the weekend serves. They can't get as much sleep to it's the beginning of for most people, five days of work of them being in quote, they're root lots and it's up to them, so substance, to get themselves out that rot. I mean, I understand that. We know we've all got to start somewhere and we've all got to work, you know, bills on all the rest of it. But if you can do something that for the time being and and understand and just trust the process, and there's got of Viva says, you know, trust the process rather than looking to the to gain goal. You know, and just know that there is a goal at the end that you're working towards trust the process, enjoy the grind getting too where you want to go rather than M and if you haven't got a goal and you just on the grind, you just grind yourself down. You've got it. We've got a hut of some kind of goal inside to work towards, to happy, to become a better versions of ourselves. And this is something you've got to figure out for yourself. I haven knew. It's not something that smoking told you to do. Yeah, that's true. You've got to work out for yourself, implement it and try an error. It's okay, it doesn't work out first time, second time, the third time. Eventually you will get that. HMM, you know, but because the journey isn't it's the journey. It's not just destination and all that. Yeah, it's all. Yeah, yeah, it's not just getting about getting from A to B, it's the getting there, how you got there, what you learned to love the way, how you've developed as an individual along the way. So yeah, there's there's a lot to learn from the journey between A and B. B why? You probably think you know, you think that's like a year ago, and how far you wrong. Me and yourself in. Let you know the people and stuff like. You know, you're not really the same person. No, no, the same things. I mean a year ago. So what last February? I definitely was a different person, you know I was. I was spending money on absolutely shit, sleeping longer than being awake,...

...you know, bad habits like that. I'm not like that person anymore. I'm going to be volunteering for the police UN as well. I did that when I was eighteen years I would practice that. I'm going to be taken up again my local station. So that's going to keep you busy on or someday, and that ties into my talk earlier about making plans, keeping plans, keeping the sad and keep busy. Plus, I feel really plus. I did get last time I did it, I got a national police award, so fingers crossed again. Award this time round and I'll be able to do a eighteen verses, twenty six or maybe twenty seven, Lucy, a far off come. I'll far changed, apart from my hair cut. Oh yeah, I had the to x back in the day, didn't I? Now it's yeah, which item copied as well? Oh Yeah, obviously I want to this haircup please, barber, and then you too, then you, then you copy my barbers and then copy your barber's. It's been going to that one so but, but, yeah, I mean doing things, doing more and always creating opportunities for yourself, isn't it? That's like what keeps people going, like when I used to work at the golf club, US like guys playing golf and the other coming over your weekend. I can nine holes or whatever it was, and do all the competents. And you know that wasn't just playing golf to be not do another things as well. And, you know, being busy and active and engaging with people and learning new things. You know, learning is something that keeps you going. Yeah, you know, to work, retire, cut your pension and set around. It's not my it's not my objective in life. No, I mean take my differences. He's taking up a few since his retirement's taking a few hobbies, he is a bit of volunteering. You know, he's keeping myself busy and active and you know, essentially that's sort position I'd want to be in when, when I eventually retire after thirty, forty years in the trade on the tools, being a sparker. Yeah, pretty much. Yeah, but, um, but you know, like everyone's different and I think you've got to do what makes you happy and you know, and try and find. Now, try things out. You don't, I think you know. If you don't try things out, you don't. You don't know. Well, yeah, that's it. How do you expect to learn if you don't try new things? Yeah, I mean, on top of the advantage first day training the police and my electrician stuff, I'm going to put myself down for a language course as well. So I'm always looking for new ways to develop, to develop myself further improve myself. HMM. And now I've got a lot of time to dedicate myself to stuff like that. So I've got to make the most of the time that's been given to me. So, yeah, that's why I'm out doing all these doing all these new things, keeping myself occupied, constantly learning, constantly giving myself, as you making plans, seeing people doing stuff. HMM, not often. You're doing great time and I think you know it. It inspires it would be able to do more as well. That's that's what it's all about, isn't it? It's doing your birthday if you can help all the people along the way. Yeah, when you persent, I mean, as I said to you a long time ago, idem you know, it's important to be selfless to a certain extent where you're going to be helping other people achieve what they want to do.

