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The Parrsitivity Podcast

Episode 96 · 2 years ago

The Parrsitivity Podcast with Antonio #Episode6

ABOUT THIS EPISODE

Antonio works in the hospitality and marketing industry, and is a very good friend of mine!. It was a pleasure to have him on the podcast!, I feel as though we touched base on some very important topics. We spoke about belief system, mindset, society, work, energy, people, success, mediocrity, education, family, growing up, people, law of attraction, role models. Hope you enjoy this episode! Follow Antonio on Instagram @antonio_heron --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the-parrsitivity-podcast/message

What's going to are you doing? Hear me? Okay, yeah, I can hear you. Find How's it going? Can you hear me? Yeah, perfectly, awesome, awesome. Well, thanks for having me on. No, no, you're welcoming. No, thank you for like coming on. My pleasure. A long time coming, a long time. I know we've been planning for a while. Is it is. I'm glad we can finally do this, though, because there's a lot, you know, there's a lot we have in common in a lot we can we can talk about. Like. Yeah, so thank you for having me on and now you welcome with like when we could. We met that time and we we had a brief chat and we covered like quite a lot of different things in the space of like quite at fifteen minutes or something like that. Exactly, exactly, you know, I think at that point where we are both in a certain we were both in a certain like energy, you know, and we we recognize that in each other and just like straight away we hit those topics of like you know, I think it was Biz anship and that sort of thing and a yeah, it was just like a sort of magnet attraction in personality, I'd say. But yeah, it's it's awesome that you started this podcast, in all honesty may, because getting the types of ideas that we've got out there, I think it's really important some people to hear. Yeah, no, I so completely that. I mean, I did kind of put off for a while and I kind of kind of for are you know, I'm going to do it and to do it, and when you know, you can always gettad it. Then I'll do it's my heart. Tell me about it and then before you know it, like two weeks gone by, months come buy and you like exactly, but I think we're both from the same wavelength fun. You know, we kind of naturally talk about certain topics and subjects. It just kind of flows really absolutely and this is a good platform to use kind of put up, put that content out there, isn't it? Yeah, exactly, exactly. And you know, that's the thing. I think that, you know, the topics we discuss, it just a life topics really there. You know, stop me if I'm want to, but I think that everyone should have like a baseline level of say, productivity, Time Management, finance management, energy, energy management, etcter it. You know. I mean, yeah, I really do believe that this type of topic or topics should be mainstream. You you know. So, as you say, this type of platform is giving us that that edge to do that's awesome, man. Yeah, give you the ability there, it doesn't it? And it's free as well, actually, exactly. But I mean, like what you just said and covered like those kind of topics, life topics should kind of be something that's covered in the workplace. It's something might should be covered in like the education exactly. I couldn't agree more, man. I mean the thing is it's like you know, you life. You'd not given all the answers. You're not born with the answers. You kind of have to find it along the way, don't you? And I think with knowledge upon most things we just pushed based on, you know that that can be taught people of that can be something that in the system. I think you know it'll make things that they're easier for people exactly. Gone. Please, please continue, because you know, we go into education. I know some people know what they want to do straight away, but you know, for the majority of a you know, you go through schools there for education work and you kind of have to find out the hardware. A lot of the time. But if you can have something to help guide you, than it helps, of it, doesn't it absolutely spot on? And and, as you say, just bring it back to the education system. there. I think it's a really interesting points because, a, the fact that it's not taught, you know, the sort of whole self management and learn and how to learn, the fact that that's not taught in the education system at the moment means that people are coming through schools with incorrect habits and that's becoming ingrained into their life every day that they're spending performing those certain incorrect habits. So so it's actually it's actually quite dangerous to not be teaching people about these things from a young age, you know, because, if we're going to take it back to you know, conscious and subconscious minds here,...

...the more you ingrain a habit into your subconscious mind, the more it actually builds those neural pathways in your brain and becomes more difficult to break out of those habits. That's why it's actually great for us to be starting young here. A lot of yeah, don't have that advantage, man. Yeah, yeah, please continue. No, no, a saying, like you know, I agree with what you said and I think like with habits as well. You know, we are creatures of habit. Example, we all have our own routine and I think if you have a healthy habits and healthy routine than it has more of a positive impact on your life. And I think it's easy to get caught into on a healthy routine and habits. I mean, it's about balancing that. But exactly a man. Just a quick question because you know a lot of the people here in this you know, maybe they're in a situation where they're the balance of bad habits overshadows the healthy habits. So I mean what? What to you is a healthy habit's unproductive habits? What would you say? What? So, my own unhealthy habits and PODB you mean, I just in general, just in general, because I feel like you know, because, yeah, because social media is so rife that let's let's take social media as example, because social media is so right and people are habitually involved in that on the daily basis. I think that social media can be a bad habit if you use if you it depends how you're using it, though. It's like any tool, you know. So so I guess you could apply that to a universal habit. So I you know, I guess the question I was getting that there is like how would you advise someone to get that balance? You know what, what do you think would be the best, best way to go about doing that, if you're just starting from the start, for example, I think personally, I would say the work, the time. Yeah, yeah, exactly, man. I mean I like to play video game. I mean, I think you know exactly the same. Yeah, and if are by thing, I mean, but sometimes I'm I've just started a game called the which are free, the which if fucking RPG, and graphics on that are incredible. Yeah, that's good graphics. Yeah, and you know, it's such a long game with invest all our time, and I started it and I'm like, I have to be aware of my time because you're not careful, you could sit there for hours. Exactly, not that, but it's easy with those kind of games to sit there because of so long. Yeah, and you become you become immersed as well, like games with like, you know, Hideaf all you great graphics. You suddenly find yourself like you live in a second life in that game. You know. So so I completely agree with you. Like time, time management is so key, and awareness as well. Because I've got the you know, I've got this thing where if I'm aware of where the time is going in the day, the day actually goes a lot slower. You know, I become aware of the microw events happening in the day, whereas if I'm just letting the drift by, like playing a whole day of you know, fallout or Sky Room or something, then suddenly the day will be gone like that because I'm there's no awareness of the time slipping by. So you hit the nail on the head there, man, a hundred percent. Yeah, I mean I found that, you know, with work as well, like we we you know, I work in the same trade last Tis for, yeah, many years, and I think you know when you have you can have quiet days and I think you know you if you think more about time and you think are I just want to finish. Yeah, and it's quiet and then starts to drag because exactly thinking about it more and it in times of weird one. It's almost like it's physical, like yeah, you're in the flow and you're busy and you're enjoying your in the present moment. Yeah, it can really flow and go really quick. Yeah, gone, please. And I think that people, you know, can kind of lose track of part in a loose track of that awareness, yeah, where their time is going and what they're doing and exactly. And you know, I was exactly the same too, and it took me a while to really realize what was happening until I started looking into,...

...you know, effective self management. And the when when the penny really dropped, it was when I started segmenting my time. So, you know, the the night, let's say Sunday evening, for example, why I started doing was writing down, you know, everything I just want to accomplish for see, quarter one, and what I do is I break that down in two weeks and then so on the Sunday for the previous week, I just set all my objectives for every day and put them into manage manageable time slots. And what that did for me was really start to understand how much time was actually slipping away because I wasn't aware where it was going. So, you know, that's one thing, that's one bit of advice I'd give to someone who is perhaps not getting as much done as they like, and that is to really start segmenting time. And what you'll find is that after a certain amount of time concentrating, you'll start to lapse because your body works in cycles and you can normally catch this figure. It to the to the same point every time. So there's a lot of signs behind this. And what is called a Pomdoro, which is a thirty minute work chunk, and what you do is you work non stop, you focus on that one channel for twenty five minutes, then you take a five minute break, because that is the cycle that operates the highest amount of concentration from a human you'll notice your concentrate, concentration start to lapse after a certain amount of time, so that you know just the key takeaway there for me was recognize how much time it takes before my concentration lapsed, take a quick break and then go straight back into it, you know. So that's why segment in time is so important in my opinion, because you can start to see how you best operate in terms of a energy and be efficiency of your workflow. So yeah, yeah, I couldn't agree more with what you just said, because I found with like you know, if you're working on an essay, I remembered I had to be course work dimports. The first they say, they say they should take a break. I think, like we're around what you just said. I think it should be some what you're talking about. Yeah, yeah, half an hour or twenty five minutes, have a break for five minutes or ten minute exactly, because it's like your concentration levels, yeah, kind of fade, but it's like a car, isn't it? You know the exact albom of a now it just slows down a bit and you need that. Yeah, refresh your to just clear your mind a bit, exactly. Man. And just to just to add on to that, you sort of when you say refresh, you sort of prompted something, because another really good tip to do as well is, you know, as you say, see you're doing coursework for twenty five minutes and then you take that five minute break. What is also really beneficial to your concentration would be to just change the channel completely. So like say, for instance, you're doing course work for twenty five minutes, then you'd switch up the channel to something completely different. That's for that's allowing your brain to operate on a different sort of wavelength. So you go, for example, from coursework to, say, twenty five minutes of Guitar or twenty five minutes of exercise. So you completely change up the channel and keep everything fresh and dynamic and you'll find that that's how you get the best results, by keeping keeping your channels separate but distinguished. If does that make sense? Yeah, yeah, of course. Yeah. So, yeah, it's a big one. It's a big one time. Yeah, it means it's quite it's quite a deep it's quite deep topic. I mean there's so much to it and everyone's going to have a different you know, everyone's got a different lifestyle. I haven't they alon's got a different life. People live in different locations. I mean I find time. If we take where we live in the mire, we're in Cornwall. Time travel places is quite a stretch because most things are so far from each other and quit are exactly and it's like if you don't drive in corn in Cornmal or in the southwest or somewhere where it's remote and coastal. Yeah, I'm a big factor as well, because you want to drive somewhere, it might be a normal rootfer a minute, but if I take say more for example, where we yeah, you've been base. That's like a an hour in a bit...

...dry that's not taken into account whether or traffic on the road are a hundred see, I love the fact that you've brought that man, because there was a there was. There was a big thing for me because I spend a lot of time on the bus, obviously going from true, because that's that's the main city in Cornwall. So the biggest thing for me was like, okay, well, I've got I've got an hour on the bus here. What do I do? You know, do I just sleep? So I just sort of like coasted by it and then, you know, after a while it hit me I could actually be doing something productive in this time like, for example, doing twenty five minutes and language, twenty five minutes of Social Media Marketing, etc. So the important breakthrough from me was just to be efficient with my time. They're like whether it's just putting an audio book on in the background, you know, just something, something to keep my channel focused and focused on. That definitely a me, you know. So, yeah, what were you saying anyway? So Fair, no, no, no, I mean it's right. It's completely agree with what you're what you just said, because I find that in places that of the mode or cut off, I've really got much around, like, you know, Mc Donald is around the corner. But yeah, kind of cut off from the norms of my entertainment or faking. So, yeah, you have that. I thought I found me other than the sit for like nineteen years and you come down here and you have more kind of space to think. You know, it's yeah, exactly exactly, because it's like when you go someone that's quieting, you just naturally stop thinking. You kind of reflect. Yeah, that when you're in a city and a lot of going, a lot on around you, you're so caught up an ethan that is going on around you your attention and not yourself. It's on. Yeah, exactly, you're caught in your caught in the state of well, that's call it emotional overloads really, or sent sensory overload, I guess. When you're in a city, like a hundred percent right, because you like it's, for example, even walking walking through the town center in Cardiff, like, you know, looking at a dog about to walk into you and I look, there's a crowd that you know, and it's all about sensory overload there. But I think this is something there's something different, as you mentioned about about living in a place like sing wos in the countryside, where it's not much destruction, you know, for someone, for someone our age. I get a lot of questions about, you know, whether I like it in Samet more was and don't I find it boring, etc. Etc. And like. While I can see how it could people were in for someone my age to be here, and to be honest, most of the time it is, but it's a beautiful place to be as the scenery is stunning. You know, it gives me a chance to unwind, you know, to really level myself here. But not only that, if I was in a city, I think my productivity would go out the window. I mean, of course there's is more opportunity for networking and everything, of course is that, but I think being able to be in a place like saint was, where you can withdraw from from the sensory overload a lot easier, I think that really helps productivity and you know, that's why, of course, it would benefit a lot of people who in a state of constant quarters all through their work. You know, stress, stress, stress. That's why I thoroughly recommend just having a break in somewhere where it doesn't require a sensory overload and constant injection of in Drend adrenaline and hormones. You know, that's why I'd advise someone to come back and, you know, as you say, come back to themselves, come back to a good baseline level where they can relax and, I get back to their productivity. You know. So sat mores is wonderful like that. You know, there's a really good place. Yeah, it is an amazing place. Some you know, I would work by a year or so, year and a half, I think it once. Yeah, and there's places like that around the world that coastal quite relax I mean. Yeah, what you mentioned about our age group and being somewhere that is put off. I mean, okay, yeah, like there are times when it's boring, but I think being I think being bored is almost like state of it's an emotional state. Yes, exactly, exactly. We have a choice to change that. If you yes, and your energy like, okay, like...