If someone says to me, Oh, I mean this actually did happen. Someone said to me, reasonly, I've got such and such an exam coming up for their profession. Right, I went out of my way to try and find out a bit about what that professions about, gives them hints and tips. It might help them and it didn't take me long to do but it might mean a lot to that person. But you should only give so much of yourself away, because the selfless side of you is going to tell yourself that, the end of the day, the most important person as you. But if you can find the time to help with the people, then by all means do it. You'll feel so much better about yourself by going out of your way to help with the people. And even if they don't necessarily want your help or need it, I think it's still important to try and help help anyone. Really it does make you feel better about yourself. Beside or by making all people's life but your life comes but essentially, yeah, yeah, I mean I made a promise to myself a few months back to show more compassion to other people and in turn that's just reflected upon me and now within myself. I've grown a little bit as a result of that. So I'm going to keep doing that. You know, you may not need, even necessarily have to like the individual, but being kind, showing compassion, it goes a very long way and it goes a long way within you as well. So yeah, that's that's chess's take. It's inspired. Yeah, no, it's true, though. It's really nice what you're saying, and if everyone was being more kind to each other, this world be a better place. That's the fact. Yeah, but everyone's so divided with opinion, whether it be political, celebrity sport. That's just too much hostility. Hit Ho. Well, that hostility brings a lot of power. There's a lot of power the held with that than a lot of businesses and corporations and higher people. They you know, a lot of people got to the position through that. I that that's that's people take advantage of capitalism. Yeah, I'm not saying socialism or communism is any better. But that's that's the result of capitalism. Sky High prices, quote competitive prices. That are even competitive. They're just down like exhaustion. It like a packet cigarettes, for instance, like Marlboro, read twelve quick, like its twelve quid. Absolutely puff. I don't know any supermarket prices of cigarettes. What it's just gone up over the years. First they did they used to sell a single segarette. Don't then they got rid of that. Then they introduced stuff like ten packs of ten, or you could buy packs of ten alongside packstone. They got rid of that. So then it was just pack of twenty. And they keep driving the tax high and high, high, wide capitalism, and I don't even know it's coming. was probably the government. It's probably BREAKSTON. I don't think Breakli as much to do with the price of segarettes. I mean, luckily for me I get cigarettes that cost around five pound a pack. It works out about five kind of packs one right, but that's just an example. People been absolutely ripped off in this country, ripped but what I remember when we went to the air for you bought some cigarettes that would like duty three and I remember you use like Oh my God, that's so cheap. And you bought like must have put for wasn't so. Yeah, I bought like four hundred, so great. Yeah, it came to less than it cames like, less than a hundred quid. Yeah,...

I mean, that's because they don't have any tax on them, duty free, tax free, no, no tax in the no tax in the mine. Yeah, there's no tax in Dubai, tax free. So I was pretty badly. The cheapest place I've been for cigarettes was Russia. I couldn't fight. I'm much as literally, I couldn't find a packet of cigarettes under two hundred roubles. I was looking at the list. Two hundred roubles equates to around two pound, a hundred ball cups, obviously. So you play for for the game, for ball caps of the currency and the in the game. Yeah, and which I used to play loads with. I've given it now, but but no, but literally, I couldn't find a packet that. Like Marbor, I bought a packet Tony more big read. It came to lesson to the rubles, which is less than two pound, or around two pound. But upsolutely ridiculous. I'm not to a coincident. That kind of are your cigarettes and prices. But I'm sure there's a reason. Surely why? Well, yeah, so import chargers and all the rest of it, but go into it. No, I think it's just the government trying to get people of smoking. That's what bunning like, was it? That they banning mental cigarettes? I think they are. Yeah, I heard. Yeah, they're just trying to get people of smoking. Fuck off, let them have a cigarette if they want to have a tub. But I I saw that thing on the news. was in in my Iceland. More of a point is like twenty five pounds or twelve pounds on me after research this, but I'm sure that I'm going to look it up. If you got your I can't go my F and yeah, I've got I've got my friend right here. Most expensive point about I know it's very, very expensive, and listen for points like of the government a cut trying to discourage drinking alcohol, and it's one of the things where one of the most expensive to expensive place to buy, like alcohol. So I still normally yet nor way, when average point costs ten Jesus New York about the seven dollar mark, which is correct. Like when when we me and you went to when we were in Manhattan built town bars there. They're actually ripper, but the most expensive is Dubai. An average pint will cost you about twelve oh my God, that was an article from two thousand and eighteen. So I don't know if that's the completely today. I mean I'm not even a big I don't really like alcohol anyway. So, yeah, other really drink almost any other drink for there'll probably or if I have a bottle of one my girlfriend or some float. Yeah, yeah, that makes sense. Yeah, if it's an occasion I'll drink, but if it's not, that probably not. I saw some guys I morning, these alcoholics and town somewhere and I was like, Oh my God, I mean, I don't know, I'm not I don't judge, but I just think, God, I I just I can't drink in the morning. I remember when I went to a wedding once, I was I was knocking back thust brothers and books firs and I just felt sick. I was like, I don't see people can do this. Yeah, yeah, you know, that's a whole of the story. Yeah, it's I'm sure we'll get into that some point, but not stay though right. We've it's just gone tramp past eight. I'M gonna I've got a net pop now. Yeah, you ask me, yeah, yeah, but now...

...it's been really good. Thank you very much for having me on your podcast. Not only welcome an any time, any time, and we'll all saw that group one at some stage as well. Yeah, we'll get we'll get dinner and lie and back on it. Yeah, yeah, I don't know, it's both. Think very much and I'll speak to you soon. Yeah, I always seen the next shot to see them. See, bye, bye. I.

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