...if you're you're feeling bored, you can, yeah, folks, that energy on something else and change it rather than some move. Can Use that have an excuse on board. That's why. Okay, so what you feeling? What do you want to feel? What you need to do them feel that exactly hit the nail on the head. That like, if someone's bored, it's more of a litmus test that they're not in control of the reality, because, let's face it, you can pretty much control every state's if you if you're self aware enough. And so if someone is bored, then they're obviously not reaching towards objectives or personal goals, because in a world of infinite opportunity, there is no way you could be bored. There's no way, unless unless you're, you know, relying on instant gratification stimulus like social media. If you're always in a state of needing the quick fix of dopamine from notifications from your phone, if you're always in a state of wanting just that little, quick, little quick notificational that like on your post, then you are going to be bored because you're always going to be looking to get that quick hit of hormone. You know, it's sad the social media's put society in that type of position, but you know that that's why it favors us to be working towards long term goals, because we learn to delay gratification, we learned to put off the dessert eat the carrots now and have the filling later. You know I mean this is there's a lot, there's a lot of benefit in doing that, because how you do one thing, and this is what my favorite quote actually how you do one thing is how you do everything you know. So if you're if you're constantly reaching for impulse in one area of your life, then you can guarantee that's going to manifest another areas of your life as well. So the more you train yourself to withdraw from impulse action, impulsive action that is, the more you train yourself in so many other areas that won't be recognizable instantly, but that you'll realize that actually, everything's falling into place when you start doing the right thing, because it'll spread like wildfire. How you do one thing is how you do everything you know. So so, yeah, interesting point. What we'd have to say that? But now we're the fly, what you were saying, and social media and in the ocation. I the thing is there's so much to that because before fly, like now, you can go on Netflix, you can binge watch something with click of your finger. You can. You can watch a whole series there. It's got the Internet, it's uploaded you know, you can order pass along Amazon and get that next day or the same day, if you're lucky in the city, you can do that. You cannot order food, it comes to your door. You can. Yeah, everything you can do. It's all there for you. It's in some glatification. And exactly. You know where? I think we kind of born just before that became mainstream. Why? Yeah, Ebay was there and there were platforms where you could get into gratification. You tube were. Now it's kind of blown out portion exactly. But instant glapification can still come, I think within my family unit, like if if your mom buy you something, yeah, something gratification because you said I want that, want it now. Okay, Oh, bye, okay, you got exactly, and I think that that does happen when you grow up. You know, some people probably didn't, but as a young child and you're getting an instant grass of gratification. You Grow Up, you can go up thinking you know, one neither needs by now. Yeah, exactly, and then you know that can end affect relationship sometimes. Yeah, well, a hundred percent. Man, how you's it wanting as how you do everything? I yeah, but please continue. Is it's fascinating but I think I watched the video and it was it's like I think IOV was talking about the mention of quite a lot. He he was saying I love the process. He said people are want an instant gratification in the resort was now they're not all of in the process. Yeah, it's been in a present moment enjoying that grind, enjoying the grind exactly. Some one day have that thing in the delayed gratification as far greater than the instant...

...gratification. Yeah, well, it's a bit like, you know past new driving test, isn't it? That takes time. Yeah, absolutely, and the result, with the end, it was amazing because that delay is gratification other than, like, you know, if you pass your test in a week, it wouldn't be the same as taking six months or four months or however exactly. There's something more fulfilling about having that that time period between set in the objective and accomplishing it. And Yeah, well, here's the thing. Like that's why I believe, you know, this might not be fact, but that's why I believe that mental health is such a big issue at the moment. It's because everyone's being bombarded with social media posts that in, you know, loads of esthetics, Nice cars, fancy planes, hotels, this, that the other, and they're seeing all of this instantly, real time, and they're expecting the same results in a short amount of time because to them it just it's just a constant scroll of these results, constant, constant, constant. So they believe that the process is going to be short to them, which is unfortunate, you know, because I totally agree with what you're saying. is so much about a why? To be honest, I think it is both about the appreciation of the journey and the destination. If you have the balance between those two while you're setting your goals, I don't think mental health is an issue because you've got appreciation of both ends of the spectrum. But the problem, the you know, the mental health problem is on the rise because people aren't, as you say, they're not appreciating the journey, they're just seeing that end result on right off the Batton, you know, expecting to come quick time. But but yeah, mental health and interesting one, to be honest, because I feel like I feel like goal setting is or has a huge involvement with how happy people are. I believe if you have a goal in place and you're actively working towards it, you're constantly making notches of progress daily. I believe there's something, is something inside, like a reward system, if you will, that makes you that little bit happier because you have something to strive for, because I'm pretty sure most people don't have goals. I'm pretty sure of it. So just on those two basises alone, most people probably aren't happy. I mean, I'm laughing but it's not funny, like Nah, it's not funny but is at the same time, because it's a simple thing to do, but people is implementing exactly exactly. And you know it's not easy. It's not, you know, otherwise everyone would be doing it. I think. I think one of the key factors, and this is like another another pillar that's quite deep, one very dne are that kind of tied into goals and mental health is like belief systems. Yeah, yeah, you know, like if someone you know. We've all we can all have irrational folks beliefs of ourselves or about certain things. You know, we're you know, we all have that kind of we can all be negative positive. Is a lot easier to to be negative than exactly you know, through life experiences or family or growing up people. You know, we were taking in the environment from situde young age and what's going on around us. Yeah, but we know, we said, we create this belief system about ourselves. Yeah, I think people have got this kind of distorted damage about themselves then, that don't believe they're good enough for they you know, things like that. Yes, be a lot harder to set goal, isn't it? So it's it's from disorder as well, a hundred percent. And like just just add into what you're saying there. You know, from from the age, from the age, well, from from the get go. A baby is born like a blank canvas, you know. So they're subject to the program programming of the parents now, or the parents of the guardians or what have you. Now, they're not going to be doing it intentionally, but most of the time, in Ninety, Oh, you know, I'd say probably cose to ninety eight percent of the time, the parents are actually going to pass down some aspects of their negative programming as well, and that's going to create, as you say, a...

...distorted self image for the baby. Now I do want to highlight obviously it's not intentional, but a lot of the time. You know, the programming of a baby is most plastic, and I'll have to check my facts on this, but it's most plastic from three to seven years old. Now it's very it's very difficult to be brought up in a perfect environment. But but that's it. You know, that's a very tender age and you you absorb a lot at that point. So the point I'm trying to make you really is that, as you say, you get a lot of negative you get more negative thoughts pop in your head and positive ones. And that's actually a survival mechanism as well, by the way, because that let's let's take us back to the cave man days, right, you would. So you would be better off surviving. What you'd be more effective at surviving if you were constantly criticized in your environment, right, if you were aware of, negatively aware of the environment, if you knew blah, blah, blah. So, anyways, but if you constantly are they not kind? Yeah, you're constantly battling that and, to be honest with you, when you get a negative thought come into place, is actually a positive thing because you can start that, you can use that as an antenna where to go. You know, if you've got a negative thought, poppins, yet you know you have to work on that aspect of yourself. And so, you know, a lot of people they take the negative thread and they continuously thread it down in negative roots. But if you want optimum results, everyone's going to get negative thoughts. But if you want optimum results, you take the negative and you spin it into a positive you know, like what can I learn from this? Don't let it distort yourself image. You know, the baseline of yourself image should be loving yourself, you know, and anything less than that is not acceptable. And you have to be questioning why you're thinking less than that, and usually you can trace it back to memories of you know, of whatever. Actually, yeah, well, the minds are funny thing. Yeah, please continue on. What you're saying is by as people, we kind of you beat that saying, isn't there? Your vibe attract your tribe. Yeah, exactly. Become what you surround yourself with, the people you surround yourself work, you become, you know, you've become like a product of your environment. Only. Yeah, absolutely, it's like if you surround yourself. I mean I know this because you know I've done it myself that. Yeah, school and the past. You surround yourself with certain kinds of people, you slowly kind of become locked up. It's so true as a slow process as well, but if you notice, yeah, you don't really realize it, but then you kind of realize over time. Yeah, and then you try and break away from that, and that causes a kind of friction, because I know we're kind of I think, like going back to the cave mine times, we kind of wired to be like in a pack. Absolutely. Yeah, you know, it feels good to be, to belong as to a group. Will get sense of belonging exactly, and know too. Yeah, please, you know, find yourself go alone. It's very hard, and I think that's why as well. You know, very view, very few people are successful either. Like is it one percent or something? Yeah, well, exactly, and like you can just look at the sort of distribution of wealth as well, and that reflects that to in the world. But yeah, please continue, not a spiles. Good. Well, just going, just going back to what you are saying. You know, what a lot of people aren't aware of is we're going to trace back to, because I did mention the sub conscious earlier in the conversation. But I think it's so important because you subconscious mind is a net result of everything you've experienced. So you can bet your ass that you are going to have some negative programming in there. So, which is good, you know, which is very, very good, because it teaches you how to identify and how to because it's a litmus steps that teaches you how to how to actually become positive. If you didn't have the negative, you wouldn't know what positive was. So so the main objective and the ongoing, the ongoing journey of...

...life, I feel, is to constantly be battling the devil, if you will, from your sub conscious you know, it's an ongoing journey. And I'm not sure, because you're quite into your books, which is amazing, I'm not sure if you've read outwitting the devil by Napoleon Hill. You know, I not read that. I've read thinking were rich. Yeah, man, when the devil have to get together. Yeah, so, I mean, of course the thinking go rich outlines the method of how to think and go rip right, but outwit in the devil is the book that outlines how to apply the method. It. You know, it really highlights the importance of going within an understanding why a is so difficult to be productive, understanding where the resistance comes from. You know, because as that that in itself is a huge topic of resistance. Resistance in itself is like if you find that you wake up in them or you know, it starts from the get go. So let's say you set your alarm for six am for a productive morning. You straight away you can feel that resistance of not wanting to get up. Now that resistance is actually well, well related to a memory and you're sub conscious, and this is where we're going back to it. See, so you can guarantee that there's a program in your subconscious that you've lived out in your past that's coming out in this, that's manifesting in this resistance to want to get out of bed. That's why you keep haughing to You keep hath to. Excuse me. What you have to keep doing is chipping away of that resistance. You know, if you don't want to get out of bed in the morning, identify where that's coming from. It's not going to be easy. It is easier said than done, but that that's just the first not of resistance. You know, you can. You can find this at every avenue in your day. So that's why out were in the devil as Napoleon Hill. There's highlight in the book. Is a lifelong journey. You know, you never climb the top of the mountain, but that's part of the phone. Why would you want to? Yeah, I mean it's like if life was easier, one being enjoyable, would it really need exactly easy? You want that. You have this hard times or difficult times. You reflect on that and you can kind of use how you grow with and as a person, wh absolutely man, how you came with a momentum is that's exactly man. That's evolution in a nutshell, really isn't it's it's the point of reaching a critical stage of difficulty and then growing past that. So you know, that's that's where too, that's where turning points come into play and sort of, you know, HM, the light. So I can please. No, no, I I was actually just taking a breath out. It's like we're all a work in progress, aren't we, and what you touch based on like we're getting up in the morning. I mean that is one of the I think that's one of the things for me. Laugh set my alarm one time in the routine. I'm fine. Exactly if getting into that habit and that routine are getting up the set time, and it feels horrible it. Yeah, nice to get up early. Night, especially this time year, a lot harder because it's dark. Exactly exactly if dark, and it's like you your mind stars playing tricks from you, like you saw, why I'm getting up if you know I'll be six o'clock all by exactly, why go out to sweet? But that, that's the hardest thing. I think that's one of the hardest things. From you know, everyone got her own thing. But yeah, they say that successful, lots of tessle people get up early. They say you get up early, got more time in a day. Yeah, very true, very, very true. And Yeah, just because I love I love this topic, because what you mentioned was like, you know, your mind starts playing tricks on you and like you sort of build up your own resistance to want to get our bed. But this is this is where I found NLP helps a lot. So so, for example, if, if, if you say didn't want to get out to bed, and you had the feeling first of not wanting to get out of the bed, what you do is like track that feeling in your body, see where it is and sort of you just sort of like breathe into it and reset the feeling. So what you could do is have a key anchor point, so like a time when you were incredibly productive,...

...where you were smashing at work, where you in in such a flow, and you have that anchored in your minds and memory and you remember the feeling and what you do is actually track of feeling of not wanting to get out of bed, quite literally like throw it away in your mind's eye and reapply this good feeling of being productive and suddenly you want to get out of bed. What you've done is you've used the human mind interface to reprogram your feelings there and that that you know. That that's that's the basis of n LP really, and that for me, I mean I'm not going to say is changed one life just yet, but it's changed how I see things, it's change how I do things. You know, the reason that it hasn't changed my life just yet is because, as we've mentioned, is this type of thing. It takes time, is really not easy, but once you get the little knack for it, once you is you start doing it, it becomes quite addictive and you start realizing actually you have a lot more control over both yourself and your emotions then you then you realize so that that's what gets me in this society is when you see the attitude of like our poor me. You know, I'm not in control, that I am the effect as opposed to the cause. Now that's the that's quite dangerous thinking, but that's actually what most of the popular what goes through most of the population's had. If you instead think of yourself as the cause and the environment is the effect, that's a really empowering place to be because you start seeing scenarios as you being the engineer of them. Instead of saying, for example, you get an angry at's a kid throwing an egg at your house. I don't know why use as an example, but what you can actually do is say, you know, okay, well, why is it I want to get annoyed at this? Is it a program in my subconscious? Is there a memory linked to the fact that I am getting annoyed in this scenario? What is going on? You know? And then you start really reflecting and understanding that actually you're in perfect control here. Lack of controltrol is actually an illusion created by yourself. Is So it's a funny it's a funny relationship like that. But yeah, it's really important that people understand that. Yeah, I think a lot of people, you know, in today's society and in general life, we can kind of be on auto parley, you know, absolutely just reacting to situations and I think we take a step back, be mindful. And what you just touch based on there was like if, like you know that Quison, if you don't master your mind, your mind or master you. And exactly we've got if by you muging what you your mind, your body. You've got some emotions in there. Well, yeah, and all and the thoughts travel with a travel faster and the speed of light or something like that. So everything's happening, you know now as I can millie second, you know, really really fast. Yeah, absolutely, you've got this for and they's got the emotion and then there's that reaction to it. Yeah, it's kind of when you got you apply for an emotion together, it's like a plot, if like some men. Yeah, yeah, ment that with that thing. But sense and what you mentioned just then about like think like someone's friend and I get someone's house. Yeah, that's going to provoke a for which is then going to provoke an emotion and then that's going to have an a reaction. Exactly exactly. Because I but the guy I had on the PODCAST, mills, I had him on and he mentioned that he was involved in like a road collision or something. Okay, and they said this guy was kicking off. Yeah, and instead of this guy who who had a part of the podcast, reacting to that and giving his energy to that situation. Yes, yes, he sent me mentioned he felt sorry for the guy. So whatever happened with his corner, the other guy's car, he wasn't focusing on that. He he said he instantly for of like feeling side for that guy. If someone else was in his position, who had a girl who would angry reacted differently and done damage to him, that he kind of kind of flipped with perspective sometime. Yeah, absolutely, we we just we can react two things that happen, not just driving but, you know, low every situation, exactly exactly. And you know, I...

...think I think it's actually it's a big thing people overlook, because I think it is the biggest form of freedom, having the ability to choose how you react to every situation. It's a huge form of freedom. Now, obviously, people talk about money giving freedom and that sort of thing bullshit. If you have mastered your thoughts and emotions towards, or you're very confident that you can master them towards every situation, then you'd never have to worry about anything, because you know nothing's going to fade you and you know that you'll be in this state of balance. And what this actually does as well, like, like, very much like your friend who is involved in the road collision. What this will actually do as well, it will present this aura to the person involved, and what you'll do it actually calm them down, because your frame will be so powerful that the person will have no choice but to get sucked into your frame. There they're anger, frame will shatter because they'll look like an idiot if you'll just calm and for giving, humble, and they'll recognize that and they'll change very quickly in front of you. That is an example of being in affirmative control. You know, and a lot of people don't. Don't have, unfortunately, don't have the self confidence or the self awareness to realize this. You know, we are very much taught that we that everything happened to us on accidents. You know, that we're somehow here due to a big bang that happens when in the billion tire end, like you know, all this chance happening and we're it's just like we're apparently we're here by accidents. No, not, I don't believe that. Anyway. What I do believe is we're here to learn how to take control. You know, why else would it be difficult to do so? You know, I mean so, so I think that's one of the journeys in life and I think that's one of the freedoms that we allow ourselves, is to be in control. Yeah, so, yeah, not being in control. Have not self management. Each are the markets and I think you know a lot of people. You know, we can probably do ourselves some time, or we have done it previously. People do it in my like, you know, player, victim my you know, yeah, I'm not good enough because of their so, or I didn't work out because of this, and there's always an excuse behind the stuff, and it's it's being honest with yourself, and I think you, when you're honest with yourself and you're not defensive. You know, you let your defences down. Question Yourself, you know, like I said, what is the sound feeling? Yeah, is that you kind of breakdown. Sorry, exactly, and you, when you come down to it, how you think? Yeah, and then to how you think, then goes on to your belief system. You can almost it's funny because you can almost like make an experiment with yourself, you know. So it's like there is this one example that I've got a real terrate and I just I can't remember what book it was from. I think it I think is pitch anything by a laugh something, something. Anyway. So he gives an example of over by a person who's completely out of this site range. So he hears something and instantly, like without him even having to do anything, his body is flush with adrenaline and courtsault because he's not aware if there's a danger, if this his body just goes into fight or flight the immediately, and that's a feeling you can feel. It's like someone's called me, am I in danger? You feel that and then you you could it's almost like it's in the sequence and then your body relaxes after knowing that it's not a danger, and then you start to think and that's when the consciousness part comes into it. So this is why it's so important to reprogram your subconscious to react to things in a certain way, in a way that you're in control. You know, you start to really pinpoint feelings in your body and at what times they come, because what you normally find is that certain scenario. Well, they'll be a cluster of scenario is the self the same feeling, you know, and if that's a negative one, and that's awesome. You've got a litmus test to start progressing forwards, you know. So,...

...yeah, it's a very interesting way of getting your freedom. Just going back to that, because, yeah, who doesn't want to be in control of their emotions? Let's let's face it, if I were just makes me think about moving. That's Limitar. Yeah, yeah, where it takes the sort of the pill that gives him higher and says that is that the one? Yeah, I mean that from extent, if a really real, I mean a pill when I can, who knows those we're technically I mean that they I think the made one, that it turned out to be like full of all these other things that synthesize stuff. Yeah, I mean, if you really take control of your mind. Like they're, like I said, a certain methodism. They like visualize this. Your kind of saying them. Visualization, yeah, and manifesting. That movie the secret. But you know, you've got a manifest having, you exactly bely that you believe that it is going to happen. You go then put an action as well. It's exactly. But you know, for a lot of people out there who are in pretty harsh circumstances, I mean, you know, it is a lot harder to see a way out. Yeah, and I find that when, like I can cornwall relive. There are some very beautiful places down here, like say Mor's and say I've yeah, where there isn't much poverty and hardship. You go to some places in Cornwall and they don't. You know, I think Kalmas got some of the most porous places in the country. I haven't exactly exactly man so some people who are living in those places or brought up in those places, you know, it's easy to get into that might not to my mindset and self believed thinking all this is me, or I might you know, this is me, that parent is yeah, family friends, it's you know, but there is a way out. You know, it's a choice. Yeah, a mindset. In a lot of successful people out there who run the massive companies start out from nothing. You know. I'n't sugar, I count estate in London. Yeah, exactly. And these here's the thing as well, here's a funny thing, is that these difficult circumstances nobably define a character more. You know, I mean just just taking just taking the example to an extreme sight here. I'm not sure if you've read a man search for meaning, but Victor, phone, call you. Yeah, my mom's got it. I need to. I'm going to fall borrow and leading me. It's brilliant be hod this. It's Bang on key with what we're talking about here because, you know, even even in amongst the brutality and all the terrible things that happened in the concentration camps, he was able to find a positive of it. He was able to to make, as you say, the internal choice to the attitudes that you felt in in the concentration camps to a positive one, and he wrote, he wrote about this in this book, which is why I totally totally recommend that to you and, you know, anyone listening as well. It's it's very empowering and very so, as you say, very rare. Well, as I say, very rattling, because it gives you a platform of relevance and just how extreme the human mind can find the light. Yeah, but it's like there's that thing, isn't they a quote which, yeah, that was at your mind of the God and your Fort See, you can grow flowers or grow weed. Yeah, yeah, yeah, exactly, exactly. So if you, I mean, if you do, I'll always that book. But it just makes you think, that, doesn't it? It really does, honestly, because you know, we live in a world of duality. There's extreme sides of both of both sides of the spectrum, and you know, what you sow is what you reap. So if, and you know it mentions...

...this, in thinking grow rich. You know, if you're if you're planting nightshade, poison that, you know, poisonous plant, if you planting the equivalent of that in your mind, then you'll start reaping those results, be it through attitude, personality actions. So the more, in a nutshell, the more you think negatively, the more that that will manifest as a negative action or sequence. So yeah, it that's why, you know, I'm not saying you won't get negative thoughts. No one's perfect, but it is how you is how you respond to the negative thoughts, that defines you, and that's the same with making progress to you know, just this brings back this quote. How you do one thing is how you do everything. If, if you'll kick it, if you'll get negative thoughts and you're really tuning the meaning for them. It's likely, for example, if you're a salesperson, that you're calling up clients or prospects and getting rejected, but you're readjusting the rejection meaning to propel yourself in a more knowledgeable direction because of it. Does that make sense? Yeah, of course. Yeah. So, so it's an interest. You know, I've actually got that quote on my wall because it's so, so amazing. How you do one thing how you do everything. It's so simple, but the more you think about it, the more is true. You know, it's such a simple quote. It is quite powerful, one of them it it really is, man it really you know, I found this personally speaking as well, because I'm big and, just like you are, big into my fitness, health, etc. Now I've found the times in my life where my diets gone out the window. You know, I'm meeting, I'm eating the Jung Foos, I'm drinking the soft drink. So I'm going out most nights. Blahah Blah. Since I've slipped off that one channel, I also find that I slip off the rest. So, like my work, my work becomes less effective, my concentration, my ability to socialize becomes less effective just because of this one area. You know so very much, very much, how easy one thing as how you do everything. I love it. I love it. It's very true. then. I mean it's, I could dominant sect almost, is what you said, because I fid times where. I mean, like happen sometimes, you know, and it's just getting back onto about that treadmill, so to be. I mean I I had a breakol my girlfriend for a week. I didn't work out anything for a week, and when you come back, feel like Christmas in it. You know. Yeah, great, you have that break and you come back into the routine. Yeah, and Christ like you say, it does impact on different things, like because it feels good if you have a break and you eat the things that you push on all the yeah, in it can impact, if like a dominant effect, example, when you're in more of a positive emotional state. You know, that carries through to word, that comes through to going out, Tory's through to all these other things. It's like a ripple effect exactly, and it's, you know, a spot on with the ripple effect, by the way, because you know what what you give outcomes back to. So the more you know is very much a loop. So the more positivity you give out, the more comes back and the more people positively respond to you and therefore the more you're positive. But you know so. So is a very intricate loop. So that's also why it's quite hard to get into the loop in the first place, the positively, because when you're when you, for example, negative, you'll find that you're getting a negative results and be negative responses. So again, it works in the cybernetic loop. So it's hard to break out of this loop initially. But I heard this from the dog whisper, actually from the funny enough. You know, you change the behavior gradually and then the personality change follows. So in in other words, you perform the behaviors even if your personality doesn't like it. You may find some resistance in those areas, but after time, after a certain amounts of time,...

...those habits will be in grains and that personality trait will now be part of you, you know, integrated in your personality. So so it's very it's very interesting and you know that's that's why it's difficult for people to get started. You know, I'm calling a spade a spade here. It is shit just starting to try to get productive because because you haven't built you haven't built that foundation yet. You haven't built the neural pathways that make it comfortable, that make it a flow in process. That's that's why, for example, can remember what book it is in, but because it mastery or Robert Great? I don't know. But in any case, that's why, you know, it takes between five and ten years to get mastery at something, because you have to build the routine. You can't just you can't just expect to jump into something and it be easy. That's not how the human mind works. Is Man is that it's designed to take a lot of energy to begin with. Its designed to do that because over time you'll become more efficient at it, more capable of performing it for longer durations. You know, that's why languages are so difficult. That's why not? Many people stick to guitar or instruments. That's why form in these new habits is so uncommon. That's why you'll see most people just caught in that, as you say, treadmill routine. It's just easier. It's easier that way. I'll just Tryda, I mean completely late what you're saying. Yeah, hundred percent, hundred and ten, and I think it's a lot easier to just can't you know, being your comforts, and that's what kind of like comfort zones and my yeah, it's a great one. Me Mediocrity. I mean, I understand that. You know the people out there doing certain jobs. I mean if but it's like, you know, people, if you love what you do, then do that. Yeah, being a Bush driver and you love what you do, then that's great. You know, that's what you love, that's what makes you happy. Yeah, and that's what it's all about it, you know, it's not comparing yourself. Are Looking out at what your next door neighbors doing, all your friends doing, and thinking I've got to do what they're doing exactly. And, like you said, with people, don't stick to things as the hardest stick two things. Yeah, I mean I think it an example is like like starting out things, isn't it? Well, actually, I mean if about this podcast, like you know, and yeah, this is like the raw foundations of it is yeah, yeah, that the later. Yeah, and like some people could might do five episodes or six episodes and go are I'm not getting enough people. I'm not going to Goo followers or whatever and then give up because I'm not going back to like delay gratification and if things take time. Exactly. Yeah, but you know, like Joe Rogan, he said on one of his podcasts, like I wanted it early one. Yeah, that when he started I had like twenty five followers or two hundred followers, like, you know, what the Hell? And exactly not, as there were friends that it's not about how many listeners you get as about who this still it exactly and as well as that, I feel like. I feel like if you know, you know, and this comes back to the marketing, my marketing back on a little bit, but you know, if you know that you're giving out value, if you know that you're helping people, that you cut, that you actually relaying things that have helped you in the past or you're providing value or anything like that, if you know that the content is quality, then you know it's best to keep consistent with it because you know eventually you'll reach your audience. So I think that's the problem with these people who are just starting out on, say, podcasts, on social media, youtube videos or that type of thing, or, you know, even even just sort of marketing themselves as creative. Can you like a distance, because yeah, I mean that's often. That's been a big learning curve for myself. It's being consistent and Stickham of stuff. And exactly. Guy was dry. I was driving around, truthy, over then I trying to find a parking space by I'm in street with a spear through. Yeah, and I've usually pay for parking't make...

...sound ready or yeah, I would pay parking. I don't think I put on Lemon. On certain street you can park for free after a certain time. Yeah, and then were most spaces on that you know with a theater. I yeah, and I drove up and up and around and I went to another street and and I went back to where the feater is. I was looking for a space, a heart, nice spaces, come on, hmm. And there was one space and I was live so tight even from my small car. Yeah, and I was like, you know what, I'm just going to pay for parking. So I don't pay the six pound level. Yeah, but then someone call went out and there was a gap. Yeah, but I kind of thought afterwards, like when I part in the space, I've been consistent there. Yeah, that's true. I know it's a really basic example. No, no, but it's just true that were a hundred percent and I thought like you know what, you know, you consistent, you keep at something, you'll get that result exactly. And you know, let's say, for example, someone else was in the same position as you, like. You know, if, for example, they haven't trained their ability to be consistent, they probably would have taken one look at those parking spaces and be like that, fuck that, I'm going to pay for parking. You know, I mean, you know, so they hadn't. So what I'm trying to say it's like you, you obviously manifested that that space to come into play. It sounds quite better, but you know, if it's problet, please. But then it kind of that you're over narrative. I think in your mind you look at things differently than you like. Yeah, I went out, stopped talking about driving them. I went like who Casco, Car Park Park, the test come. Yeah, and then all these gaps and car and cars going straight all the way down and looping Rye and going out. I just row straight through the empty car parks based in the problem, the spar so they're going all the way around. Yeah, I just saw my opportunity and then went through it. Oh my God. You know what, I'm so glad you for all that, because I find that, and this is this is quite interesting on along the topic of what we're discussing, because I find that pack mentality is very rife in this society and you know, as you're saying earlier, going back in its cave and days when obviously everyone was knocking around it in that cost for protection. Now, that that provides both benefits and drawbacks, and the benefits were a lot heavier when you are fighting like Saber Tooth Tigers. But now in this society that pack mentality is actually quite dangerous. So, for example, let's let's bring it back to truro again. You know that West Bank, for example, you see you see maybe three four people ques up outside that at a time, right, and then someone else will join the queue because they've got that pack of mentality. They'll just think, okay, there's a que there, that's where the cash point is. But but no one will be thinking individually enough to be like, I'll just literally walk into these doors and use the cashpoint inside. It's in. So I it. I honestly, I'm not being traumatic here. This happens every time. No one can really switch on that think for themselves mentality. Everyone's in the sort of autopilot zone. You know which is which is, which is a strange reality really, because it's like when you're performing at an auto pilots free sequence, you know, difference from like a game, NPC, like you know and and and Ai, who's just program to respond. And then it comes back to that cause and effect sequence again. You know, if you're thinking that you're the effect, you know better than an AI and a game. This is, yeah, what I'm trying to say. So so, yeah, I feel very strongly about that, of course, but equally I can understand that people go through different things that allow them to have these certain beliefs and I completely understand that. But you know, I also want people to understand those particular people, that there are people in the world who can control their emotions. So it's no, you know, yeah, it's time. It's time to really really get a grip society. Yes, go, yeah,...

...yeah, but anyways, what we saying. So you do U Sawt of talk about this topic like a yeah, yeah, I mean, I've got I've got to wrap things up around half seven. So, yeah, that gives us sometimes, isn't it? Yeah, of course, certainly. Yeah, fine, awesome, awesome answer what we're about to say. But I think as well, I where somewhere in a position where we haven't really gone the kids, kids that we you know, I don't think we call the kids anyway. Who I hope. So, yeah, we've got time and, I think, certain advantages over some people. You have meant to absolutely living, you know, in quite a like cormal, to think about certain things. For Yeah, other people out there got kids and mortgage. Well, you know, even though people are any situations with him ither, you know, jobs, don't like mortgage, kids, certain things like ties and commitment. Yeah, the mine. I feel happy. You know, you still got that thing ability to keep take control your thinking, to look into the kind of things that will be talking about exactly exactly. You know, doesn't really matter what age or situation, in a hundred percent. So you know, and and this is the thing, you know, when I have this conversation with with I'd pretty much say most people, there's always, always, always, an excuse why they can't do it, why they can't operate at an optimum by being in control. There's always, you know, our this happens, I'm not happy, and there's all there's always an excuse. Now this, this is dangerous and you know this. This is actually something I look for in terms of recruitments as well, for the restaurants, for example, or for the marketing agency. Is the so, yeah, what I look for. A question I ask myself is, is this person taking responsibility for their actions, or are they blaming external now, this is this is for me. This, for me, has been the game changer, because I think that's my definition of the grown up actually, is the ability to take responsibility for yourself. Essentially, now, if, for example, you didn't get up in the morning because your alarm clock didn't go off, you can't come in and tell me that you're alarm clock didn't come up. So as a viable answer as to why you're let now. Now I understand. I understand that they can be accidents and I understand that the circumstances can play out in a certain way, that things are to your control, but you can always keep things aligned in control. So, for example, if you know you're got to be up in the morning and if you know that you're alarm clock is prone to not working, maybe go to sleep a little bit earlier. You know, that's that's one that's one example, but it is a quite a vague example. Following that, but I guess the key takeaway is when I see someone taking responsibility for their actions, when I see someone owning up to their mistakes, then I know that this person is genuine and I think that's a good base line to operate from. You know. Yeah, and I think it's like if you see the business as your business, if you see as yours, if you had someone in your workplace a business, yeah, who is making excuses, if then gonna have an in negative impact on your business, on your money time, and it's a bit like, you know, a dominant effects and we know we've both seen it in a hospitality. You know exactly exactly. It's like just getting thicker dynamite in there. And it would go on and then you know a hundred percent man and see, the main issue with this as well is that if I see someone not taking responsibility, I know that the same problem will happen in again, because they're not. They're not say it to themselves right, I'm the problem here. Let elaborate on a solution. Instead, they just fixated on the problem of external you know, and that's dangerous. That's a dangerous place to be when, when you're in a position like that, you know. So I think the main thing, the main takeaway of what I'm trying to say here is, you know, understanding internal and external and the relationship...

...between them. If you if you know that, you will not react, or if you know how to keep your control emotions in check, then you're a good baseline. A if there's knowing that you're in control and the emotions aren't in control, you you have exact grabold of the rain, exactly, mad, exactly. That's that for me, is what I'm striving for and that's what I recommend everyone strive for as well, you know, because you'll find that the positive behaviors will flow from that. You know, you'll start to manifest more easily because they'll be less in the way for you. So yeah, I mean it's all fascinating stuff, you know, you just just you know, I'm just like you're in the sense that I literally this type of stuff. I could talk about for hours. I mean, honestly, about now, fifteen minutes now, and you know, feel about five minutes. It really does. Yeah, I mean and that you know that in some sense, like you know, you know that it's a passion of both of us to be on this certain topic, because it if I lose myself in the topic and I'm flowing just talking, then I know that actually is something I should be doing more because I enjoy it, you know. Yeah, and it and it's not bring into the table and unproductive energy. This is actually, you know, it's actually stimulating for both of us to be getting these idea, ideas out on the table and therefore reinforcing them in our neural network as well. Yeah, and that, you know, helping other people understand certain things you know and you're given. So you putting something positive out there what people can take coming from, and it's exactly there's going. Yeah, sure, I'm going to use that. Yeah, yeah, that's what is about, isn't it? Yeah, again and all that a hundred percent, man. And what I was going to say to just add on to that, was we're talking with congruency, like we're performing the actions, and when we do that we put out a certain energy that those listeners at home can be like, Oh, you know, they're actually performing the actions, maybe I should listen, and then it turns on a subconscious switch where they're more receptive to the information. So, you know, I love I love the fact that we can express els's freely because it does help the listeners at home and understanding clearer. You know really, I mean, we'll definitely do more of these. Absolutely look forward to it. Yeah, doing in person as well. And what what would you like to finish on? Any any quotes or any firm kind of that's a great question, man. I mean I guess, I guess what the key takeaway from me from this whole conversation really is, you know, sort of master your mind and you master reality. So if you're having trouble with your life in any area, return to yourself, return to your center, focus on your breathing and let positive actions flow to you, because positivity will be returned as a result. Now, that's all you need to know. That's actually all you need to know in life to get to a positive location. You know, give up positive energy, get it back in return tenfold. But don't, and he's here, is where I tripped over in initially. Just because you give out positive energy, don't expect it to be reciprocated straight away. Do not have an expectation of receiving positive energy once you give it out. Now, that is called unconditional love at actually, and that is the highest platform to operate from. So opera, operate from a place of any you know. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, exactly, exactly, in a nutshell. And Yeah, as you say, it's plenty more topics we're going to be discussing soon. I can't wait, man, I can't wait. Yeah, now, of course we'll definitely get it. Thoughts recent man, I appreciate you being on it. I've been on a positivity podcast. My pleasure. You're very, very humble, very grateful. Thank you, my friend that thank you for having me on, and it is great to have it's great to have someone who I can express to everyone, you know, the positive thoughts and the journey that we have, and I hope, I hope the listeners at home, you know, had something to take away from this. I really do because, yeah, it's a fun journey, this life life thing, but all in it together, exactly, man. So thank you so much for me on and yeah, we'll chat toe my friend. Yeah, of course, you have a good night to take it easy. Thank you...

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